We have been together for three years, living on our own for two. We have a 9 month old daughter together, And a really in love, but all we keep hearing is ohh when are you guys going to make it official. At this point in our lives we dont find it necessary to get married. We are both going to school (it would affect our financial aid if we maried). We both have debt. We want to save for a house and other things. It makes sense to me but how do i explain it to other people. Thanks in advance for your help :)
2007-09-14 12:49:30 · 9 answers · asked by heather b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell them nicely that you are a happy couple & parents that there is no need to sign a paper just to say "We are Married" You are married even if there a no papers signed you have a daugther to look up & dream to achieve.. SO just tell them when you think it is the rigth time to make it " official" you will let them know by giving them an ivitation to your wedding.. Good luck best wishes for the 3 of you !! !:)
2007-09-14 13:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop the question, but you can stop defending yourself. You guys aren't the one with the issue--they are, so just bring it back around to them by asking, "Why do you ask?", not answering the question and move along in the conversation. They will get the idea and you can get on with your happy life. Good luck!
2007-09-14 13:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them "Are you going to pay for it? Because right now we're both trying to get through school and raise our daughter and save for a house."
2007-09-14 14:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reply, "Ten minutes after people stop asking us that question."
I heard a comedian once say that she'd found the perfect solution when her aunts would pinch her at weddings and gesture to the marrying couple and say, "You know...you're next!" She would pinch the old aunts at funerals and gesture toward the casket and say, "You know...you're next!"
2007-09-14 12:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you aren't getting married. Even if you are considering it, just flat out say "we aren't." Once people hear that they should will stop asking the next time.
2007-09-14 12:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look very confused and sweetly ask, "Why do you ask?" If the person continues then just say, "Hmmm, never thought about it. How's your marriage?"
2007-09-14 13:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heather,
When are you guys going to get married?
2007-09-14 13:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been subjected to the same torture, and I just smile, and say "when the time comes, I'll let you know."
2007-09-14 13:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous100 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just politely ask "why do you need to know"?
2007-09-14 12:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋