Ok im 4 months pregnant and i know its early to start worrying about what to do buti cant help it. My ex stopped talking to me about a month and a half ago. I dont want him to have anything to do with the baby because i finally relised hes no good and i just could not bare the thought of my child having to be living the lifestyle hes ok with. This is his 9th maybe 10th child. I know i know theres more to it but i really dont need any smart answers. He has 3 baby mommas and i gave him a chance thinking he had changed he was my first bf but anyways. Is it possible to get him to sign his parental rights over and still get child support? He doesnt pay for any of the others but because the women dont ask for it. Any advice on what to do? Im just trying to move on with my life but i will need financial help.
2007-09-14 18:36:05 · 21 answers · asked by Ally 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If he has no rights he is not accountable for anything. Get a lawyer sweetie
2007-09-14 18:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by BrandyJo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i see people making comments about abortion...HELLO SHE DID STATE SHES 4 MONTHS, GET A GRIP...anyhowm I do think you made a mistake but you already know that so I will not lecture you...10 kids and 3 baby mommas...hmmm, i'd say go to court and petition for a DNA test, if thats his baby he HAS TO HELP YOU FINANCIALLY...but you say you dont want him in the babies life because of his lifestyle, so I assume hes into illegal action...if he gives up his parental rights, hes not financially obligated to that child anymore...however you did state that he has 10 other children, so what are the chances of him even WANTING to be in this babies life like that, in the first place...If I were you I would focus on getting child support...the court will order him to get a job within 30 days if he doesnt have a job, if 30 days comes and he still doesnt have a jon they moght give him another extentision but then eventually he'll be looking at time in jail...ive seen this happen to plenty men...but call your local court house and take it from there, they'll tell you what you have to do in a more formative way...
2007-09-15 01:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by mommybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you can collect if he waives his rights. But, I would definately be asking for child support. Certain states make it mandatory for him to pay child support regardless if he does or doesn't play Daddy. You can make him pay the child support and if you can prove he's an unsafe Father, he could lose visitations altogether. It's totally dependant on the laws in your state. Az, I lived there. One of the toughest Child support laws in the country. Your choices are, pay it or go to jail. It is done through the court system so if he defaults, a warrant goes out and he has to pay it or take a stint in Tent City. You wouldn't have any say and neither would he. It would be best to see an attorney. In the long run, it may be the best thing to do.
2007-09-15 01:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Carol T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that he does not pay cause they dont ask you are in for a seriously rough ride. I would suggest that you ask him to terminate parental rights just based on the lifestyle. No amount of money in the world could convince me to expose my child to an obvious looser such as this one. Sorry to be so blunt but you probably need it. You can find financial help elsewhere...public assistance has been fine for serval other women that I have met...use it get an education and make your life and your childs life the best that you can...all without the dirtbag!
2007-09-15 03:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by akhoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are state programs that will help you financially. Don't count on child support but you can always take him to court later on... he'll end up in jail and you will still end up with no child support. Call your local health department to find out where to go for financial help. By the way, what the hell were you thinking hooking up with a guy who has like 9 kids anyway??? Use this mistake as a learning tool to never hook up with a low life like that ever again.
2007-09-15 01:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you should see someone who can give you legal advise, someone in that profession. Which I am not, but if you want him to pay child support I know here is south carolina they get to keep partial parental rights. If he was to sign them all over you would get nothing.. Like I said thats according to South Carolina. You probably need to check into the laws in your state. You can get full custody of the child though. Also you can apply for WIC which is a state thing. It's like food stamps but not really. It's only for children and pregnant women. They will help by giving you money for healthy food and milk and all while you are pregnant. That would help out a little. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-09-15 01:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Megan B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will NEVER see a cent from this jerk. Get yourself a lawyer. If you have no money, call a lawyer and ask where the nearest legal aide is.
I won't tell you how stupid you were either. JUST DON"T DO IT AGAIN! The child is the thing to focus on now. Get that legal help! And you might contact the other mothers of his children and team up with them against him. He needs to be neutered like the dog he is. Good luck to you miss.
2007-09-15 01:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you should have known that if he had 8or 9 kids before you that it's not going to stop. Why on earth would you think he would change? I doubt he wants to have anything to do with this child. You should go for child support right away. It's the only way he is going to stop doing what he is doing. he would have stopped at his 5th kid if he had to pay child support for all of those children.
As for you...what about your parents for help? If you can't get child support then get welfare and he'll still end up having to pay.
2007-09-15 01:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you KNEW he had 9-10 kids and you slept with him anyway UNMARRIED? Was it good for you? I hope so, because those few minutes will be the ONLY pleasant memories you will have for a long long time. If he signs away his parental RIGHTS, he is also relieved of his parental RESPONSIBILITIES, unless he voluntarily agrees to pay child support. With 10 kids by many mommas and no sense of responsibilities, what do you think are the chances of that happening?
2007-09-15 01:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I honestly don't know much about child support or how to answer your questions on the financial issues. I just wanted to say thank you for choosing life and it sounds like you are trying to do the right thing which is great. Just some encouragement your way!!
2007-09-15 01:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by 4Heaven 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just don't put his name on the birth certificate and when you go to get financial help they'll do a dna test standard procedure to make sure it's his and then the money will be taken out of his pay check and sent to you even before he sees it and you'll have no prob unless he fights for rights but he wont win as long as he's unstable like you say he is..good luck and congrats
2007-09-15 01:44:41 · answer #11 · answered by Samantha P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋