I filed for divorce, but we are still living together. We have talked reconsiliation and he told me that he loves and was "in love" with me... obviously to get me in the sack. It worked. I have decided to go through with the divorce because of his abusive (emotionally) and deceptive behavior (heavy drinker!)... and his carrying on "flirtations" (he said) with other women. I know that he spent the night with another woman this past weekend. He suspects I know and now says that we are "legally separated" as of the day I filed my paperwork. He was not served until a month later and was not aware that I had filed paperwork at the time he kissed and tried to hook up with a different girl. What is the definition of estranged and how does his cheating apply now?! We were in the same bedroom until I found out about the second to last girl. Drama.
2007-09-14 13:12:05 · 17 answers · asked by bamagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I actually can prove it, thank you! I hired a p.i. It turns out to be a "friend" of mine. He also has had a prepayed phone that I found out about. I don't want him now. I did, but not now. I believed the "I am going to change" story several too many times. It is just that he has threatened to take away everything from me if we have to go to court... most of the furniture was from his family... we have been married 13 years.
2007-09-14 13:58:00 · update #1
It doesn't matter if it's legal or not!! he's about to get his freedom and the disrespectful, selfish pig can't chill for a few months! and if he doesn't want to control his behavior, that's fine move! so it's not in your face!! and by the way filing for a divorce does not mean that you are legally separated, sorry.
This guy sounds just like the man that I'm divorcing. and I do mean just like him!! you've filed for divorce but your living together! huh... YOU need to separate from this man, I'm puzzled as to why you haven't already. he needs to know that you don't need him. and you need to know that you don't need him. be strong, keep your family and friends near, re-build your self worth. he is not going to change. it helped me to know in my heart that my husband was not going to treat any other woman better than me, meaning... they were going to get the same thing from him that I did!!! (and baby that wasn't much, lol) he needs to move out! so you can start the first stage of healing.
2007-09-14 13:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by momac78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in a relationship and living with another woman then it would probably be assumed that he is sleeping with her and therefore adultery. Indecent behaviour on the grounds of locking you out of the house and bank passwords... Talk to citizens advice is my suggestion, they might be able to give you more advice on the situation. You dont have to leave your child alone with him, you can arrange to have someone else present with you both- a mutual friend or family member? Filing for divorce first means that you can blame him for everything he did wrong, if he files then he'll state why he wants to divorce you
2016-05-19 22:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the courts do not recognize infedlity as a grounds for divorce your husband spending the night with another woman isn't going to change a thing. In fact IF you filed for divorce you should have read in the paperwork about not living together...which you did AFTER you filed for divorce. I often wonder if half of the people here who are divorced ever read the papers they signed...they have no clue...
2007-09-14 14:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consult your attorney, because different states have different laws on the matter. I live in Ohio, and my husband and I continued to live in the same house together for an entire YEAR while the divorce was going on. It was not as simple as kicking him out and changing the locks. We both owned the house, and neither of us wanted to leave. We had to wait until the court decided who got the house. And we were both within our legal rights to sleep with whomever we wanted during that time.
2007-09-14 13:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you filed for divorce, then you don't feel that the marriage you shared is worth saving. Obviously he doesn't either or he would have remained faithfull and not been with another woman. Regardless of when he did it, he did it, and that should tell you right there that he isn't worth any more heartbreak. I am sure that you will find better.
2007-09-14 13:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by luvinJT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Filing for divorce is not the same as being legally separated.
You would have to file separately for a "Legal Separation".
Ask your lawyer.
2007-09-14 13:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are missing the boat lady. Before you can fix any other problem in your life, you need to fix your crazy instincts that allow you to hook up with abusive men.
Seek counseling and spend a few years there before you have sex again.
2007-09-14 13:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not legal in any state for him to spend time sexually with someone else before the ink dries on the divorce decree. Consult with your lawyer and follow the advice you are paying him to give you. Your husband's morals, or lack there of is a hot mess. Run, run get out now!!
2007-09-14 13:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by JEWELRY DIVA 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
For what youre looking for wont happen. Infidelity during marriage or seperation is NOT illegal. It may be immoral but thats about it.You can use it for the grounds for divorce but there is nothing illegal about it. Sorry
2007-09-14 13:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adultry is not recongnized in the courts. So long as you both have stated you are no longer want the relationship and papers have been filed (or not) he can do what he wants. Its not cheating if you already agreed to split.
2007-09-14 13:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋