embarrass my daughter as it's her birthday today and she's having friends for a sleepover before going karting in the morning
Should I act a numpty and get all her old photos out and wear bad clothes or just be 'normal'?
2007-09-14 02:26:27 · 40 answers · asked by pirate_princess 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forgot to mention, she has a wicked sense of humour and would do the same to me!!
2007-09-14 02:30:19 · update #1
She is 15 today.
2007-09-14 02:37:44 · update #2
Just be yourself. If she embarrasses you or if she plays up get out the photos.
2007-09-14 07:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing how old she is, I would say the best thing is to put on your "cool mom" hat. These are her friends and though it may be funny later, you don't want her to be upset on her B-day because she's embarrased by her mom. (Not only that, but it's always a good feeling to be known as the cool mom!!)
We don't appreciate loving humor & embarrasment until we're a little older. Some mature kids may be OK with it around age 14-15 but some of us it takes much longer to not be mortified by our mothers & our baby pics.
You'll have plenty of time to embarrass her later, but for tonite, I'd say live it up. Make sure the sleepover is a BLAST for the girls. Get them cool movies, let them stay up all night & eat junk food, the usual. Next time you do this, you might want to get together with the other girls parents & snag some old photos or horror stories from them, that way the girls will be mortified together & they'll have a ball laughing at each other (not just everyone laughing at her).
But it's your call...if she's a really, really good sport, she may take it well!! Good Luck & have fun, we'll have you in our prayers!!! LOL
2007-09-14 02:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by buckshotbullies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on her age and what type of a girl she is...however, I would think twice about it.
What you might think as funny may really cause your daughter a lot of unneccessary embarrassment.
I would just be "normal" and with maybe a little "kick" of humor but don't bring out the old photos without making it a suggestion first. Have fun with them if they want you too but, when they decide enough is enough, don't take it to heart, just respect it and let her have her fun! Think about what you might have felt at her age in everything that you do.
Hope all goes well!
2007-09-14 02:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by JaeDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday to her!
I love the idea of numpty! So I suggest answering the door for the guests and parents dropping off their children or at least the first hour or so, just acting like yourself. If you all of a sudden come out with your hair in a sideways ponytail and your sweatshirt hanging off your shoulder sucking on a sucker admiring your bunny slippers asking the girls "if they, like, totally love marshmallows" cause you do...then you will be AWESOME MOM! Her friends will think you're hysterical and she will wonder what is wrong with you! Nothing wrong with having a little fun, and KUDOS to you for involving yourself. In the long run, she will be more likely to come to you with anything because she feels comfortable with you.
2007-09-14 02:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Act like a numpty? Personally i think you should act like normal and make it a great day for your daughter.
2007-09-14 02:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither... unless normal for you is doing a little something special and caring like making them brownies & renting them cool movies.
EDIT- Well in that case, skip the bad clothes and go all out with a costume... like a maid & intrusively wait on them hand and foot. Funny, & not super embarassing cause the girls will *know* you're acting.
2007-09-14 02:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jennield 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great that your daughter has such a tight bond with you that she feels she can have a little fun with you, but don't try to be your daughter. You know how important it is for kids to appear cool in front of their friends, so save your jokes for a time when she is not surrounded by her mates.
2007-09-14 02:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what kind of relationship you have with your daughter. If she is the type to get embarrassed, then you prob should not.
If you know and are cool with her friends, then it might be funny. Just don't go overboard with it. But if you don't know her friends, you would just come off as being nutty.
2007-09-14 02:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by marhasani 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be a normal mother...
a child wants her mother to be her friend...
but not in front of her friends...
it might hurt her....
you can still have fun with them without acting numpty
2007-09-14 02:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by back to life and enjoying 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be nice, to your daughter
she may not deserve it, and she may not appreciate it.
but don't start a pattern of behavior that she might bring back to haunt you later.
also, and i'm speaking from observation as I don't have any kids of my own,
there are a lot of problems for kids to deal with out there. If they know you love and respect them, I feel they are more likely to bring those problems to you rather than to their friends who do not have the life experience and wisdom that you have.
while doing that might be fun, you know your daughter best and your asking makes me think that you are not sure how your daughter would deal with it later on, 6 months or so.
err always on the side of caution and give them an avenue of escape as a lot of parents are disconnected from their kids, and to have a loving parent will be very observable to the kids there. I have witnessed kids coming to another parent for help because their own disrespects them, belittles them and acts unresponsible while they are trying to establish themselves among their peers.
just my thoughts, but I see our world as a dangerous place to kids that are unprotected by loving parents.
2007-09-14 02:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by magnetic_azimuth 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋