He is on Social Security and doesn't get much each month and the house he wanted was only $40,000 so I gave him the money for the down payment and he said he can handle the rest. Now I am being dogged out for doing it. My question is this...if you had the money would've you done it.?
He has three kids and his wife works for a dry cleaner. Sometimes we have to do what is right in life to help so why am I being persecuted for giving money away?
2007-09-14 14:01:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you are making this up. if you have 25 grand to throw away go ahead, i dont care. at all. cause you have !!!! just thrown it away.
but if you think someone is actually going to buy a house with it i am positive you are mistaken. there isnt going to be any house. go ahead, ask to see the paperwork on the house, and you 'friend' will tell you, and i quote " dont worry, i have it handled". allow me to translate this for you, it means, i am not showing you anything because there isnt anything. he isnt buying any house with that money. he has probably spent a lot of it on junk food and internet gambling by now. you have been scammed.
this ugly life lesson has cost you only $25,000. !!!!
like i said, i dont care, you are being persecuted because what you did was unwise. unwise. not stupid, unwise. it is unwise to just give a giant quantitiy of money to someone with no proof they are going to use it for the intended purpose. i guarantee your friend is at outback steakhouse right this second laughing at you.
are you getting a terrible stomach ache as you are reading this and are realizing you have been scammed? go ahead, talk to him and ask him about this, tell him maybe you need to buy the house with him, watch how he panics.
2007-09-14 14:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, you have a wonderful attitude about life. Money doesnt make for happiness. You have done a wonderful thing which most people wouldnt even contemplate doing. Unfortunately though we need money to live comfortably, but I also think that depends on how well-off you are and if you dont need the $25,000 for your own comfort, then what you did was certainly the right thing. If your own lifestyle is being downgraded by this huge act of kindness, then maybe your kindness was too much. If you havent suffered in any way, then you are a great rolemodel for others who can afford to help out a friend. I think it was a wonderful gesture.
2007-09-14 14:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think that I would give at least a million away (if I won 7 million), shared between my immediate family and my nominated charities. That would be my instant, gut reaction to winning. I would need to spend some time thinking about my future once the dust has settled, and then decide carefully what to do, hopefully ignoring any pleads, begging, emotional blackmail etc. I always thought that it would be a fabulous situation to be in but I can well imagine that some aspects of it would be difficult to handle. I wouldn't give anything to my neighbours though. Nevertheless, I will still spend my pound every week on the lottery, and if a win happens then I will no doubt manage to cope, lol x
2016-05-19 22:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is dogging you out? If it is a spouse, that would mean that you made this decision without the consent of your spouse, right? If that is the case, what you did was terrible, even if your heart was in the right place for your friend. If you are single and someone else is giving you a hard time, then you should accept their "opinion" and stop telling people what a good thing you did. You should be generous in private. Not for any other reasons. Okay, now that that is out there... I think that you are a very sweet, generous, loving spirit and I wish you blessings. You obviously have an empathy for others that is hard to find... keep it to yourself and store up your blessings for heaven, not here. Okay? LOL!
2007-09-14 14:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by bamagirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who's persecuting you? If it's a wife (since you put this question under 'marriage and divorce'), then she has every right to be upset, because that was her money too. If you're not married, then it's your money and you can do whatever you want to with it.
Would I personally give a friend $25,000? No. That's too much money for me to be giving away to a friend. But I might loan it to them (without interest but with written documentation of the loan). That's just me though.
2007-09-14 14:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had the money I would have done it. I wish I could help out more often than I do - but I'm a college student - so maybe someday I will have the money to help others like you have.
Most people just don't have that kind of money to give away that's probably why they are freaking out.
2007-09-14 17:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by NoMeS. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the payment on a $40,000 wouldn't be much anyway, so i'm not sure what they were doing for housing before. but i guess the only person that really needs to care about the money is you.
2007-09-14 16:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because not everyone has $25,000 to "give away". And, I hope I'm wrong, I don't think you'll se much of the $$, So pretty much you gave him a very generous gift.
2007-09-14 14:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by lunna_traviesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a very nice and cheritable thing to do.
Personally if I were able to help a friend out like that, and someone started critisizing me for it, I would ignore it, because if I help someone out like that, it's my business. I know it may be hard, but you just have to ignore them. That and stand up to them and tell them that it's none of their business.
2007-09-14 14:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is wonderful when you can help a friend.
No one, however knows when I do it because it is between the two of us.
Keep things like that to yourself and feel good knowing that you did the right thing, don't brag on yourself.......
2007-09-14 14:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋