Hinting for a baby shower?

Question

Okay, I'm pregnant with my second child. My first was a girl and the shower was after her birth due to her being premature. This one is a boy, with a possibility of being premature. We have most BIG items (ie crib, mattress, swing, car seat, etc.) but have NOTHING when it comes to boy clothes. 1. is it appropriate to throw a more casual baby shower for this child? 2. is it inappropriate for us to throw it or should we hint to family for the shower? 3. If we hint to family for shower, what is a discrete way of going about it. Need You Help!

I know that the question can be considered VERY rude, however, we are short with cash to go out and get new clothes or thrift shop clothes for the baby. We just purchased our first house for the sake of our children. (our previous living arrangements were horrible!) ANYWAYS I don't need anyone to bad mouth me, I'm just thinking of my child and getting items that will help him, which will help us. Any rude comments will be deleted, please be considerate!

Answer 1

I would forgo having a shower.. .I would however depending where you are from go onto freecycle.org find your state/city and post that you are looking for boy clothing.. Someone may be giving away some things you may want.. You'll have to scedule a time/place to pick-up but, everything on the site is FREE... I would also suggest you post some things you'd like to get rid of as well. .To make things fair.. Also, try craigslist in your area you can sometimes find people selling baby things very,very cheap and ebay... Also, I work at KOHL's dept. store and baby children's clothing is ridiculously cheap but, very well made... Also check out your local Goodwill/Salvation Army and ask any friends/family for gently used handme downs as well as garage sales/estate sales.... Good luck

Answer 2

I just read about a really cute idea, it's called a Sprinkle. Instead of a "shower" have a "sprinkle". It's a low key version of the big shower, just for situations such as yours....

What I would do is throw yourself a sprinkle, send out invites saying something like "come and celebrate the upcoming arrival of our baby boy" Maybe have a bbq and encourage everyone to bring an artcile of clothing to outfit your newest addition. That way it's clear what you're in need of and it's more casual that a full blown baby shower. Plus people won't have to spend alot of money, if they're just buying an outfit.

I don't think it's rude at all. Mention your plan to a family member, maybe they'll volunteer to host it for you, if not then just throw it yourself :-)

Best of luck!

Answer 3

It is usually not custom to have another baby shower for your second child. Though, if you have a sister or something, talk openly with her or you mom. Tell her things are tight right now and you could use some help getting the small things. You could also send announcements in the mail that you are going to have another baby and you are due on so and so. You could go to a baby store and register as if it's your first time having a baby. Then in the announcement, you could write and to share in our new bundle of joy, a contribution would be accepted but not neccesary. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 4

These days there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a second shower or a "sprinkle" as they call it (smaller scale since you have most of the things you need). Maybe tell them about it and how cool you think it is. You don't have to be discreet with those that you are close with. I would suggest having a relative or friend do it, though. But if not, have a co-ed welcoming the baby get together/bbq.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I'm pregnant with my second and I'm going to have a baby shower! My kids are 10 years apart and I have nothing! If anyone of my friends were pregnant regardless of if it was a second or third I would buy something for the baby. Have a BBQ or have a welcome home baby party if you don't want to ask someone to throw the party for you. Most people would bring something for the baby.

Answer 6

Well, I have always thought that it is okay to have a baby shower for your second baby. Especially if it is a different sex than your first (or you have them far apart.) I don't know how it came to be that it is not proper. Okay, that being said--I don't think it is okay to throw your own shower. It should be something that someone else wants to do for you. As far as giving hints to family or friends, maybe just try to pop little things into conversation: "man, I don't know how we are going to be able to get everything we need before the baby is born." Those kinds of things. Not constantly, of course, just a few times. If they choose not to, then that is their business. You can't expect it to happen. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

Technically, most people do not have baby showers after the first one. It is considered kind of tacky. Especially if this second child closely folows your first. The family will probably buy a few gifts for the baby anyway but hinting to the fact that you want further gifts is not something you should do (especially if they have not brought it up).
You do not want to cause any negative feelings over gifts before this baby is due.

Answer 8

do you have a really close friend or relitive? Quietly ask if they would mind hosting a shower for you. It does not need to be a big deal, maybe make it a co-ed family shower, with a bbq etc. Make it clear on the invites that its a boy, and register for clothing and supplies only, no big ticket items so you don;t look greedy. 2nd showers are the norm nowadays, anyone who looks down on them is old fashioned!!

Answer 9

hi, im english so the idea of baby showers is something i don't know a lot a bout! However there have been one or 2 qusetions posed about 2nd baby showers before, perhaps you could do a question search for them!
good luck, i have had 2 prem babies but also 2 full term!

Answer 10

I don't know who came up with the idea that you only get one baby shower in your life. Every child is special and should be celebrated. In my family, we throw a baby shower for every baby, my sister's 4th, my ex-sister-in-law's 3rd baby, and we love getting together. I would say it's perfectly acceptable to throw one yourself if you don't think anyone else will. Make it causual but do it and have fun!