My fiance and I have been together for almost four years now and have two small children together. We have a good relationship, most of the time, guess it could be labeled that. Lately, I'm kind of insecure and very creative as to why he acts the way he does when we fight. Most of the time I think, great,.. he's going to replace me and so I start planning how I'm going to survive without him. Weird because I really love him, guess I'm just hurt from the past, typical downward spiral, now I think abuse and cheating will one day destroy this relationship like all the rest. I have to get over myself and find peace before I drive it to really happen. Please help!~
2007-09-14 13:50:02 · 7 answers · asked by reincarnated/beauty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does fiance mean you've set a date for the wedding and made plans? If you're going ahead with the relationship, now is a good time to deal with any problems. Sounds like there is a lot of insecurity in the relationship. Would be good to work out what the fighting is about with the help of a counselor. You have kids together, so it would be in their best interests to have mom and dad together in a loving healthy home. Nothing wrong with getting involved with a qualified counselor to help make it as good as it can be, even if just for the kids.
2007-09-14 14:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by ozzman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this has downward spiral written all over it - enhanced by making attributions as to why he acts the way he does.
Even if you weren't insecure before you would be now.
It's always a good idea to plan for all possibilities, you might want to have a serious talk with him.
2007-09-14 14:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer but are having a problem living it.
Most people are deathly afraid of being rejected, because when you feel rejected you feel un-loved and that would cause you to feel stuck in your relationship. Know that you are loveable and communicate with your love one so they know how you feel. Share your fears, be open and honest and above all ask for you need.
2007-09-14 14:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are just freaking out, getting paranoid, and jumping to conclusions which can happen. The best thing is to just try to work those out with yourself...
Now if your any of those things for a good concrete reason...maybe talk to him about your insecurities
2007-09-14 13:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want help? If you do, do these two things:
1. Stop using drugs and alcohol. Live the rest of your life sober!
2. Seek professional counseling!
2007-09-14 14:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you guys need to go to some family counseling.....You will learn the skills you need to work on your relationship and, you will learn how to be a stronger person for you and your kids.....
2007-09-14 14:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse and cheating won't ruin your relationship you will. You are sending your imagination into overdrive and it's gonna take it's toll. Just kick back and take life as it comes, enjoy each other.
2007-09-14 13:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋