Moms...I need a pep talk!?

Question

I am 35wks, and can no longer remember life without severe back pain, hip pain and knee pain. I no longer know what it is like to not wake up several times in the middle of the night hurting so bad that I can't get into a comfortable position and I can't go back to sleep. Getting up from a sitting position is sheer torture to my knees. I go to a chiropractor once a week, have a maternity pillow and a maternity belt. I also have only 5 weeks to go until our baby gets here. :) So...all you moms out there. All I need is encouragement that the pain will lessen (or go away) after I have the baby. It has been so long that I haven't hurt, that I feel as though the pain now is permanent. If you have any suggestions to lessen the pain, that would be fine, but really all I am looking for is words of encouragement and understanding from those of you who have "been there, done that." I am not resenting being pregnant or the baby...just want to know that the pain will eventually go away.

Answer 1

I so feel for you!!!! The pain WILL go away, I promise! Just imagine: You go through some hours of labor (I know, more pain, but the blessed epidural is here!!!) :) and then, the blessed moment comes, when your child comes out of you, and you feel empty, and relieved, and a lot lighter! I loved that feeling of lightness, less pressure, more flexibility, etc. I gaurantee you will feel better! Those last 5 weeks can seem like eternity, I know, but you can get through it, and just think how beautiful and wonderful it will be to hold your baby in your arms, and to feel splendid relief! (you have a great attitude, I noticed your smiley after saying "only 5 wks"!! great way to look at it!)
I hope everything goes well for you! God Bless you! I'll be praying that your present pain can be relieved or bearable.

Answer 2

When people talk about having babies the main focus is always on the agony of labor. Nobody bothers to tell you what your poor body goes through during the pregnancy!

For the most part you'll return to normal after the baby ~ maybe not immediately though. If you have a bad back you may need to continue with the chiropracter for a while. For me it took some time for my bladder to return to normal. I think I actually started going more after I had the baby!

If you have access to a swimming pool or beach, drop what you are doing and go now! It still amazes me how good it feels to be in the water, you'll never want to leave! It takes all the pressure off everything, all the aches and pains just disappear. That is the best advice I can give and it really works for me.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Once you actually have the baby all the pain disappears within 6 weeks. your body will feel lighter and you will be feeling pretty good. Don't listen to all the negative birth stories. I was so scared when i went in to have my son. It was nothing that i had hyped it to be. It was very simple. If you keep exercising and keep yourself going it will be easier. The best piece of information that someone gave me was that not to rest right before the baby. Resting makes it take more time. I worked right up until the end of it. It helped alot. my son is 3 months now and i am completly back to normal. i did gain a little extra weight but it took 9 months to gain it it will take longer to get it off. if you do some yoga or stretching activitiese that should help eliveate the pain. Talk to your dr. and see if you can take some tylonol. Tylonol will help a little at night to let you rest. The end is near the pain is almost gone. Hope everything goes well.

Answer 4

:) pain goes away. Try to do some small stretches through out the day. Use ice/heat packs on the knees/feet and anywhere that wont effect the babies temp. Get your mind off the pain and get everything ready for a infant! :) You soon will not be waking up in pain but to a hungry baby. You will be alright, just think of the mom's going through this without comfortable beds, doctors and heat packs! :)

Answer 5

Just think...in about 5 weeks you will get to lay down and stretch and sleep on your tummy...you won't feel like you have to pee all the time and all of a sudden you will feel like you can take a deep breath again. No more heartburn, no more feeling like all your organs are under your ribcage either.

my kids were all around 10 lbs each and I would have to sleep literally sitting up , had to have help getting out of chairs and cars, couldn't sit behind the wheel of a car to drive and went to work more than once with two different shoes on.....~sigh~ I was picked at and joked about for months but took it all in stride.

It all comes to an end.....before you know it, the back and knee and hip pain will be replaced with stinky diapers and spit up...and that's far better thing to handle.

Congratulations and hang in there "mom"...it's a bumpy ride, but one that you will never forget and never regret.

Answer 6

I remember those days and don't miss them. My daughter just turned 1. Swimming was the best thing for me. The whole weightlessness part of being in water. I do admit I must have looked like a beached whale.
And in the end it does go away, only to be replaced with late nights, early mornings, some headaches (get aspirin now).
But everything will be every much worth it once you hold you baby in your arms. Then the back pains, and headaches will seem so insignificant.

Good luck, best wishes.

Answer 7

I'm a belly sleeper. Believe me, I know what you're going through.
Although it seems like the hugest problem now, you won't even pay mind to how nice the painless sleep (even if it is only 20 minute clips!) will be after your baby is here.
It will go away & you'll be fine.
For now, try propping up a bunch of pillows that you can rest your chest & head on and get a couple minutes of sleep in an almost upright position (against a wall is best). This helped me out a bit.

Congrats & good luck!!!!

Answer 8

Hang in there.......you are in the home stretch! Think for a moment about 35 weeks. 35 wks vs. 5 wks. Piece of cake!! ;)

You sound like you need a BIG pick me up. Please, please, go pamper yourself! Get a pedicure or a massage! Massage is so wonderful and beneficial during pregnancy! (All you have to do is make sure the massage therapist is trained in prenatal massage.) And a pedicure.....well you probably can't reach your toes, right?! LOL So have someone else do it!

And, yes, the pain WILL go away! All of the pain is worth it, because end the end you'll have a beautiful amazing wonderful baby! I don't know of any other painful experience that has such an unbelievable payoff!! All of us who have been there can sympathize. But it will be over soon!

Go do something nice for yourself! You will be taking care of someone else soon and you can forget to take care of yourself.

Hang in there! :)

Answer 9

chin up, the pain will go away. It will take a while though and you have to give yourself time to heal after the baby is born.

Walking may help because it gets your blood moving and keeps your joints loose. Take it easy though, you don't want to damage yourself - if it HURTS don't do it.

Try stretching and drinking lots of water. Those will help both your joints and your back. Especially the water. Most people don't drink enough which causes achyness even when you're not pregnant.

But, mostly keep your spirits up. Think about holding the little one in your arms and looking in their little eyes. It's the greatest feeling in the world and cannot be explained or truly described. Your life is about to change and it will be wonderful.

Answer 10

You will feel much better after delivery. All of that extra weight is putting pressure on you that will be lifted after you give birth. Keep the faith - I'm sure you are doing fine. My children are 18 and 16, I was very uncomfortable, especially with my daughter, even for a few weeks after birth, but at least I was a lot more comfortable and in time it all goes back to how you felt before you were pregnant.