2007-09-14 12:54:36 · 27 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You'll need to get some pre-natal care and possibly counseling. It sounds like you may be unable to care for your twins. If you consider the thought of adoption, it would be the most selfless thing you can ever do for your babies. Then you can focus on high school/college. Adopting your children will give them a life that at this time, you may not be able to provide for them.
Good luck.
2007-09-14 13:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya.
I was 16 when I got pregnant. My mom was an alcoholic and my dad past away. The dads mom was inprision and his dad was a jerk.
We were both young and on our own.
So I got emancipated through the courts so I was my own legal gardian. I could then get an apartment.
So I went to FIA or the welfare place and talked with them, they said I would have to go to a homeless shelter and then file. So I did and less than a week later they paid for me to have an apartment and all the stuff inside.
I worked at mcdonalds for extra money and so did the dad.
We saved money for a car. Just a junker but oh well.
Then I went back to school and got my nurse aide. And at lease I made more money.
And am in school now.
You just need to be wise. Work with the welfare, do what they say, they will help you if no one else will.
you only need them to get started, then you will be ok.
YOu have to do what you hve to do right?
2007-09-14 13:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
So your mom is adopting twin girls and you are also having twins? interesting....I guess tell your Mom you wanted twins too.
Oh and that's gonna be one full house when you locate all 20 of your siblings, that you lost track of when you were adopted at age 8.
If you are truly Pregnant(which I doubt) then you must tell your Mother. She might be angry or disappointed BUT I'm sure she will be there for you and you need her.
Good Luck and God Bless no matter what your real situation is.
2007-09-14 13:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Helpfulhannah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... if you don't tell her, she's gonna notice... they're are 3 options first tell your mom, she'll be angry but she'll be respectful that you told her, then tell the father (if he doiesn't already know) option 1) you can keep the baby, its really hard at a young age but its your baby and you'll probably love it more than you've ever loved anybody in your whole life option 2) you can have the baby and give it up for adoption you can have either an open or closed adopiton or 3) if your not too far along you can have an abortion (that one i'm not really in good favor of) but its your body, your choice, your life. Good luck to you =]
2007-09-14 13:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jasmine...I know you don't want to upset your mother because you care about her but right now you need to think about yourself and your babies. She is going to be upset at first but then she will get over it. These babies need a strong mother to be there for them just like you need your mother. It's time to grow up and take responsibility for your actions and telling your friends and family is the first step. The ones who really love you will support you and stick through this with you.
I had to tell my mom that I was pregnant two years ago by a guy who didn't even want to be with me. At first my mom cried and made it all about her but we got through it and so will you. You need your moms help and if she won't help you then you need to know that. Things may seem bad right now but they will only get worse if you lie about it. Good luck!
2007-09-14 13:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by spamilennia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abortion might still be an option. You will have to decide if that's something you can and want to do.
Tell your mother. She will be angry and disappointed, but she'll come through for you. Give her a chance to show you again how much she loves you.
Putting your twins up for adoption could easily be a much greater act of love than the one that created them.
2007-09-14 13:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother with 2 beautiful daughters I say tell her. I would want to know. You never know how she will react about it. It might not be what you think. And you are going to need some help no matter what you decide to do in the end. Good Luck Hun and know that my thoughts are with you.
2007-09-14 13:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by 34 weeks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 17 with my son, and I was scared to tell my parents for sure. Finally after a few weeks I talked to my mother. She was not happy about it, but she was there for me and told me everything would be okay. Your mother loves you, and will be there for you. She might not be to happy about the situation but she is there to support and love you and your babies. Plus she can help out with things you might not know about pregnancy, she has been through it before. Best of luck hun. I hope things work out for the best for you and the babies.
2007-09-14 13:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone and soon! You're very young and need a support system at the least. If you really can't tell your mom, then find an adult that you do trust and is understanding. Go to them first and hopefully they will help you determine the best way to tell your mom about this.
2007-09-14 12:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by smileyc117 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How could you possibly have found out you're having twins and yet your mom doesn't even know you're pregnant? You've seen a doctor and had a sonogram without her? If you're being honest about this.... you really should just tell your mom. You aren't going to be able to hide it forever.
2007-09-14 13:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.P 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋