We have suspected a long term affair and we are all really afraid spouses will go postal on us all. Out boss will do nothing saying we have to have physical evidence of the affiair to fire them. This is creating terrible morale problems not to mention no one likes to be in the building with them it is so nervewracking. How do we get "physical evidence".?
2007-09-14 13:23:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry, but this is up to your boss to handle. Unfortunately, he doesn't appear to have the "cajones" to do what needs to be done.
First, what does your employee manual say? I'd consult that before you get in troubles yourselves for violating some kind of office policy.
Secondly, in terms of getting physical evidence, you could find yourselves on the end of a lawsuit with your co-workers.
Thirdly, you could simply make it so uncomfortable for them to carry on their activities at work. This may constitute a hostile work environment, but your boss has an obligation to protect his employees from sexual harassment. Him being alerted to their behavior and not taking action could be viewed as him not protecting you from harassment.
You should contact the labor board or employment department for your state and find out what the guidelines are. Explain your situation and find out where everyone stands where the law is concerned.
Good luck!
2007-09-14 13:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said "suspected" so you don't "know" for certain. If you work for a company that has a "corporate ethics policy" there may be a policy requiring notification of an officer of the company, but it sounds like you're done that. If this is really going on, the business is exposed to some increased possibility of sexual harassment problems. If you are right there is bound to be trouble at some point and it would be best not to be in the middle of it. Whatever way it goes it is unlikely to be very tidy. If somebody walks in on it they should tell them to go "get a room." Seriously, would be better to steer clear of this situation and avoid even being involved in gossiping about it.
2007-09-14 13:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by ozzman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I have to say I agree with most of the answers on here. This really isn't anyone's business but the people involved. What is your business is that they are making out in the workplace. The best way I can see to stop this is when you run across them someplace just make a rude comment, to the effect of "why don't you two get a room and stop offending the rest of us". Say it in a disgusted tone and go on about your business. If a few people do this it may stop the behavior in the office.
2007-09-14 13:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I normally would suggest that you mind your business...but it appears that you may very well know the spouses of the offenders.....if you really feel that this is a volatile situation and could possibly blow up at the work place...maybe the boss should say something to the spouses. I know that I wouldn't feel safe at work when I suspect that something terrible could happen....I don't want to be caught in the cross fire and pay the consequences for someones cheating *ss.
2007-09-14 13:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't you set up a camera like a nanny cam or something? Or even hire "Cheaters". I'm sure that many employees have camera phones, can't someone snap a photo of the two of them. Get a picture, then send the picture anonomously to the spouses. Or you can tell them that you have proof, and that it needs to stop at the work place because it makes everyone uncomfortable. Then threaten them that if they don't stop, you will tell their spouses. That or you could just post it online.
2007-09-14 13:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by luvinJT 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Their spouses won't go postal on YOU; it will be ON THEM if they find out. Time will take care of it all; all cheaters get found out eventually and when the spouses call the boss, he will have plenty of ammo
2007-09-14 13:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is some law in the company bylaws forbidding this behavior, nothing ca nor will happe to them. No if one is a boss, then it opens a whole new can of worms under Federal employment sexual laws
2007-09-14 13:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you can tell the spouses about this and get them (the other man and woman)to confess to the boss that will be enough. OR get a private investigator...or become one yourself ...digital camera..
2007-09-14 14:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Danu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really agree with most people....it's really better to stay out of it.
But.....there's this little arnery part of my personality that would love to say "ummm, I'm gonna tell" and then run to the phone and act like your calling their spouse. Give them alittle heart attack for their actions. I think it would be worth seeing their reaction, BUT.......
You really need to stay out of the drama.
2007-09-14 13:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your business, stay out of it. the spouses dont know yet so you are the one creating problems. if they cheat, who cares? its not your husband or wife. i dont think that cheating is a reason to get fired unless it disrupts their work. they shouldn't get paid screw someone at work but you do not have to live with them. myob
2007-09-14 13:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋