I have two friends that I love spending time with but they have money and I don't!! They are always wanting to go out and party or go on trips!! When I get some extra money and can go out with them they get annoyed when we can't do everything they wnat to do because I don't have enough money. Should I just get some poor friends like me??
2007-09-14 07:33:35 · 13 answers · asked by Danielle G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For those who have said to tell them I don't have enough and if they really want me to go then they will pay the rest!! They do and the problem is I feel bad for taking money from them. I know they don't get that annoyed with me because they would just stop asking me to go!! It brings me down when they ask and I can't so they offer to pay!! I feel bad and they feel bad!! Like today I got an e-mail from them asking me to go to Vegas after Christmas and I said no thanks I have plans but one knew it was becuase I wouldn't have the money so she said she would pay and I could just pay her back a little at a time!! Man this is depressing me!!
2007-09-14 08:02:45 · update #1
class ain't supposed to be an issue...
but you are making it so, with your reverse snobbery!!!
they accept you, so you should accept them...
2007-09-14 07:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about getting some new friends who aren't so caught up in spending money.
See, the REALLY rich measure things not by how much money you SPEND - but by how much money you KEEP. My rich friends admire the fact that I live within my means - and I am of very modest means indeed. However, I am out of debt, have a small investment portfolio - that they advise me on - and are happy to spend time with ME - we share books, music, and just each others' company.
So look for a better class of friends - these gals are cheap goods. And believe it or not - a lot of rich folks would rather go on a picnic in the park than party hardy all night long.
2007-09-14 14:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not see anything wrong with having friends from different classes. By no means am I rich but I'm not poor either but I've had friends from both far extremes and their money situations really didn't have a bearing on how good our friendships were. I'd question how good of friends they are if they're not willing to take your situation into consideration. I think true friends would try to do things that are accommodating for everyone involved and certainly wouldn't get upset over a friends inability to do something but instead would at least sympathize or maybe even try to help. If you decide to get new friends you should choose them because of who they are, their personalities and not their socioeconomic status. Good luck.
2007-09-14 14:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer.rc42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good and difficult question but I think that, you should let them know whenever they ask you out that you don't have money or enough to entertain yourself at long like how they can, if they insist on it, then you ask how are you going to do then, may be they will give you the rest you need. I personally, when I go out with a friend and he doesn't have enough money to stay long with me, I provide the rest to keep him with me.
2007-09-14 14:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by darlingK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were real friends they would not get annoyed with you. They would be more understanding that your financial situation is not the same as yours. Do they know about your financial situation, if not clarify and tell them straight out that you do not have the money they do. It really has nothing to do with class, but true friendship. Being considerate makes one a good friend
2007-09-14 14:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention your age. I have friends in a lower social class than myself and I know if I want them to do something with me that I will have to pay for them, so, that is what I do. Just because they are poor doesn't make them bad people and I have known them since we were kids(we are all now 30). If your friends are true friends they would pitch in and help you pay if they truly want you there.
2007-09-14 14:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a dilemma!
Your friends are your friends and you enjoy hanging out with them. You don't need new ones, unless you really want new ones. Maybe you can suggest some free/cheap stuff to do. Or when you guys go out partying, save your money by not drinking anything. If they really want to hang out with you, they will make the "sacrifice".
2007-09-14 14:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...if you truly want to be friends with these girls be upfront with them. Just say, hey i would love to go with ya'll but this is all the money I have. If the trip is going to cost alot, or ya'll are gonna wanna do a lot of stuff, then i will just save this money back and maybe i can go with ya'll next time. if they are truly your friends they will either understand graciously or they will find something all of you can do.
2007-09-14 14:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by ¤¤Je§§ica¤¤ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the friends you already have, you don't need to get other friends. If your friends get frustrated because you cannot go out with them sometimes, why don't they just buy the stuff for you? And if you really want to get other friends get them. I would keep the friends that you have now, but it's really YOUR choice not anyone else's.
2007-09-14 14:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by emoteddybear02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're REALLY your friends - then they know & understand you don't have the same resources that they do... and if they want you come along on trips & stuff with them - they have to learn to understand your (fiscal) limitations.
I've got lots of friends who are VERY well off - but they don't expect me to be able to take off at a moments notice & fly to Vegas with them or stuff like that.
I think it may have to do less with the wealth of your friends and more to do with the maturity of your friends ... and their level of respect for you.
2007-09-14 14:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by Eric C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were really your friends, money shouldn't be an issue. They should offer to help you out. But you shouldn't ask. If they don't, then, yes, get some less materialistic friends.
2007-09-14 14:39:45 · answer #11 · answered by Popcorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋