I just get married tow months a go. we moved to my mother in laws 3bed rooms apartment... for a while until we find our own place I am 22 and my husband is 24... as a new married couple we have sex a lot. and our room is next to my mother in law room. one night was about 4 am in the morning after me and my husband finish making love. I when out side to go to the bathroom and I notice her bedroom light was on. the next morning my husband say the that his mom can hear us clearing when we have sex. and its disturbing her. I told my husband we need to move out. or not to have sex. at all. I don't know whats wrong with her she always trying to keep my husband wake late until I go to sleep. I think she doesn't want him to have sex with me I mean whats up with that>??!!!!the problem she doesn't speak English so she doesn't talk to me at all. I don't to have sex . but my husband want to have sex all the time . I fell embarrassed?!!
2007-09-14 05:20:37 · 29 answers · asked by heregoagain_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The irony of having w i t c h and MIL in the same sentence by accident. LMAO!
Don't feel embarrassed. If the topic ever comes up, talk to your husband and tell him to defend you. The MIL always thinks it's the DIL and not her son. Just ask her..."Well how the hell did you end up with your son if you didn't do anything?"
Keep doing it...it will be more adventurous and eventually she will want to kick you out...
You need to find a place on your own...it's safer and you'll get the MIL out of the way.
2007-09-14 05:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by LadyD 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that she doesn't want you to have sex. It's just probably just disturbing to her just hearing her son have sex. A three bedroom apartment is just too small for an extended family environment.
I'm sure she would be very happy with a new grandchild.. she just doesn't want to see or hear the process in which they are being made.
If you must stay in the same apartment just be a little more discrete. Wait till your mother inlaw goes grocery shopping or maybe a quicky while she's taking a shower.... Atleast until you guy's have a place of your own.
2007-09-14 05:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't against the sex, but the interference in her routine living and sleeping.
It is never easy for young couples who live with parents, but it is common.
If she has 3 bedrooms, offer to use the one furthest away from hers. Try to be more quiet and leave the TV or radio on low to help drown out the natural sounds. Take a shower together before going to bed. Make love in the car in the middle of the night.
Right now, it's a give & take living arrangements and if you think it is embrassing to you, then put on her shoes for awhile.
PS Talk to your husband about this.
2007-09-14 05:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sandie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move out!! Would you like to hear your child having sex all the time? Yes, it is definitely something that married couples do, but in private, not for their parents to hear!! 3 bedrooms you say? Can you move into the other one that is not next to hers?
2007-09-14 05:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is mind blowing to me that people run to get married and then have to live with family as they don't have there own place. You and your husband need to move out. Bottom line her house her rules. It's not that she doesn't want her son to have sex with his wife it is that she doesn't want to hear you having sex in her house. I am sure she feels embarrassed that is her son. Your husband needs to grow up move you and him into your own place and then you can have as much sex as you want where you want. This way you don't have to be embarrassed.
2007-09-14 07:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to hurry up and get your own apartment, but in the mean time since you said there's 3 bedrooms, then move to one of the bedrooms that isn't close to her room. also no parent wants to hear their child having sex all the time, that's disrespectful especially if your not trying to be quiet about it. so just try to be quiet about it and move around the house so that she cant hear...
2007-09-14 06:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be embarrassed that he's not providing for you properly. If you knew you were getting married you also knew you'd have to find a place to live right? You don't belong in her house. Move out! She's treating him like a child because he's not a responsible adult. He should abide by her rules until he's man enough to care for himself.
2007-09-14 05:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Out of consideration for your mother-in-law try to keep the noise down or tell your husband no sex until you move.
2007-09-14 05:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you have to respect her rules since it is her house.. i understand you two are newlyweds and you love sex... cool.. but be respectful of other people. it's rude to be loud when someone else is in the house with you let alone in the NEXT ROOM! i would be mad too.. i don't like that and i really find it to be disrespectful. You two should a.) move out, b.) get a hotel room or c.) if you MUST have sex while she's there, stfu... do it quietly.. trust me i know.. i love to have sex with my man, but before we got our own place, we had to make accomodations and be respectful of other people...
2007-09-14 05:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Aja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol....for some reason i find this amusing. if his mum really finds it 'disturbing' maybe she should move out!!! anyway she is bound to know couples have sex so why doesnt she listen to the tv or something?? if i were you i would moan and groan the roof in!!
tell your husband that you got married to spend YOUR lives together...not him and his mothers!!!
its your house too...you do whatever you need/want to!!
dont be embarassed as its a natural act which most humans do.
2007-09-14 05:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by david k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋