top of my husband while having sex??? doing it in the dark doesn´t make me feel less embarrassed...I am afraid of the tecnical part...how can I overcome this?
2007-09-14 02:01:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get ready girl, he's gonna leave you!
2007-09-14 05:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you afraid of pain?Does it feel degrading or is there some major insecurity about your own skills?If that be the case -Practice makes perfect.See you gotta try different positions and take charge even if it's from behind because you need variety or it'll get boring as heck! Oh no!did someone tell you that it was dirty in some way?'Cuz honey it's NOT.I agree with you in some ways it's not my favorite pos.-Does nothing for me ,but if my guy wanted it for a little while I'd try some.Hope it's not a psychological thing if you think it is go to therapy.Lots of things can be discovered there.Count sheep or put your mind on more pleasant things until it's over I 'spose
2007-09-14 09:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey! . You are as worse a a cheating spouse. You are cheating your self and him of so much. the beauty of the human body and the feelings of good sex.My GOD you must have not ever had an orgasms. I love to be rode. More that any other way. Dam when my lady goes off what a thrill for me. Watching her quiver with delight. I bet he has never seen you in the nude. If so you have robbed him of the greats peace of art there is. The beauty of his woman. Why do you think there are Strip clubs and prostitutes. A man needs to see the beauty of a woman's body. He needs to feel the warmth woman's body. I was never so hurt when I dated a lady that did not what to be touched or looked at. It hurt like hell and made me feel like dirt. Honey get over this. Enjoy the the greats gift the good Lord gave us.
2007-09-14 09:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by tadm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a very good variety of answers to choose as best. I had some insecurities for years because of my weight, but even when I was heavy, I would have my partner lay on the floor, and ride him like a bull. He loved the breasts doing their own flip flop thing! After being together for many years, certain inhibitions should be done away with, and that's one. When you are with the person you love-nothing else even matters.
2007-09-14 13:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to get over it! Only to try something new.
Either you are a BIG girl, as I, or a girl with no enthusiasm to try something new. It's just one of things you need to get over and realize how fun it could be if ya just let go.
What's the hold up??
You have been married for many years, so he pretty much knows you all the way around, and inside and out.
Look at it this way, you're in control if you're on top..LOL
Get on and get it when you can and have fun!!
2007-09-14 09:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that the woman on top position puts her in the most control of the sexual interaction. YOU control his orgasm~~which in turn means that you can control yours!! Remember this when refering to the vagina~men spend their life chasing it, it is the single most amazing thing on the planet, think about it, it brings much happiness to a man, it is the entrance way for a child, and it is an amazing sense of pleasure (when worked the right way) for a woman. THAT alone should allow you to be confident. I agree with Britt~confidence is sexy~and a man that can see a woman comfortable with her body~is probably the most sexy thing around!!!
Try this: try sitting on his lap while he is on the couch, it seems a bit less on display if he is in a sitting up position as well(try it both ways too, both forward and backwards~facing him and facing away from him). My husband loves it when I straddle him while he is sitting up in the chair or on the couch. It is a different sensation, and it is very effective for clitorial stimulation~my guess is that if you start getting an orgasm out of the interlude, riding the bull will become one of your favorite positions!! I know it is for me!!
GOOD LUCK AND GOOD SEX!!!!
2007-09-14 09:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Freaking turn on the damn lights and get it on. Stop being a prude and you'll be a lot happier. He has been married to you for years obviously he thinks highly of you so give yourself a break, let your hair down, throw his but on the bed and ride him to you're fully satisfied. I promise if you do it you'll have the best sex of your life.
2007-09-14 13:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Quix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because you are not comfortable with sex. You are a very submissive person and need to learn to take control in your life. Get on top of him and make him yours. You need to be comfortable with the thought and feelings of having sex.......in all honesty, you need to practice on yourself and get vocal while you are doing it, that way next time you are with him it will feel more natural.
2007-09-14 09:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and tell him and he, I'm sure will help you thru this. It sounds as though you love him with all your heart. I promise you, he will help you get through the embarrassing part and it will ever bring the two of you closer...Good luck cowgirl....
2007-09-14 09:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
technical? It's just up and down. Your husband loves you more then anyone. Put your nervousness aside. Just do it once- you just need that one time- and you'll be just fine. You can sit up for a while and then lean over him, give him a sexy kiss, have your hair fall on his face, rub your breasts on him. Trust me- you'll know what to do.
2007-09-14 09:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by RSJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and get over yourself. Are you seriously that self conscious with your husband? You being on top is your opportunity to control things to make you feel good and make him feel treated special.
When he is on top, do you just lay there like a dead fish too?
2007-09-14 09:12:55 · answer #11 · answered by jcsuperstar714 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋