I am 32 years old and I divorced my wife in 2005. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past 2 years. Over the past 6-8 months our relationship has hit rock bottom. There has been some dishonesty and trust issues dealing with our relationship. No cheating that I am aware of but a lot of trust issues. We lived together we lived together for seven months then she decided she wanted to get her own place because of my instability. I admit I haven't been stable for the past 2 years. I have moved 5 times over the past 2 years. Everytime my lease end I move. Now that is one of the major problems. I need stability. She has lost trust in me and no longer have passion for me. She says she loves me and want to work on this relationship but I haven't been intimate with her for 3 weeks now. I'm not talking about just sex but everything else that comes with a relationship. I miss her so much and I am so in love with her. What do I do? Stability is my priority right now.
2007-09-14 01:14:37 · 5 answers · asked by micha_gil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Who wants to sail in a perpetually rocking Boat?Focus on stabilizing now and rest shall follow.And who knows,there may be a better deal waiting for you there after.
2007-09-14 01:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need stability in your life you are the only person who can give you that!! You sound like your finding your own instability difficult to live with - so don't expect your g/f to find it easy! At 32 yrs old you are old enough to start making long term plans for your own future - i.e. looking towards taking a long-term lease on a home, establishing yourself somewhere you want to live, setting goals for yourself and making plans to help you reach those goals. If you begin to work on yourself and your future, every one of your relationships, whether with friends, family or a partner will improve. The first move is yours though.
Perhaps you might consider asking your doctor/health worker to refer you to a life coach/counsellor to help you find a focus in your life right now?
2007-09-14 01:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a break and make some decisions that will influence your life, not just your but hers as well.... we all have moments where our lifes fall apart. Before retaking your relationship decide what you want and what you need to make your life more stable, get another job, study, go on a cruise.... if she loves you she will help you make the change in your lifes and make your relationship work not because you want to but because you love each other very much and want to share you're life together. hope my advice helps.
2007-09-14 01:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by CJV228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this very well, my income has been up and down, sometimes i need to focus on just getting by. At other times we share everything, women need financial security, but mostly just need love. Sometimes its easier to think i'll just focus on me and getting the results i need at work to offer her and us both much better, but than theres that thing called love, if she loves you she will let you in, if she knows your hurt ! Be patient but explain everything all the time.
2007-09-14 01:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man you need to pull yourself together and start acting like a man. Grow some balls, stand up and straighten up.
Others may think it, but I have the balls to say it... GROW UP!
barryoffshore...
2007-09-14 01:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bear~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋