My Son and girls?

Question

My son is friends with a number of girls besides his male friends .He is in his first year of high school and there- for at the age where kids are thinking of boyfriends and girlfriends.Is there any advice I can or should give him? He is very kind ,intellegent and sensitive and a loyal friend. Any wise advise will be welcome.

mr crazy,he is only 13!

Answer 1

Tell him to remember to be himself. The worst thing boys can do at this age is try and follow what they think is cool. Gentle reminders about manners, and how he should always respect HIMSELF as well as any girl he wants to date should help him on his way. And remind him he doesn't have to rush into things, it's not a race!

Answer 2

I would suggest you educate him on safe sex. You can tell him to abstain all you want, but more than likely, it's going to happen at some point during his High School days. At least if he is educated, he has the knowledge to make wise choices pertaining to sex. Also talk to him about drugs and alcohol. There are a lot of guys in high school who are into both of that and the girls go crazy over them because they're the "bad boys". From the way you describe your son, he seems like a very decent boy, so hopefully he won't feel as though he needs to be like the rest of the jerks to get a girl.

Answer 3

So he allready knows sex is a no-no until marage Im assuming. and beacuse he is kind and intellegent and sensitive I assume he is respectfull of ladies as well, my advice is to make sure he shows maners at all times, even at school. (I wouldnt think anything of it but I allways would hold a door for a girl even if she was like 10 feet away still) thats just cuz it was in me to do it. Encourage him too, its us kind, intellegent, sensitive ones who get the (your more of a friend and I dont want to ruin that, but any girl would be lucky to have a guy half as good as you) line thrown at them.
he might not even want to date, I never thought it was that big of a deal honestly, outside the two-three times I heard that line.
Just let him know if he likes someone, he should tell them about it and not hide it, beacuse he can never know untill he steps out.
Make sure his mind stays pure, I mean a guy with hormones going, even with best intensions and have high morals and convections and follow God with all my heart (im talking me here) Still every once in a while when Im with a friend that I really like (and not sexualy cuz thats lust and is just crap and your son needs to be tought the defrience too.) Thoughts will enter my head and my eyes though 96% trained still has that small present that they will look wrong and a thought will grow.
Thats the way our bodies work. But he needs to learn to stop that process when it starts so it dosent turn into lust or go further.

And thats not just if hes a christian or not, thats just part of the respect and true love thing.

Also, if she likes you, its beacuse you are you, dont change for her or to be with her, dont change her ither, any one of those happens, it aint worth it.
have fun together doing things both of you enjoy and to spoil her rotten beacuse every girl (low matnince or not) needs that beacuse it is what they deserve.

hope I helped I know its long.

Answer 4

The best advice would be to just be himself and have fun. Don't let the high school drama get to him!

I was so lucky in high school to have several close guy friends. They would openly tell me how they felt about me and when I (stupidly) turned them down, they didn't let it affect our friendship. While I was busy being interested in the 'popular jerks' they were always there willing to talk to me about my love life and problems. They were better friends than my girl friends! Eventually I realized I was after the wrong type of guy and that my guy friends were my type. Of course some of them got married and moved away but we are still great friends (after over 7 years!). And I am happy to say I have been with one of my close guy friends for over a year now!

Answer 5

When my sons were that age, I always encouraged socialising outside of school with both girls and boys, which included sleep-overs at girls' home in cases where I knew the parents.

It sounds like he already has a healthy respect for girls, so just make sure he has a good knowledge of his own body as well as sexuality in general.

Answer 6

The normal talks of cause you know like drugs, sex and alcohol but just cause he is friends with alot of girls does not mean anything . It is possible just to be friends with the opposite sex.

Answer 7

I think the most important subjects are drugs and having sex.Talk to him about girls getting pregnant.Let him know how it can happen the first time.I mean it takes one intercourse to get pregnant.Tell him about diseases.Tell him it takes one time of trying any drug,to get hooked for life.Tell him what it will do to him.Just make sure he is comfortabel with you.He can tell you anything.I know it's hard,but try your best to get him to share things with you and at the same time try to be his parent.He has friends already.

Answer 8

I have always told my boys to be respectful.
you need to have the birds and bees talk, instill in him not to use girls, and you better be in love with them, because if they get pregnant they will be in your life forever. and don't forget to do the birth control talk, stds etc.
I went to the health dept. got a bag of condoms and a pamphlet on are you ready to be a father? they got the message,
Respect for others and himself is most important

Answer 9

explain to him about respecting girl and not having sex also let him know its important to be a good listener and a good friend

Answer 10

buy him condoms