2007-09-14 08:36:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
SORRY ABOUT THAT-HOW THE HELL DID MY QUESTION END UP HERE? LOL. LAUGH OF THE DAY
2007-09-14 08:41:18 · update #1
AS IN NOT JUST PAYING THEM-AS IN USING YOUR OWN MONEY AND NONE OF HIS
2007-09-14 08:43:08 · update #2
I think it becomes a more equal relationship as it matures. I make the money and the wife is the one that pays the bills and keeps the books balanced.
2007-09-14 08:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh??? You mean handling the finances?? If that is the case is because the women usually want to take control of the finances and the men let them. Also women tend to be better at organization.
If you are talking about actually paying bills then you are mistaken. GENERALLY men pay the bills, but there are always exceptions to the rule!
2007-09-14 15:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chase023 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very kind and very old black woman i knew when i was a child explained things like this in a very simple way. She would tell me........ "baby..... it just be's that way sometimes"
What does that mean? It means I have no clue why SOME men do that. But i can assure you they were not brought up as my brothers and I were.
Perhaps one reason it happens is because the women in their lives (read - YOU) let them do it. You know, nobody on this earth can hurt you or take advantage of you, unless you allow them to. Step up dear, and either put him to work and paying part of the bills, or put him on the road!!!
SIDE NOTE: - Isn;t it interesting that you posted this question in the LGBT section by mistake but STILL got some pretty good advice and answers??? Cool, huh?
2007-09-14 15:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lon E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a matter really of who pays them. It's who it has been agreed upon to pay them. My husband is the sole provider for our house. But I pay all the bills. He makes the money I distribute it to all the correct places. But it sounds like you have been with the wrong kid of men. It should be what the couple agrees on should be done. If he is suppose to pay his part make him pay or move him out.The longer you tolerate any kind of unwanted behavior the longer you will have to expect it to continue. Life's too short to be unhappy. Make a change now!!!
2007-09-14 15:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by childhoodcancercure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loser to me. We manage our own bills separately - our investments too, but on common bills, like rent and stuff, we share based on percentage of income-I make more so I pay a bit more (works out 60/40%).
At least find a man to pay his own bills and you take care of yours. That we would be a step forward. Good luck! I know a lot of female friends who make poor choices of men - don't be one of them!!
2007-09-14 15:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it that women demand absolute equality with men and then when given the responsibilities that all men have , gripe and complain. Sometimes one or the other partner has to carry the whole load in an equal relationship. You can't have it both ways.
2007-09-14 18:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've been hanging around the wrong men.
Since you're here in the LGBT area, does this mean you'll be hanging around women now?
2007-09-14 15:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with that? There are other ways to pull your weight in a partnership.
Who cares who pays the bills? Why does it matter?
2007-09-14 15:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by gefyonx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on individual cases. Maybe the guy is lazy? Maybe he has too much on his plate already? Maybe he wants the woman to share some responsibilities as well? It could be a lot of things. Better to ask them why if it is bugging you that much. :-)
2007-09-14 15:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by S I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't!
Real men don't let their women control the finances involved in running a house.
2007-09-14 15:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋