What Do You Think About Spanking?

Question

Is it a good deterrent to bad behavior? Were you spanked as a child by your parents? signficant other?

Answer 1

I think parents should be allowed to spank their children. Nowadays people are becoming crazy about correctness.

Answer 2

Good question.
I believe spanking is a good idea if used sparingly. Don't spank for minor things, but for REALLY major offenses, such as running out into the street. A better deterrent for a young child is reminding them of the rules, redirecting them or removing them from the problem area. As a child gets older you can use natural consequences, such as if a child stands on a chair and falls down, comfort the child first, but then let them know that falling is what happens when you climb on chairs. No need to spank him then, he's already learned a lesson. A simple slap on the back of the hand with 2 fingers works well for a young child if they are doing something wrong.
I was spanked (BEAT) by my father. I guess that is why I don't like spanking.

Answer 3

When I was younger I did get spanked. In some ways it is hypocritical, but because we teach children not to hit, and then we hit them. And it also matters what you feel when you hit them, are you angry so you kind of lash out, or is it truly for the purpose of punishment. I think that all other methods of discipline should be used first, I am sure there is something better someone can do from spanking. But really I don't think spanking is child abuse worthy, it is just not the best way to discipline in my option. But to each is there own. I do think a belt would be a bit to far though :/

Answer 4

It depends on the child. My daughter was deterred by spanking. My son is not so much. As a matter of fact he just tried to unplug the computer again.lol I was spanked as a child. Hand, wooden spoons, other cooking utensils, backs of brushes or whatever was available.lol I was scared of my mom for sure. When she said to go do something, I did it.

My significant other does spank me but has a completely different meaning behind it.lol
No really though, he believes in spanking and he wasn't spanked as a child. I think that's why he chooses to implement that type of discipline now. He was rotten.lol

Answer 5

Well think of it like this. When you spank a child your telling them that this is how you as an adult deal with the negative behavior. I have never spanked. EVER! If spanking actually worked, you would only have to spank ONE time. I see parents spank their kids out in public...because the child touched something - not a reason to haul off and spank your kid. I don't get involved, unless someone is beating the living crap out of their kid, ABUSE. I was spanked as a child, I had the belt, wooden kitchen spoons, rulers, the paddle, pretty much anything my mom could grab. But really, spanking is not going to solve anything but show your child that this is okay to do - HIT someone because they angered you. I'm sure that there are some people that will argue this, I'm sure there will be crude answers.
If your child has done something wrong and you spank, this also is sending a message to your child - hey, I am not going to go to mom/dad when I have done something wrong because they will spank me...the child will not trust the parent and can lead to other problems down the road as they grow up.

Answer 6

To me, talking is always best first, but in principal, I agree with it-- as long as it is not done impulsively.

To be an effective tool or deterrent, I think it's imperative that the child understands what they did wrong, why there are consequences and what's going to happen. It'll help them learn to Choose to make the correct decisions because of the bad ramifications, instead of simply being afraid of their parents wrath.

And besides, when you look at society today, there's probably a reason for the saying, "Spare the rod, spoil the child".

As for my sig other, ahem, no comment;)

Answer 7

When I was a kid I was "spanked" When I became an adult and talked with my parents about it, they told me this:

"We would send you to your room, with the promise that you would get the spanking of your life. Then we would calm down, relax for a while, let you sit up there and fret for a while then come in acting all mad and ready to whoop your behind. By the time you were over our knee, you would be crying so hard out of fear, we hardly touched you and you'd be screaming as if we'd blistered you. When in fact we just put on an act.

Parents can be very sneaky

Answer 8

I was abused as a child. And don't tolerate being hit. I'm even willing to risk going to jail if some one dares hit me. I will seek pay back one form or another. I have a child. I don't deny scolding and yelling at her. But beating her as was done to me. No! And the significant other thing. Some idiot spanking my behind I would find offensive. If he wants to turn me on. A good F... and a lot of foreplay will do it. Not a dumb spanking.

Answer 9

I believe in spanking, I spanked both my older children, but never did my younger child, I could talk and reason with him and I really never had a reason to spank him. Some people say, if you hit, you teach them to hit. I was spanked growing up and it only taught me respect. Parental spankings if both agree, and never in anger.

Answer 10

umm yea i was spanked i would get spanked by a spatula when i was bad if i was really bad i would get a belt or a hanger. definitally not a good experience dont do it 2 ur kids. studies have even shown that time outs have the same effects as spanking just do time out instead pick on certain spot that could be ur time out spot n stick to just that one spot

Answer 11

I just read an article about all of those psychologists that told the parents a few years ago to NOT spank their children are all standing around now looking at the hoodlums and scratching their heads saying, "Well that didn't turn out like we hoped..."