What would be worse losing your true love & life partner, or losing your child, if you had to decide ?

Question

We heard the news today of a couple faced with this news. The wife had cancer and without treatment would die, she than fell pregnant and decided to stop treatment to save her unborn child, thus sacrificing herself and their marriage on the chance her "unborn" would be saved. But what about any other children ? Would it be better to continue treatment and save the marriage and maybe have IFV later if need be ? Brave, but ...

Answer 1

If we protect the present now,we can always protect a future later.By continuing the treatment you aren't saving the marriage per se but a full fledged life first.Who knows what happens to their marriage in future but we do know for sure what would happen to a life,if not protected NOW.

Answer 2

You sure ask a whooper of a question.
.the things we don't know is the treatments she was taking.Ina case where a women is PG. and is no more than very early condition,the doctor and family will discuse Aborting.
the tretment of cancer is radition and cemo and in radition of 18 -28 treatments .this hasto be done
on a day after day,every day till completed,followed up with tretments of cemo.
End results,it may be in remision.most of the time
the cancer showes up in a different area.
Most likely the mother would want the baby to live.the wife would live on through the child.
I dought that this matter would get that far.
It's a question ask by most doctors early in treatment.NOT family Doctor but cancer Doc.
Yes some cancer patients survive and live a long
time,and they are called SURVIVERS,and have
fund raiseres for other's.what hurts is children
with it.

Answer 3

Wow. Nice question - really! Without hesitation, I would also say it would be FAR worse to lose a child. In fact, I'll directly disagree with someone who answered above me when they said a couple would be together long after a child is gone. In my own opinion, your child will ALWAYS be your child. There's no legal process that breaks that blood relation. I think a child will be there MUCH longer than any significant other.

I've even thought to put myself in a womans shoes (Bear with me here.) If I am pregnant, and there's a decision to make similar to yours with not just the risk involved, but my definitive death as a result of taking the pregnancy to term. I have already lived a life. I may not be ready to die, but this little child inside me has every right to experience all I have this far. If one of us has to go, then let it be me.

Answer 4

In this situation it is a miserable choice to be made. Spouses are, in a perfect world, going to be together long after the children are gone. However, I also believe that a mother has to put her children above everyone else when they are at the stage of life where they are totally dependent on her. Too bad they were not more careful about getting pregnant at that time. Ultimately the choice is in the hands of the individual. Nobody should be able to dictate your medical/moral choices. A right to chose abortion also means a right to chose not to have one.

Answer 5

I have had this discussion with my husband many times posed as this questions

"if a man had a gun as was going to shoot and kill either me or our child, which one would you tell him to shoot and kill?"

The answer would always be to let the adult die. They have had a chance to live a life, while the child has many years ahead of them. If you were in a situation where your child was gravely ill, wouldn't you want to take that child's place to end their suffering and take it on yourself?

That's part of being a parent..sacrificing yourself and your needs for the needs and good of your child.

People that don't feel that way don't need to have kids.

Answer 6

That has to be one of the most awful situations you would ever have to face. I guess, if it was my first child, I might sacrifice myself for the baby, but it would have to depend on a lot of other factors,,, could my husband care for the child and bring it up alone... would that even be fair to him? If I already had children, I might choose to save myself... I don't know, but my born children would also have a right to have their mother present in their lives for as long as possible.. Ohh, really hard question.

Answer 7

I don't have children, so perhaps you will deem me "unqualified" to voice an opinion on this matter. But, you asked so here it goes.

If I were pregnant and the choice came between saving me or saving my unborn child, I would beg my bf and my doctors to save my baby. I know it would leave my bf without his life partner and my child without its mother, but that's what I would do.

Answer 8

I think it is really brave of her to risk it on the baby. I know I would have done the same to save my baby had i been given the chance. Even though they are not born you develope a special bond with them. And nothing hurts more than knowing you lost your baby because you couldn't save it. Trust me, i would know.

Answer 9

melancholy or no longer , you won't be in a position to make yet another guy or woman choose you , sorry regardless of the undeniable fact that this is real. you won't be in a position to stay anothers existence for them regardless of how lots you guard them. i understand this is not person-friendly and this is not going to be person-friendly yet i'd take him at his observe (that he would not choose you in his existence any further) regardless of regardless of in case you suspect that's the melancholy speaking or no longer. whilst he contacts you tell him factor clean that he asked you to no longer be in his existence any further and you're honoring his request. Then tell him you won't be in a position to try this purely being acquaintances and pass away the ball in his courtroom. interior the interim, volunteer, attend church centers on sunday mornings, decide for a walk interior the park, pass see a comedy at your interior sight action picture theatre, do you desire to envision? capture up on some analyzing you will been intending to do. shop your recommendations and your physique lively and your spirit will persist with. I actually have a pal who's wild approximately this guy yet he travels for months at cases. so she gets lonely. nicely she hasn't heard from her guy on account that Dec eighth. She has long gone on together with her existence devoid of telling her guy whats happening in any respect. Shes made new acquaintances and finding out she has hobbies she in no way knew she had till now. possibly that would desire to be you..... sturdy good fortune to you and God Bless!

Answer 10

If this was me I would terminate my pregnancy and carry on treatment especially if I had other children already and if I did survive the cancer I could go on to have more children if I wanted.