we've been friends for a long time then recently i noticed I liked him and i always get pissed when he dating a girl. I'm not gay..atleast i think i'm not. And i think he might like me too he's always his hands around my wasit as if i'm a little kid saying how small i am and how cute. i usaully get pissed cuz he does this everyday making me think it's a joke or something. he even kissed me on the chick as my stupid reaction go i shouted what the hell. he's really nice even if sometimes he kidds around or cold at times i even think he knows that i like him but he's messing around. i have no idea wat to do?I'm even having fansties about him -_-". i hope this isnt confusing u. if it is can ya email me so i can explain it better. thanks.
2007-09-14 09:56:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, it sounds more like you are the confused one. Let's see...
First of all, you have to come to terms with yourself, either you like guys or you don't.
Secondly, it sounds to me that he likes you, but be careful, he may be testing you to find out if you like him for sure.
Third, he may also be confused, he may like guys, but like a lot of guys in this "PLANET", he is afraid of what people would say or think about him so that's why he does the "straight" thing, to feel "in", accepted, "Normal"
There's a lot of guys that accept themselves as gay at an early age, but trust me, there's also a lot of them that will deny it at all cost
Just be careful, be discreet with this and with him, if he is into guys and into you and not ready, he will appreciate it
2007-09-14 12:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first questions would be how old are you, and is this the first time this has happened? Love and affection are normal in friendships, and does not always mean you are gay. You might just be comfortable around one another and don't give a damn what the world thinks. Now, If you are having sexual urges/dreams about this guy, that is another story. You might just be starting to discover where your sexuality sits on the range between Straight and Gay. They are not always black and white, and there is a whole lot of Grey in between. Where you sit on that line... bi but like girls more than guys.... gay... with little or no sexual attraction to a girl all depends on who YOU are. Take your time, and it will eventually sort itself out. If you want a bottom line answer, i think the easiest way to judge this is by answering this question: Who do you fantasize about when masturbating? If it's guys.. you are probably gay. If it's girls, then you are straight. If its both... they you are bi. Check out this site for more info: http://www.brian-mcnaught.com/
2007-09-14 10:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by dutchboydvh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I understand about your dilemma. Even as a gay man, I have had incredible platonic relationships with straight men. I love my male straight friends and wouldn't change them for the world. I think it is because they know that I am gay and they can be more upfront about their emotions to me, possibly because they think that I will be more understanding with their problems. Though they later find out that yes I am, though I am going to be an *** to them anyway. They can still be more physically expressive with me as well, i.e. hugging, and horseplay. I have even cuddled with my straight friends and nothing sexual ever happens, it is just physical and emotional comfort that human beings need that is not always met in a relationship of opposite sexes and can be met by the fabled brotherly love. Now I am rambling, I hope my answer helped, I can only help by expressing my experience, strength, and hope.
2007-09-14 10:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by kevin t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't realise he was gay. The following advice may be inappropriate then.
This is never easy. Its the classic case of risking losing the friendship by weirding him out, or not saying anything and internally going through hell.
It sounds like in this situation you could risk it. He sounds decent enough not to take it the wrong way. Go for it.
2007-09-14 10:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question!
As an heterosexual man, I nevertheless understand you dilemma. Until Society is ready, mature and understanding, I am afraid you have to cope with it the best you can. But, enjoy each other, poo poo to the others and go on with your lives. Don't even think of what others think of you, be positive in life. Don't flaunt your inclination, just act natural. Good luck ladies.
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2007-09-14 09:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by cldchbn 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not gay............then u go on to write a paragraph about how you are almost in love with your friend. Dude....about 30 seconds of thought should be all you need to figure that out. Good Luck
2007-09-14 10:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific females can pass away the buddy zone. in specific circumstances we start to word something approximately you that we've by no skill seen in the previous && considering that we already understand you && you already understand us then it is much less annoying to conversate with you yet we would additionally get greater fearful by way of fact we see you in a various way. and as a rule we dont say something by way of fact we dont choose to smash the friendship. And it is kinda difficult to get a woman buddy to love you as better than a buddy except we initially such as you as better than a freind. yet drop tricks of your emotions so which you need to verify in the event that they experience the comparable way.
2016-10-20 00:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by manca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay Just go out and say I think I have a crush on you I know this one girl in my school and she had feelings for her bestfriend and she told he that she had feelings for her and then her bestfriend told her that she liked her too.. So now they are a happy couple. =] I think you should really tell him. Good luckk <33
2007-09-14 10:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by fashion bitch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When the opportunity arises, engage him in a conversation about homosexuality. If he feels comfortable with you, he may hint about the possibility he might be interested.
2007-09-14 10:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a straight woman, but have gay friends. I suggest you be honest with him and ask him if his feelings go deeper than friendship. Then, go with your feelings. You are who you are and if you discover you're truly gay, then accept it and do whatever you feel you need to do.
2007-09-14 10:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋