i am doughtful i don't know if i still love my boyfreind or what. i have even stayed with this married guy since he's wife doesnot come home offen but i am worried that my boyfreind will find out what can i do
2007-09-14 00:59:52 · 24 answers · asked by lovenote 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave your boyfriend....I say this because your relationship is now based on a lie. And don't be a home wrecker either. Leave that man alone. How would you feel if someone was doing it to you?
2007-09-14 01:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump both of them. If the married guy is unhappy in his marriage then it is his responsibility to do something about it, and not yours. You also need to halt your marriage plans ASAP. Take it from someone who IS married-marriage is hard, it takes a lot of work, and a lot of love to keep the relationship together through the hard times. If you have ANY doubts-don't do it. I can tell that you are younger than I am, and I am telling you this from experience. Please listen to me. You have no business marrying anyone unless he is the only guy that you're thinking about. And the married guy...lose him. If he cheats on his wife there is a very good chance he'll cheat on you. Whatever you do, don't rush into marriage. It isn't easy, and if you marry the wrong person your life is going to be hell and you'll probably eventually end up getting a divorce. Then if there are kids involved you will have to take their well being into consideration, which puts you in an even more difficult situation. Plus your fiance deserves to be with someone who wants only to be with him. Lose both of the guys!
2007-09-14 01:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but your not gonna like this answer much...Your seeing a guy that is married but your suppose to marry your boyfriend. If you aren't sure if you still love your boyfriend then the best thing you can do for both of you is to walk away now, before the wedding.
As far as sleeping with married men, there's a little thing out there called KARMA that will just about guarantee that you will become married one day and your husband will start sleeping with women behind your back, kind of falls into the do unto others as you'd have them do unto realm!
I sort of feel bad for you because we have all been young a confused at some point of our lives but it may just be time to sort things out and grow up!
Good luck.
2007-09-14 01:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BUT? BUT? There is NO BUT.
End your affair with the married man and end your relationship with your "Fiance" and stay single for at least 12 months until you grow up get your self respect back and learn that coming 2nd best is NOT ok EVER.
You need to find yourself and find out what causes you to have an affair and deal with it this is why you have to stay single and celibate , other wise your going to carry this on for the remainder of your life is this what you want to be known as for ever a home wrecker? a ho? a wh*re?.NO.
So get your life straightened out NOW!!!!!And dont be so low as to blame the wife for her husbands stupidity and selfishness he isnt going to leave her for you sheesh remove the rose coloured glasses would you.Your not cinderella.
I can talk till I'm blue in the face your going to keep this going anyways so it doesnt really matter does it because oppinions are oppinions and your choice is your choice.Just hope you can live with the consequences of YOUR choice.
2007-09-14 01:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Women as yourself are one of the reasons why divorce rates are so high. You flippantly state how you are sneaking around on your boyfriend with a married man - doing damage to not only your relationship, but to this mans. And all you can worry about is if your boyfriend will find out. You need to grow up and quit playing games with peoples lives. Self-absorption and self-gratification seem to be your strong character traits.
What should you do? Get out of all of these peoples lives so they can concentrate on receiving the love they deserve. Perhaps someday you will see the devistation and deep hurt you could case by your immature, selfish actions.
2007-09-14 01:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your already cheating on your boyfriend even before you get married i would strongly suggest you call the wedding off. lies are always found out and you'll end up hurting him more in the long run. as far as the married man is concerned what are you thinking he's married. leave him alone that relationship is headed for disaster. spend sometime alone for awhile and think about what you really want in a partner before you become involved with anyone again. you can hurt a lot of people including yourself if you continue down this path.
2007-09-14 01:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and until you grow up and can answer these questions for yourself, don't mess with men. You are clearly not mature enough to deal with a marriage, and one clearly mired in a lie from the get-go. You have no business getting married and certainly no business being with someone else's married man.
Go to your boyfriend and tell him you are not getting married because you are immature and not prepared to make important responsible choices in your life. If you can do that, you are on the right path to getting to where you need to be.
As for the married guy, don't see him, call him, or return his calls. Drop him from your life entirely. He deserves no explanation and neither of you deserves the other's company. He's married, or still married at least, and that is a line not to be crossed .... and if anyone is going to cross it, it shouldn't be an immature gal like you.
2007-09-14 01:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by jcsuperstar714 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You DO NOT need to be getting married. You're not ready to be married. You need to decide if you want to be this married man's mistress for the rest of your life or what. If he's not made the attempt to leave his wife then you mean nothing to him. Even if he does you need to keep in mind how you met him and got him in the first place. You need to let your boyfriend go. You don't have to tell him because you've been cheating just tell him you're not ready to give him the type of life and relationship that he wants.
2007-09-14 01:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman???
What's your problem????
It's not like you don't have someone of your own??/ Someone who loves you and someone you can love.
So, why become a home wrecker?? Why destroy a family's happiness??
Ok, it takes two to tango, but it didn't have to be you, specially in your situation.
I think that you should stop seeing both men.
You probably don't want any, just want to be the centre of attention.
So, take a sit back, and reflect on your life.
What is it you want?
Why did you do what you did?
What are the consequences of what you did???
Come on, high time to do some growing up!
2007-09-14 01:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry your boyfriend. It is not fair to him that you are already having an affair and your not married yet. As far as the married guy goes...remember one thing, he will NEVER end up leaving his wife. You will be strung along until one day you wake up and realize all the mistakes you have made. At that point you will have wished you had done things differently, but it will be too late.
2007-09-14 02:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋