Father to a 3and half year, paying £130.00/mth regularly. initial access day was every wednesday, changed day off to suit mum. mum has regularly taken daughter to stay with new boyfriends family and not informing father until day of access and only through father phoning. mum has also deliberatly not answering his calls when his number appears, only when rang from a number she doesn't recognise. very distressing for both father and daughther. where does he stand legally, where does he start. help please!!!
2007-09-14 00:01:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
The mother is a freak. And her boyfriend probably has a big hand in how the mother is in this situation. The father needs to go and see a solicitor immediately.
2007-09-14 00:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, good for you for paying child support and being involved in your daughters life!!
If you have visitation in writing, I would call your lawyer and get on her at once. Just because she is "the mother" doesn't make her right and doesn't give her the right to keep you from your daughter. If I were you I would insist on more time with your daughter as well. You should have her for weekends, some holidays.....as well as father's day etc.
You need to have some sort of working relationship with this woman. She needs to realize that you are going to be an involved parent and you have 15 years of parenting ahead of you. Every child deserves to have, enjoy and count on parents that can communicate and will support them. No matter what their personal feelings are for one another. For whatever reason you are no longer together, you both saw something in each other at least for a night.....so build on that and develop a plan that you all can live and thrive with. Talk to the mother....openly without anger about this....maybe you can work something out together instead of going to court. If she is unreasonable or uncooperative, call the lawyer and get nasty. Good luck & best wishes.
2007-09-14 00:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is quite tricky, yr paying yr child support! good on you! and yr willing thats excellent, next question are u on the birth certificate?? if so u have whats called parental responisibility, this gives u rights to know about her health and wellbeing, how shes getting on at school, any relevevant info u basically want, the grey area is access, i suggest u start by writting mum a letter, making sure u emphasis that its within yr childs best interest that you come to an agreement for access, stipulating that if u cant agree then u will be forced to take legal action, ive been thru this with my brother and his 3 girls, he now has regular weekly access!! i have some great websites and phone numbers that will give u advice and support! if u need nemore info please just drop me a line, GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-09-14 00:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by galaxygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have paperwork that clearly defines your visitation rights, the mother is NOT allowed to change it around to suit her needs. You may need to hire an attorney, go back to the courts and enforce your rights to visitation.
If you DON'T have anything in writing, then I HIGHLY suggest you get something on paper. These situation NEVER get better, only worse.
2007-09-14 00:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer, go to court and ask for mediation.
Don't quit when the going gets tough!
Good Luck
2007-09-14 00:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to Court. You have EVERY right to see your child.
2007-09-14 00:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sal*UK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋