Why is my love for freedom get in the way of totally commiting myself..... is there a way to compromise?
2007-09-14 15:25:49 · 26 answers · asked by enki 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Love doesn't choose. Love just is. It's humans that decide to either embrace love or run from it. Loving freedom is just a version of loving yourself. Not that there's anything wrong with that. But at some point, you may find you love someone else as much or more than you love yourself. Then the commitment thing won't seem like a choice. It will just be.
2007-09-15 14:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by c'mon, cliffy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to take the second question. If your love for freedom is getting in the way of totally committing yourself, there could be any number of reasons. A simple one would be that you aren't yet ready for commitment. You may feel that the person you love wouldn't allow your freedom. There may be other under-lying feelings that actually have nothing to do with freedom, but with the person.
There is no love, or worthy relationship that doesn't mutually give each other the freedom to be themselves, & have their "space" when they need it.
There are also people who require much more freedom than another can accept. The "spiritual" wanderers, (especially very creative people). I'm trying to remember a quote from an artist in The Frist Circle, who states in essence, that once a man has a passion, there is no room for any other passion. I don't agree with this "absolute" concept, but I've known people of whom this was true.
Choosing freedom over commitment is a very personal choice, & not knowing the unspoken elements in your question, I'd just suggest some introspection. It's wonderful the journeys we can take, & the insights gained when we dip deeply into our well.
2007-09-14 19:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is about making babies. In order to raise a family there has to be a huge commitment. You do have to give up most of your freedom, as the children will always be more important than the parents, especially the father. Love does not require a commitment. But a lasting commitment does require Love.
2007-09-15 03:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by phil8656 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a free spirit person, or so I am told, I do not like anyone to tell me what to do, so i just do what is good for me and my Family, do not get me wrong, I can listen to someone trying to convince me of something they want me to do, for instance my Husband, but it is up to me to do it. So, I would say that Love chooses Freedom over Commitment in my Book. You asked if is there a way to compromise, I would say that it is up to the individual to decide.
2007-09-16 05:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you just are not ready to settle down. Make a commitment, as the song goes...so many places to see and so many women to love. Sometimes the love we feel for someone is truly love, but is not what is the kind that drives you to make a commitment and know that a commitment never destroys our freedom.
enki...I have been married to the same man since I was 20...I am a free spirit he has never made me feel like I was caged or trapped, I have earned three degrees in my life time, been all over the USA, paint and have my own business. Entertain, and am extremely politically active, I am a professional story teller, I play the violin, cello, and organ. I have never in my life felt his sting of jealously and in turn, I have never tied him down, never told him he had to stay, only that I expected him to meet his responsibility towards me and the kids. Life has not been roses, matter of fact Jim and I laugh that people don't understand...that its the hard times that make the good times so worth living and experiencing together. Never fear committing for it is in the very act of doing... that you are set free!
Loving someone never means you have to give up anything, for in the very act of finding that someone, the commitment is natural and the freedom to fly is even greater.
2007-09-14 16:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it just means that you are not ready to commit yet, though perhaps you will be in a few years. You can't really force the situation at this point. When it gets to the point where your freedom to date widely seems like nothing compared to having the chance to develop a permanent relationship with that one very special person through your love and commitment, then you'll know you are ready.
2007-09-15 05:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are truly in love commitment won't really be an issue. Love is about commitment but it is also about freedom, when you love somebody you can give them the space that they need ans vice versa. when two people are in love they will both work hard to please the other . In your situation you will be willing to commit more and they will be willing to let you have more freedom, meeting on equal and balanced ground. Don't give up hope there is someone right for you and you will know when it happens as stupid as it sounds you will just know.
2007-09-14 15:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by fire and ice 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Love is love, it will ever choose its freedom to love as long as the freedom to express your love to a person is attained. It will never bother to think of commitment unless he wins the heart of aperson. Commitment will follow later once you have entered and tied to the holy sacrament of matrimony. Actually it is not the love that is tied up but the commitment you meade because of marriage. Compromise to love another person is a big no no to your partner. For better and for worst, you have to abide by the commitment you have vowede and ntered into because you are now One in the eyes of the community and in God.
2007-09-14 16:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Third P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love doesn't choose anything..you choose freedom or commitment. Love is just the guide. If your love is strong enough you make the commitment, if your love isn't strong enough to see it through then you're not ready for the commitment. Jmho. And my compromise....just live together! lol!
2007-09-14 18:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by G=ME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't choose. People do and of course they can be under the influence of a decent flow of love energy but even the ones with a restricted flow of love energy still create. One can also use the freedom to choose commitment or not. I hate to say it to such an experienced questioner, but imo this one is quite flawed, you sneaky devil. Cheers!
2007-09-17 13:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋