I'm 16 year old straight guy, I have the world's biggest crush on this girl at high school. My heart tells me I was meant to be with her. After a year I finaly talked to her, but I got a meassage saying that she is a lesbian.
Now, is she sure that she is one, or does she think she is? She is the only one I want. Many people tell me that there will be other girls, I don't want anyone else! She's an angel to me.
She's so amazing, I really hope this is a stage of confusion for her because I can't live with out her, she's only 16 as well. I'm older than her by a week or so I belive.
I don't want to live the rest of my life alone wishing I could be with her cause I'll never want anyone but her....
Someone please answer this, she's all I want in life. Some kind help from others will be apperciated.
2007-09-14 08:52:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dude you are 16 years old,your heart isnt telling you anything.That is your pee-pee talking.Now dont bother with her there are plenty of other women who will want what you have down your pants,not what she has!
2007-09-14 08:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kev L 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Now you know what what it's like for those of us who are gay and who keep falling for straight guys.
Whether she's really a lesbian or only "thinks" she is (?), the point is that she's not into you, as much as you desire her. That's the way life works much of the time. For every junior high romance that ends up lasting a lifetime, there are many, many false starts before the rest of us find our one true love.
Please believe that most of us understand what you feel and that when we say that you're "only" 16, we're saying it from the vantage point of having been 16 once ourselves. Life does indeed go on, and there will be another. And you'll probably have your heart broken a few more times before you meet "the one" meant for you. It's all survivable, and it gives you some interesting tales to entertain your grandkids with.
2007-09-14 16:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you're young and have fallen into your first love, or first huge HUGE crush (i still kind of like mine a little bit i guess), but if you can't have her, then it just sucks. you can't really try to force it on her, because people that love other people don't try to force them to love them. but at least try and find out by asking her if she is really is a lesbian, or bisexual, or w/e else she may be. don't go through life always holding these one damned regret (it would suck probably)! she may lie or misconstrue the truth a bit if she is uncomfortable with telling you the truth, but you can ask her if she wants you at all, nullifying the need to know her true full sexual orientation. don't try to force her to tell the truth, you'll probably annoy her (or you could, it's your choice really dude). but there will most likely be other loves... (yeah, i don't think that my first HUGE HUGE crush liked me, or maybe he did, i never grew the balls to talk to him after a break of summer - i knew him from school in 7th, and then summer came, and in 8th grade i could barely even speak whenever he was nearby... kind of). so hey, no regrets, as in, try, but don't hurt her and regret. good luck, bye!
2007-09-14 16:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by hey h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... I understand how you might feel loving someone you can't have... You need to understand what love is and what an obsession. You need to also respect her sexual orientation. Life and Love are hard. But then again you need to think that if she's lesbian she will never be happy by your side. So since you Love her think about how she will feel... {p.s- find out if she really is lesbian.....} Good Luck!
2007-09-14 16:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by ღJenniferღ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you heard may be wrong, unless it came directly from her. Be friendly with her, and ask her out. You never know.
But either way, don't worry. You're young, and you'll get over this. There are other people, other chances, other situations. And at 16, you have lots of time.
2007-09-14 16:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for Pete's sake, she's a lesbian, she told you she's a lesbian, who would know better than she what her sexual orientation is? If she's really straight and is telling you she's queer she really, really, really isn't interested. Find someone else. Speaking as someone who's old enough to be your grandmother you will get over her.
2007-09-14 16:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by nekhbet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in life you can't always get what you want, this is your 1st crush, it doesn't necessary mean it'll be your only one. Have you ever heard of the chem. of love?? one it's over it's over so don't frustrate, you'll get over this.
2007-09-14 15:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mojitabean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out first. from her. dont ask around cuz u can only trust her word. just tell her that ur curious. or that u heard somewhere that she was a lesbian and ask if its true. go from there. maybe shes bi. lol i hope it all works out for u. =]
2007-09-14 15:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Bohemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her. don't pressure her into thinking she is or is not a lesbian. only she can be sure, not rumors from psychos who think she is.
2007-09-14 16:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~ chiclets gum ~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a lesbian, she's unlikely to be interested in you, unfortunately.
2007-09-14 15:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by LOL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋