So there is this guy i like but we dont seem to be clicking...i mean we do sometimes but then others we just dont have anything to say and he gives me mixed signals and one minute i think he likes me and the next i have NO IDEA how he feels....im so confused and I don't know what to do...he is a GREAT guy and i want things to work out...i've talked to him about how i feel but he said hes not sure what he wants right now so i told him i'd give him time to figure it out...But i just hate how he gets so weird with me sometimes...i want to have fun with him and be friends for hte meantime...i dont know if i should flirt with him or how i should start convo when things are dead...i don't want to scare him away...what are some ways to hold onto this guy and get him to like me back? PLEASE give me suggestions!!!
2007-09-14 19:52:16 · 11 answers · asked by Bhow423 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Based upon your assesment of this situation, I think that you would do well to simply back off for a little while. All you can do is be a friend without pushing and let him decide what he wants/needs. Unfortunately, nobody can make someone like them. So, back off (but don't give him the so-called "cold shoulder)...all I am saying is to stop trying so hard. Hard to do, and I am just as guilty of doing that same thing when I wanted something to work. He will decide what he wants. As for starting convo...sometimes silence is actually a good thing. Just be a friend and be there for him and let things go where they may. If it turns out that he isn't "into" you...well, that hurts, and I know it from experience but it isn't the end of the world. Good luck. Let me know how things go if you want....john_r820@yahoo.com
2007-09-22 16:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by john 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone like you. Either this guy will come around or he won't. I would not recommend flirting at this point because it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants...perhaps he enjoys getting attention from you, but I would hate to see you get hurt by getting your hopes up when he's still confused.
Until he figures out what he wants and makes it clear, you should probably try to just see and treat him as a friend...maybe even avoid him if you can't do that. If you come on too strong before he is ready, you very well may scare him away.
Good luck!
2007-09-14 20:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Janineisacoolsouthernchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The story of my life, I am in the same situation at this time, from my own experience, I will suggest to stop the flirting for a while (ex. Couple Weeks), star getting your act together and focus yourself it what you want (how he can like you if you are a mess?). Start treating him like you would treat any of your other "straight" friends (don't put the world in a plate for him, at least not yet), and as somebody else suggested, try to avoid him once in a while (I know this part it's hard to accomplish, but you can do it). When he notices the change in you, he would start wondering what happened and will shift some of his attention to you, when you notice this, then you can start flirting with him, but in a very discrete way (a lot of guys like that, not all of them thou). At this point you already told him that you like him and he hasn't told you "NO" completely and that in itself it's really good , be smart and learn to respect any limitations that he may establish (ex. being discrete, without telling everybody, show him that he can trust you and keep it to yourself). The best way to hold on to him it's being honest and telling him that his friendship it's important to you above all.
Patience will also help a lot.
A lot of people will tell you to forget about him, that you are just wasting your time, that it's not worth it, well, I would say not to listen to that people. He makes you feel what other people don't understand or even imagine. You answer to yourself, Do I want to forget about him? is it worth it? and if he makes you feel that special, I would say GO FOR IT!!, trust me on that one, you don't want to get older and start thinking what you didn't do in your life and he would be the first to pop in your mind.
2007-09-14 21:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, u can't retain a guy that probably deep down doesn't like you. I think it's better if you give him his space and wait to see what happens...
Like they say "Love isn't easy, but a mountain full of pain!" so just try to stay optimistic and hopefully things work out.
I also think that he might be just playing around with your feelings, but that's for u to know b/c i don't know him. So, you have to make good judgement. like think is this the guy i want to be with..the guy that will always be there for me when i need him and help me in my problems....
Just make good judgement...that's all i can really tell you.... GOOD LUCk!!! (^_^)
2007-09-14 20:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Maria ☮ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like this guy may not be into you as much as you are into him, i would back off a little bit and give him space and time. There are other guys out there, if this doesn't work out like you want it too! You can still be his friend!!
2007-09-19 21:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by ziggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be pushy. Give him some space and allow for nature to take it's course. If he has feelings for you he will let you know. If not by leaving some distance it will be easier for you to let it go. No matter how great a person is, if they don't return your feelings you cannot change that.
2007-09-22 07:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Gina, i'm Filipino and that i probable have Spanish blood in me and that i'm a million/8 chinese language, yet i certainly evaluate myself all Filipino through fact i do no longer understand any chinese language kinfolk (my great-grandpa is comprehensive chinese language and he went to the Philippines and married my great-grandma, consequently my grandpa is 0.5 chinese language, yet he replaced into no longer uncovered to chinese language custom). i'm purely quite related to Filipino custom.
2016-10-08 21:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by jabaut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are wasting your time with him, there is no way to make anyone like you. just settle for friendship
2007-09-22 08:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.You can't make any one like you.Wouldn't that be a waste of time?They have to prove their love to you.
2007-09-14 20:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
you should see a therapist to control your urges
2007-09-14 19:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by center of the universe 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋