A group of guys that are trustworthy friends I've known since primary school have been visiting way too much recently. They've been coming over every day without even calling first, and have been driving me and my brother up the wall.
I still want to be friends, but I need space. What should I do?
2007-09-14 06:04:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop using drugs...if you eliminate the drugs I garauntee they wont come over anymore...then two weeks later tell them you started smoking again and they will be over that very night to celebrate. Works like magic.
2007-09-14 06:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jarrod T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to say "No" once in a while. Just let your friends know that you enjoy their company, but tell them that you had other plans for the day and that you will not be home. Or you can tell them that you will be going to your grandmother's house because she needs help or something. Tell them next time to give you a head's up before coming over to your house. Just be straightforward with them and if they truly are your friends, they will understand and hopefully will give you space.
Best of luck to you..
2007-09-14 06:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Azn Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the courage to tell them exactly that. Ask them to call before they come over. When they call, you will let them know if it's a good time to come over or if you have other things to do or if you just want some downtime to yourself. Don't feel guilty about this. If you don't establish boundaries with your friends, there won't be any boundaries. Your life will be completely at their direction and discretion.
You don't have to yell or whine at your friends about this. Just state your position calmly and firmly. If they show up without calling ahead, just tell them at the door that it's not a good time, please call ahead next time and mean it.
2007-09-14 06:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell them I need space, I'd arrange for 'my space' (a time period when I'm unavailable) then inform them. Maybe at first, until your buds get the drift, you can be away from your house at the times they drop in. After not finding you home a few times, they'll notice something's different and begin responding (even if only to ask "wassup?").
Good luck.
2007-09-14 06:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly ask them to call if theyr comin ... tell them that sometimes u mite be busy so u shud know when theyr comin over. then try suggesting somewhere else to go besides ur own house. if that doesnt work... tell them that ur bro is not comfortable with havin them over all the time so they need to give u space. be straightfwd.. if theyr ur friends theyl understand :)
2007-09-14 06:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by freedom child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be home mate.
Run errands every afternoon - even if its the same one.
Go down the block.
Go over to their place first.
You have to beat them at "Coming over" so you're no longer the normal routine.
2007-09-14 06:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Physics4Rich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that it's not personal but you need to spend some time alone. Tell them the Truth - it's easier.
I do it all the time and my friends respect and understand that.
2007-09-14 06:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by PG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you dont feel like having company everyday and to call 1st before just showing up.
2007-09-14 06:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bark at the Moon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle any situation is just tell them the truth.
2007-09-14 06:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. Dudes aren't as sensitive as chicks are...just tell them truth, nicely, but tell them you are getting busy and would prefer they let call you before showing up. If they're really you're friends....they'll understand.
2007-09-14 06:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by karamell08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋