My friend "Sarah" and I were best friends all through out college. We went out together every week at least three times and had coffee together all the time. We were very close. I thought of her as one of the best friends I ever had. She wasn't able to have kids so I even promised her that I'd be her surrogate mother cause we were so close. Then, in our 4th year, we lived together. We had a great time. It was three girls and it was fun. But then that summer the third girl moved out and Sarah's cousin "Jane" moved in to replace her. Jane was mean and rude, went through my stuff, insulted me regularly (told me I was fat) and told my boyfriend he was not welcome in our home because she was not comfortable with him there. Basically, Sarah started to act different. She started spending all her time with Jane and ignoring me. I felt unwelcome in my own home, so I moved in with my boyfriend. Sarah was furious at me for moving out, even though I still payed rent.
2007-09-14 07:00:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Anyhow, Jane ended up stealing money from me and Sarah and I stopped talking. IShe picked Jane over me. It has been three years now, but I really miss her. I am married with a little girl and I really miss Sarah's friendship. She wasn't my maid of honour like i'd always thought she'd be. I dream about us making up all the time. But she was so nasty to me and her cousin was so horrible, I don't know what to do. Should I just get over it, or should I try and contact her and make up?
2007-09-14 07:02:23 · update #1
Something similiar happened to me. I had a best friend for years and we stopped talking after her wedding. She moved not long after and for the next few years I thought about her often. She was truly way too good of a friend to lose forever. I still had her e-mail and hoping it was still the one she was using I sent her a letter. Turns out she was thinking of contacting me too. We let the past be the past and both felt that we were too close to lose each other.
Contact her - since you have been thinking about it for so long she obviously meant a lot to you. Don't dwell on the reasons you stopped talking but how special your friendship was and how much you miss her. Even if nothing becomes of it atleast you will not have to sit and wonder about it any longer.
2007-09-14 07:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by KJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should try and get too close to her again. It sounds like she screwed you over, and if someone ever stole from me, that would be the end of it. It sounds like she made her decision, and I think you deserve a more respecting friend than her. I know it must be hard, especially remembering all the good times, but you must also remember the reason you two are no longer friends, and they are good reasons. At the most, I would say it might be a good idea to get together with her one last time and try to talk through and understand why things happened as they did...to get some closure, but I would recommend not getting so close to her again. Hope that helps.
2007-09-14 14:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, this is a very common situation that friends behave differently when family members are introduced into the equation. I am not sure why this is the case, but it often is.I think enough time has passed that you both might welcome a chance to rekindle your friendship. At the very least, it's worth a shot. Then (even if doesn't pan out) you won't be left with lingering regrets because you'll know you've done all that could be done to facilitate the relationship.
2007-09-14 14:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call her. Ask what she's been doing, give her an update about yourself. Don't bring up anything painful or hurtful, just reconnect as friends. After you start to be friends again, it'll be easier to talk about what happened before, if that is even necessary. You might both just let it go. Good luck.
2007-09-14 14:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by geckosgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i really feel sorry for u Xx! TELL ANYONE WHO CALLS U FAT A HEFFER ! Why dont you ask her or phone her and say we both messed up but i felt used and hurt. i didnt feel welcome in my own home ! If she is asking for a fight....verbal abbuse ect. then tell her I dont want a fight just an explanation. Say i only moved out because of how i felt and if i reallly didnt like you then i would of stopped paying the rent. hope this helps XxXCxXx
2007-09-14 14:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you valued this friend half as much as you say at least try to reconnect but don't let her get so close
2007-09-14 14:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Andy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call her. u dont have so many good friends 2 leave them. try making things up wid her.
2007-09-14 14:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by hero the free-booter 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's alot to read.
2007-09-14 14:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋