My fiance was cleaning out his pockets last night, and a laminated pic of him fell out. I picked it up and asked him what it was. He tried to snatch it out of my hand, but I wouldn't give it back til he told me what it was. Turns out, he bought a membership to a "bikini bar" last week, and didn't bother to mention it to me. It's on the way home from his work.
We live together, and are (were?) planning to be married. Every day, he comes up with some reason or other not to come home right after work. I know he stops at bars, and that doesn't really bother me, but the fact that he BOUGHT A MEMBERSHIP to a bikini bar and didn't tell me, makes me uneasy.
He says I'm making a big deal out of nothing, but I wonder if I should let this go.
What do YOU think?
2007-09-14 09:06:05 · 13 answers · asked by Spun Up IMMORTAL 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
get a job there....show up on the stage....and see what he does....ha!!!
2007-09-14 09:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
The behind the back part of it would definitely have me thinking about what else is going on behind my back, if there is no trust there is nothing!! If he was doing stuff like that and hiding it from me there would definitely be a lack of trust!! Think twice or maybe even three times before making the move into marriage!! Good Luck!!
2007-09-14 16:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it too seriously, the thing that would bother me though is that he is making lies up before he comes home and that is something to be concerned about. I would be a little ify if were you. Thats a trust issue (his fault) already and you haven't even married him yet.
2007-09-14 16:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let it go... the fact that he is doing all that behind your back makes me think what else is he doing that he is not telling you about?
2007-09-14 16:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as it's a "look but don't touch" policy, i don't give a damn.
he can do whatever he wants. i'm not his mommy or his parole officer.
although, i would rip his head off, smash it, freeze it and then make hungarian goulash out of it if he cheated during one of those "outings".
:o)
2007-09-14 16:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy was really into you would he be there instead of with you? You teach people how to treat you...and you deserve better from one who is suppose to be "THE ONE".
2007-09-14 16:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by rjm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see this as just the beginning of the hell he's going to put you through if you marry him.
2007-09-14 16:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what kind of other lies he can make up in an eventual future situation.
But you know him and you should decide.
2007-09-14 16:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by deliciasyvariedades 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dianne G has very good advice!
I say go for it.
2007-09-14 16:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just a bikini bar..... id go with my fiance/spouse to a strip club and buy him a lap dance if he wanted to go. your the one hes with so dont get mad.
2007-09-14 16:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont stay with him - he's obviously not commited and serious about the relationship
2007-09-14 16:21:21 · answer #11 · answered by manaymaintnoneyobizznuzz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋