how can I spice up my sexlife with my husband ?

Question

please, speak from your own succesful experiences...

Answer 1

Well I know some tips about this and some of them i just found online:Hope it will help. Good luck;)

1. Pretend you just met him
"When our sex life started to slow down, I started thinking about how another woman would see my husband if she just met him -- and this made me want to impress him. I did things like buying new lingerie, getting up just a little earlier than usual to join him in the shower or making time to play later in the tub. We totally rediscovered each other's sexiness after that."

2. Tease each other
"Sometimes, when my husband and I wake up and hear the kids, we start kissing and caressing anyway. Of course we don't continue, but we get all worked up and then go all day stealing little looks and kisses. Sure, we could duck away and end the torture, but I think that secretly, we both enjoy this little dance. It definitely keeps things exciting!"
3. Act on your moods
"My problem was that even if I was in the mood when my husband was at work, by the time he got home I'd be too exhausted. It started to get so frustrating! Then, I figured out a plan. Every time I get in the mood during the middle of the day, I put a blindfold or something suggestive under his pillow. Even though I may be too tired to initiate sex later, he finds my little clue and definitely gets the message."

4. Get high-tech
"I've started emailing my husband sexy fantasy scenarios on his personal email account. This really helps me to get brave. Because sometimes, I just feel silly showing him my sexual side when we're face-to- face. Plus, getting his mind going like that has certainly has paid off."

5. Rent an "adult" video
"There are so many helpful sex videos available that are not intimidating at all. The one I like is narrated by a sex therapist; it's instructional in nature. You learn how to effectively stimulate someone, but on a really nonthreatening level."

6. Take real life and shove it
"My husband and I were always too busy for love. Finally, one night we were getting serious about fooling around and what happened? The phone rang! Even though he picked it up, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and kept right on kissing him, all over. I loved that power, and he went wild too -- when he finally got off the phone."

7. Be at each other's mercy
"Once I whispered in my significant other's ear to take hold of my hand. Then I told him I was going to close my eyes and he had to place my hand anywhere on his body. Then I massaged whatever area it was. He was kind of in control, but ultimately I controlled the pleasure."

8. Surprise him -- and yourself!
"I flashed my husband when he got home from work last night. Enough said, right?"

9. Heat up the outdoors
"We like to pack a picnic and head to our favorite secluded spot. Sometimes we even get to go skinny dipping there. When you try it don't forget a blanket or sleeping bag, pillows and bug spray because you're sure in for a long night! Of course, city dwellers can picnic too. Just create a hideaway spot on your bedroom floor!"

10. Be aggressive
"Telling my husband what to do in bed is very erotic. Although I wouldn't want a puppy dog for a husband all the time, it is so much fun to say what I want, when and how. Then there is seeing his response! He might get even more turned on than me."

11. Share (racy) compliments
"Once my husband and I were going to fool around in front of a mirror. He stood behind me and slowly undressed me. But as he moved along he told me how beautiful each part of my body is. Let me tell you, I didn't mind a bit. Compliments are a wonderful way to heat up any situation. The next time we made love I gave him a few of my own!"

12. Do a little dance
"I know that lots of women feel comfortable doing a striptease, but I'm way too shy to try it. I have my own version of one. I just dance for my fiancé, making him want to touch me, but never let him. After I've taken off just a few items of clothing, I let him do the rest! It's all at my speed, and he loves it! In the end, we're both very happy."

13. Go to a "toy store" together.
"My husband and I had planned a real date, just the two of us. We dressed up and hit the town. After dinner, I was sure the night was finished, but he had a detour planned. We pulled right into a sex store! I think if he gave me time to think about it, I'd have chickened out. But instead, we walked through the whole store -- and it was very exciting! I think that I even managed to control the blushing until we left."

14. Slip into something more comfortable
"One night, after my boyfriend and I went out dancing, he offered to get take-out and bring it back to my place. While he was gone, I decided to make the room -- and myself -- more 'comfortable.' This meant lighting candles, putting on a long satin nightgown, and spraying room freshener. I didn't plan on taking it further, but when he walked in with the food, I saw his eyes jump. So I decided to walk over to him seductively. I pressed my body up to his, and whispered into his ear, 'I have wanted you so badly all night.' That's when his mouth hit the floor, along with the food!"

15. Spend intimate time together
"Read a chapter of a book together every night. You can eat grapes, drink wine, even incorporate adult toys or choose to read erotic literature to each other. But for my husband and me, this is all about making an effort to touch, cuddle and spend intimate time together. That leads to an exciting evening no matter what!"

16. Appeal to all his senses
"I have been known to put cinnamon on a cookie sheet, turn the oven on and leave the door open a bit. This fills the house with the smell of chocolate chip cookies and puts my husband in a really good mood. 350 degrees usually does the trick!"

17. Get -- and give -- sneak previews
"What I like best is when my boyfriend and I describe what we're about to do to each other before doing it. As he talks, I can practically feel what will happen to my body. Talk about a double whammy. When he finally does it, I go through the roof! "

18. Make a bedroom rule "There is one standing 'rule' in our bedroom. We are not allowed to use the same position more than once in a week. Of course we break the rule, but not often, and it generally keeps us from getting into a boring sexual routine."

19. Make a game of it
"I challenge my boyfriend to a game of basketball when things get dull. Whoever wins gets whatever he or she wants. Plus, you could make it a full body contact sport."

20. End boredom with a routine
"We always celebrate the new year with sex! We've tried to time our orgasms so they both strike right at midnight, but haven't been able to yet. The good news is that we just get to keep trying next year!"

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Sit down with the lights low, something good to drink and a box of his favourite chocs and... talk!

Discuss your fantasies. Look at erotica together, peruse some porn.

Every one has something that makes them tic - you need to find yours for the two of you.

Handcuffs, as have already been discussed, silk scarves (but be careful with them that can tighten if their tugged) and bondage rope are good places to start. Tie him up, or let him tie you up - which ever you both like best - and play. Try a blindfold to remove embarrassment and experiment with different feelings. Some people like ice (I don't), feathers, silk, tights (panty-hose), honey, chocolate sauce, pinching, clothes pegs (pins), spanking..... the list is endless.

Many men like their prostate stimulated, or general anal play - don't go bigger than your finger on the first session though and let him take control on that. This can lead to intense orgasms for him when combined with fellatio.

Have fun! Keep an open mind! And listen to each other!

Answer 4

There are more than a few things you could do to make things more fun. One of my favorite ways to make things interesting is to change enviroments - as someone else said - getting a room somewhere, spreading a blanket out under the stars, getting busy in the back seat of the car like when you were a teen. Or have sex at an odd time of day - if your kids are in school or you can even have them babysat for an afternoon - have hubby come home for lunch or take off early so that you can make love on the living room floor or the couch, as even just changing the setting within your own home can spice things up. Also, visiting an adult store is a great way to explore. You can check out everything from massage oils to "toys" to lingerie and more. Sometimes my hubby and I will go and spend an hour or more browsing and we each pick out one item and by the time we get home we're ready to go. Or you could go on your own or with a girl friend - buy a sexy item and if you have a camera phone or a digital camera either send a picture message to hubby's phone or email him a pic of the item you purchased with a note saying that you can't wait to try it out with him. Also, it can be fun to make a list of all the things that you've never done sexually and try out some of those things at least once. Tell your hubby that you're curious about those specific things and would like to try them at least once and ask how he feels about it. Another way to spice things up is to make your own movie or take your own photos. I will occasionally take photos of myself and leave them on hubby's computer and that is all it takes to get him going. Fantasies also can do a lot in the bedroom - everything from costumes to just verbal play - wear something sexy to bed the night you want to seduce him and say to him "let's pretend we're both porn stars" and then go with that fantasy. Sometimes pretending that you're someone else or in some other time can be a lot of good fun and can help you loosen up a bit. There are also games that you can purchase at adult stores for lovers - like the lover's dice or board games. Those can be fun if you have the time. Also, making yourself FEEL sexy is a good way to spice things up. Getting a pedi/manicure, a haircut, taking a nice long hot bath and slathering up with some good smelling lotion, buying a sexy skirt or undies, those things will make you feel sexy like I said and can go a long ways in the bedroom - when you feel sexy you're bound to be more inspired behind closed doors! Although my husband and I enjoy adult movies - I would not encourage you to bother with this just yet as it seems as though YOU want to get hubby's attention and a movie with other people(while not a bad thing) is going to divert attention away from you two focusing on one another.

Answer 5

Buy some books with pictures of different positions to try. Kama Sutra is a good one, but browse through the books at the bookstore first to make sure the book you pick out suites you and your husband. Browsing together can start to heat things up! If you are too embarrassed, books can be ordered off the internet. If your husband usually initiates sex, take the lead and surprise him. Guys like being "pounced." Ask him what his sexual fantasies are. But act them out only if you are comfortable with them. Get some toys from a specialty shop. Go together to pick them out. Call him at work and tell him what you are going to "do to him" when he gets home. Drives my husband crazy! ;)

Answer 6

well I have been married for over 10 years and I know the feeling
I talked with my friends about it and they said try different stuff.
1st. thing was put little notes in his lunch bag or briefcase about things you plan on doing to him.
2nd. thing is met him at the door with nothing on but a bow tied around you have dinner set up on the floor in front of a fireplace with candles sitting everywhere. Take my advice the both worked really well I think he broke the record getting home that day after all the notes he found.

Good luck

Answer 7

well im not married but have been with my partner for a long time and he has a very healty sex life and i felt the same as you what can i do all this, i sat down with my partner and asked him what he would like to do most men like women to b the domenering one want them to do all the work sometimes so get the sutra book out and if he can do it all night do all the moves they have got, roleplay is also good and watching porn together is also good hope that helps in some way.

Answer 8

Porn, Handcuffs and a sex swing. Actually the sex swing is really hard to set up, but i strongly recommend handcuffs and blindoflds. Also some light slapping and biting helps get the blood going.

Also, porn played really loud helps a bit, you may not feel comfortable with it at first but give it some time, you may learn to like it that way.

Answer 9

Take strip or lap dancing lessons or buy those striptease DVDs or type "sexy dance/ stiprease" on dailymotion.com then try to learn it. Then buy a really hot lingerie. Dont forget to get a Brazilian wax! :-)

Answer 10

Try to be open to what he likes do it in the park #######
try nude camping / time togather NO phones /no TV / no
kids must the two of you >......
take the lead start the play first be on top.
let your hair down ( Go wild )

Answer 11

Just as he is leaving for the day -let him know exactly what you have in mind for that evening. Let him think about it all day !