Should I go see her or leave her alone?

Question

My grandfather doesn't have much longer to live and my grandmother is having a hard time. I find it difficult to be around her when she's depressed even though I love her. See, I'm vulnerable so it's hard to be around depressing people and things. But people say you should be there for your family when their loved one is dying but that'll be hard for me if she just gets depressed and talk about nothing but depressing things. That's all she talks about these days. I don't know if I should get her mind off her husband's illness by playing card games with her or what. Should I go see her, get her mind off things or just leave her alone for a while? I can't deal with grieving or seeing people who are depressed. Not that I'm unsympathetic but it's hard for me to be that way. I just feel very uncomfortable around people who talk about depressing things and who are really depressed. I got through depression myself and hate to be around it again.

Answer 1

I lost my daughter to cancer in 1990. That was the hardest thing I ever went thru.
The second hardest was feeling so alone after she died.
People do not know how to react to people whom are grieving. I did however have some friends and family that was there for me, Thank goodness.

All I can tell you is to what you think you can do. If you dont think you can handle it, then dont go. Send her a card or letter.
If she doesn't live that far away, then make little trips to visit her and take her things, food, flowers... Or like you said play a game of cards with her... We all need to deal with the loss of family members. That doesn't mean you will go into a depression. It just means that you are there to help someone else in need.

Good Luck, faith