I am of the opinion that most people just have an idea in their head of what love is, and they find someone, they don't know if they love them or not but they gotta have somebody, you know? But I believe that real love is a tangible force, and a verb rather than a noun. When you love someone, it means you truly admire them for their looks, personality, sense of humor, etc. You enjoy spending time with someone you love, and you want to be with them as much as you can. If you truly love someone for who they are, it has nothing to do with poetry or wishes or dreams. Real love is easily expressed for you act on what you feel. Love that is only words and romantic dreams is only a fog that will blow away. Want to see how many people are living on ideals and are not really in love? Look at the divorce rate.
2007-09-14 06:25:57 · 17 answers · asked by Lil Greek Girl 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Good points! You should give classes to those about to marry (in matrimonium ducere, in Latin).
To me, love means accepting the other person as he/she is, faults and all, not trying to change that person. Yes, love can be tangible, as in having sex...
2007-09-14 06:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriage, to a lot of people, is just the next logical step in being an adult and in a relationship. Many don't know how to just be happy in the moment, they rush to the next phase before they realize they aren't ready. Most don't understand the work that goes into a marriage, like another answerer stated. Where me and that answerer disagree is that marriage is about love. You cannot and will not compromise and work together with a mate you aren't in love with for any length of time with positive results.
Love has the power to be both tangible and intangible; as well as a verb and noun. Real love is a verb.....the noun form being the "romantic dream" personified. Its so much more than aesthetics and personality traits....its your soul finding its counterpart.
Edit: Someone below made an excellent point. Many do try to love someone thinking they are someone they aren't--someone they created--rather than loving the person for who they are. Great answer, lady.
2007-09-14 07:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right and wrong, (only my opinion) Most people fall in love with and idea they think is you, a role model they are looking for and they think you fit the bill. Also, most people are looking for love because they think that this will fix what is wrong inside them or think they should be with someone because that is the way it is suppose to be. They want someone to make them feel better or complete or happy that kind stuff. Then when they realise you are not what they created in there illusion, they become angry, doubtful some even evil and or they want to change you into what they thought you were They treat you like "all the rest". They never knew you at all and never loved you for what you are. I find this is so common. That is why you gotta wait, wait and wait some more. Stop and take a good look at yourself and know what you have to give not for now but for your life time. Know what you want. True love may be possible but one must give up needing a hero. Ask around and you will find most people have really high expectations of someone they never met. Why is that? I wanna someone that will...... Love does not work that way.
2007-09-14 07:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think a lot of these people who find themselves in a divorce court DO love the other person, even as the divorce is put through by that other person.
Love is a hard thing for others to judge. What appears to be a fog to us may be the other person's clearest view ever. What may appear as 'merely' ideal may again be rock-solid evidence of love to someone whose growing up was much less than ideal. Who are we to say?
We can only be careful how we go about living our own lives, and if a friend asks for advice on love, then we can dispense our definitions as freely as we like. The friend will either agree or not, usually founded on a pre-conceived notion anyway.
In answer to your question as regards myself, I believe love is as tangible as most actions are. Yes... an active verb, yes to love for a long, long time, as many as possible.
Don't jump on me here; I am for being committed to one, loving the many.
2007-09-14 07:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by LK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love is a deep feeling, tangible because is just for one, intangible because is a fantasy sometimes, you cann´t love to any, love comes from the heart, will be chemical, mental, physicall, or all in one, but you feel this just by one person, you can stay with many people but just one will wake up the attraction, the wish of know more about, the complete admiration, you will see him like the perfect human, like the Adonis and I cann`t explain because is something that you cann`t avoid.
2007-09-14 06:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Graham 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love is a tangible thing. I think the other "love" you were describing is more of infatuation, which is a reason why many get married too soon and divorce. Another reason is people just get married out of stubborness, the lack of willingness to call it quits or admit that the person they're with is not the right one. I don't think love is as subjective as people would like to believe it is.
2007-09-14 06:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Beth C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Lots Of Varied Entertainment"
LOVE a great little acronym forementioned
More stinging than a hot shot of street heroin, more uplifting than a roast turkey on a sunday afternoon at mom's, the most uncomplicated of complicated strategies a human can devise for themselves, mostly based however loosely or hanging, who's genitalia gets what, and at what time is it OMG, oh! okay.
Not sure whether I've ever experienced the white knight on a silver steed jumping into the frey to save a damsel in distress, maybe my ofbeat offsider Blindmelonhead has that answer.
2007-09-14 06:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We use the same four-letter word to characterize a lot of different circumstances in human relationships, but in its simplest form love is willing another's good and acting accordingly.
There are many degrees of love ranging from casual contact to committed relationships. Some of these relationships can be sexual at times and that cerainly qualifies the realtionship, but sex is not necessary for love. Loving couples can move through their years into old age and still be very "in love." Passion can be present in love, but does not define or contain it.
2007-09-14 07:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by rixter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is what makes us feel good.
Just another feeling. Only feeling really. All other feelings are derivatives of love. Weather it be hate, longing, despair, sorrow, spite… they’re all just spin offs of this LOVE thing. How do we feel in relation to this “makes us feel good, makes us feel bad or not good” the only way we can define the negative is in relation to the positive so even the negative emotions are spawned with love.
2007-09-14 07:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by grey_worms 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a word the clever advertisers use to get fools like me to buy chocolates and flowers for my wife on valentines day
marriage is not about love it is about commitment
it is hard work work with lots of compromise and teamwork
this is why the divorce rate is high
people today want instant gratification
tina turner said it
whats love got to do with it
its just a second hand emotion
2007-09-14 06:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good points.. i was 55 b4 I experienced true love. tried a number of times, married twice. then wham! met a gentleman on a saturday, he told me me loved me on monday took me until the following sunday to "know" i felt the same. married 6 weeks later. did not know what the problems would be but was sure we could face them together, as we did, and some were biggies. he has passed away now, but my memory sustains me and could ask for no more. not sure it was love but sure felt like it to me.
2007-09-14 06:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by 5428 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋