What is wrong with me?!?

Question

I was trying to fill out a job application and I just started crying. I've been a homemaker for the last two years. Before that I was a teacher. Now we need the extra money so I'm planning to be a subtitute teacher. I mostly enjoyed teaching. We don't have any children. Why am I dreading working so much? Am I lazy, a coward, or what? Is it normal to burst into tears filling out an application?

Answer 1

I personally call it "formitis". I find filling in application forms very daunting and exhausting. And yes, it's perfectly normal.

I think basically it's anxiety, and the difficulty of trying to sell yourself to people who aren't in the room is terrific. I personally find it very difficult, because you're trying to meet a set of criteria only half of which people ever put down on the job description, no matter how hard they try, because nobody can entirely predict how the future will pan out.

Good luck, and just keep persevering. Keep imagining yourself doing the job, enjoying it, and benefiting from the extra money. Keep that vision strong in your head and it will make it much easier, I promise.

Answer 2

Hi firstly take a deep breath,

Now I will begin, when one has been out of work for so long it can be very daunting, to consider and indeed go back into the workplace.

Before writing out the aplication form, write down all the expeience you have, You have made your home full of nice things and now the time has come to face the world again.

Maybe you think your not filling out the form corectly, what you can do is pop down to your local job centre (or the such if your pond side as in America) and talk to an employment advisor. They will guide you all the way and signpost to an agency that specialises in helping people in similar circumstances. Best of luck Dave

Answer 3

Maybe its not that you are reacting to the action of filling the application but to the problems in life that is currently haunting you. People tend to be stressed doing simple things that may have a dire consequence such as assuring the inflow of very needed money.

Answer 4

It is normal to be apprehensive about going back out in the 'big wide world' if you have been at home for two years. When you get a job you will soon get your confidence back. Maybe the job you are applying for isn't what you really want? If this is the case then look for something that you feel comfortable with.
Good Luck

Answer 5

You're probably nervous about the prospect of going back to work. I quit working to raise my son and the prospect of going back to work scares the heck out of me. I think the tears were just a sign of stress. I doubt you're lazy as being a housewife can be as much if not more work than a regular job.

Answer 6

Maybe you are depressed? Has this happened at other times?
How do you really feel about going back to work? Have you got a close friend or medical doctor you could talk to?
If it's really bothering you talk to someone!
I have been depressed before and it helps me to seek out my close friend who is a sounding board for me. I also have consulted my doctor and used anti-depressants at times.
Hang in there!

Answer 7

i burst into tears the other day when i drove by a street sign that had the same name of a street I used to live on (I just moved and it's been rough getting settled in)....sometimes, you just need to cry.

Answer 8

Honestly I think you were overwhelmed. Maybe because you haven't worked in a while. I don't think it was because you're lazy or a coward.

Answer 9

Well, I would understand more "if" you had children? Staying home with them and then going back to work would be hard. So,it kinda sounds like you are a bit lazy.

Answer 10

one thought....are you pregnant? and yes its somewhat normal to be reluctant to go back to work. It happens.Especially when you're used to your time at home. Be strong it will all be ok and its not that bad. Its just parttime