2007-09-14 08:03:13 · 17 answers · asked by loganiwitts 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The "key" is to understand that the forgiveness is NOT for the benefit of the other person (the one being forgiven). It is for the benefit of the forgiver. Also, forgiving does NOT mean saying that whatever they did was OK, just that you forgive them for doing it.
2007-09-14 08:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is an act of loving yourself. Sometimes it is harder to forgive someone who has intentionally hurt you than it is to forgive someone that just didn't know any better. Take the experience and look within to see how it has helped you grow; you may have become stronger or more consciousness of your actions towards others. When you forgive you release the weight of the pain you carried. It takes more energy to hate than to love...love conquers hate. If you believe in a higher power ask to be shown the way to truly forgive and to truly heal. Forgiving doesn't mean you forget, but it does mean you move on without holding it against that someone.
2007-09-15 23:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't forgive to benefit the other person, you forgive so that you yourself can heal. When you are ready to heal you will ultimately let go of the pain and resentment and forgive that person so that you can have some peace and serenity. Forgiving is only gonna benefit you, but with that if you make a decision to forgive you also have to be willing to forget. YOu cannot forgifve if you still cant forget and hold onto what happend and use it at a later date
2007-09-14 08:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no key to forgivness, you either forgive and forget or you hold a grudge but still get along just cause it is right. You will probably never fully forgive someone if they have hurt you severly but the key as you call it is to just move on with it. Whether you hold a grudge or not doesn't matter, we move on so we can continue living our lives out without having past problems hold us back.
2007-09-14 08:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Christina J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you knew this or not...but you can forgive someone and still feel bad......forgiveness is an act of the heart...but, since we are not God, we have no sea of forgetfulness to throw it into..so, this is why "time heals all wounds" this "forgive and forget?" only happens when both sides bury the hatchet(so to speak) so, if you might still feel bad..it doesn't mean you haven't forgiven someone..it just means you "feel bad" Let's say i got cut, and i tood care of the wound, now, does the pain go away because i took care of the wound?-no, the pain is still there..and the cut is still there...so, even though i have "forgiven the cut" it still has to have time to "heal" do you understand?...lol...
2007-09-14 08:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short to bear grudges for more than a day.
A Wise man forgives but never forgets - so watch out next time.
2007-09-21 13:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Maka 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three keys to forgiveness:
The first is for the mind: We rediscover the humanity of the person who has wronged us, seeing that individual as a human being, not just as the one who offended us.
The second is for the emotions: We revise our feelings toward the individual and are open to a new relationship built on mutual respect. Seeing the person differently allows our feelings to change. We may begin to wish them well. Give the pain time to heal and begin to appreciate the past of the relationship, not the offense. If there is no past, then find an item to be thankful for.
Finally for the will: We surrender our right and desire to get even or punish the person.
I have heard it said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.
2007-09-14 08:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Joey Michaels 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Forgiving is being selfless. Ignoring your emotions for the greater good.
It's an option for everybody, Forgiving is not something a person HAS to do, but you probably already know that.
2007-09-20 21:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by Megzy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is to forgive and forget but move on. No use to forgive and then suffer by trusting again
2007-09-14 08:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
"time" is the key to forgiveness. when your willing to forgive yourself you then learn how to forgive others. forgiveness is like a clock on the wall. you take it minute by minute, day by day, evenually you will put it behind you but you will never forget.
2007-09-14 08:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sporty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋