(i feel like I ask so many questions..haha)
But really. I'm pregnant with my 2nd boy. My mother and sister said they aren't throwing me another baby shower because it's "etiquette" that you only get one. What the heck. My first son was born in the summer, this time I'm due on Christmas Eve. None of the previous clothes will fit him at the appropriate times. I still have the big things like high chair, crib, etc... but I have NOTIHNG else.
Is this true everywhere?!
2007-09-14 18:02:35 · 14 answers · asked by His Lady 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had 3 pregnancy 4 kids the last pregnancy was with twins and I had baby showers for all of them. In my second pregnancy I had 2 baby showers, one my bestfriend did it for me and the other my mother in law.
2007-09-14 18:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What does etiquette have to do with anything this day in age? Celebrate all of your kids. And just like you said, you need stuff for the baby that's on the way. A new trend in baby showers is to have a "baby sprinkle" for all kids after the firstborn. The idea is to still celebrate the new baby, but to not buy as many gifts because you most likely got a lot of stuff at your baby shower. This way, you can still recognize the birth of the baby without having to once again ask all your friends and family for gifts.
2007-09-18 15:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by West 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what people say. I don't believe there is really any etiquette to baby showers..... I know plenty of people who have had more than one child and gotten a shower with each. In fact, just last summer I went to a cousin's, she was having her 3rd son and since she didn't really need alot of clothes or what not, they called it a Baby Sprinkle and everyone got practical gifts that everyone needs like diapers and what not. A birth of a child is something that should be celebrated, not questioned.... I see no harm in having a second shower. Maybe someone else like a friend will throw you one?
2007-09-14 18:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sharpie211 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no set rule about baby showers. It is up to friends/family that is giving the shower.
I would think that having a baby of the opposite sex (or multiples) would be more likely to get a shower the second time around.
The other option that you have would be to host a more informal gathering, celebrating your upcoming arrival. Or wait until after the baby is born and host a meet the baby party.
I am sure that you will still receive gifts from friends and family, they just will not be given at the same time.
You can still register to be able to give people that are looking for ideas.
Good luck on your impending arrival!!
2007-09-14 18:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kimm W 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mom and sister are right. It's proper etiquette to just have a baby shower for the first born child.
I also have two boys who are opposite seasons...one was a spring baby, the other is a fall baby. Any warmer clothes we needed for our youngest we just purchased ourselves.
However, I did feel like I wanted to celebrate my son's arrival with my family and close friends regardless of "etiquette" so I approached my sister about the idea of a "no-gifts" baby shower. She was totally on board, we just made sure to clearly specify "NO GIFTS" in the invitations, served appetizers, cake and punch, and played shower games all afternoon :) it was a great time and now both of my boys can look in their baby books and see photos of the family excitedly anticipating their arrival!
2007-09-14 18:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traditional etiquette used to be that baby showers were only for a first baby. That has largely changed, and now showers are common for 2nd, 3rd, and 4th babies as well (and more!) I personally think every baby deserves to be celebrated with a baby shower, and I don't hesitate to attend a "repeat" shower. I've even thrown several myself for friends who were expecting "subsequent" babies, 2 who were expecting #4.
2007-09-15 05:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Diaper Cakewalk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow.
Yes, it's customary to only get one shower. And lots of people don't even get that. Folks don't OWE you stuff just because you're having a baby!
I'm betting that friends and family will end up giving you gifts after the baby is born, and if you put out the word that you're looking for clothes, I'll bet you get inundated.
You're all set for the big, expensive items, so count your blessings.
2007-09-14 18:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Yarro Pilz 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I've heard the same thing as your mother and sister. Unless someone offers to give you a baby shower, you'll have to buy some things yourself.
Not exactly related, but I had half hoped my friends would give me a bridal shower, since none of them could go to the one my mom gave me (in a different state). But I never said anything about it. And it was less about gifts, and more about the party. 80)
2007-09-14 18:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sorry that your family is being so mean. I had 2 showers for my first baby. I have had one for my 2nd already, and my sister in law is planing a "meet the baby" shower for after he is born. Any baby is a reason to celebrate, not just the first one.
2007-09-14 18:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by parental unit 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Generally yes 1 baby shower is the accepted norm unless the kids are years and years apart (5 or more)
It is not up to your friends and family to cloth your children
Good luck
2007-09-14 18:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by Finchy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋