Why am I so full of Hate and anger?

Question

Yes, I'm full of intense hatred and fear. I'm very mistrusty of people, and It's very hard for me to make friends or even talk to ppl. I feel like I'm not good at anything, and I've also had a very miserable childhood. I have no social life now, and I've *tried* soo hard in the past to improve my life and socialize, but it seems that wherever I go, "I always run Into what I don't want, and never get anything I want". Like the fricken universe itself doesn't want me to be happy. Why do these forces beyond my control hold me back, no matter how hard I try?

What can I do about this?

any positive messages?

"Joseph II", you missed the point. The point of this was saying that I HAVE tried countless times, but it seemed as if obstacles came from nowhere to hinder my success. I've never played victim, I'm just asking for advice.
But anyways... Great ansers ppl, thnx alot

Answer 1

Your fear and hate stem from your childhood.You do not have to be in bondage to your past.I know personally.If you
truly want to be free from the pain of your childhood,the fear
that confines you and the hate that controls,there is only one
way.FORGIVENESS. Forgive the ones who hurt you.
allow yourself to heal from a past you could not control.
For me,I found the rest I so deperately needed in God.
Through Him,I was able to love those who betrayed me.
Maybe you can find much of what you are seeking
in a local church or youth group.I pray you dont allow
your past define who you are in the future.

Answer 2

I do understand what you're saying. The trick is to look inside for what you need rather than looking outside for others to provide it for you. I know you posted this in psychology, but I think you can find some answers in your astrological chart. If you're attracting the opposite of what you wish to attract, it could have something to do with the oppositions in your chart. It's funny, becasue I was just talking with another friend about this just this morning. What happens when we have oppositions in our charts (or if transitting planets form oppositions in our charts,or trigger oppositions in our chart, etc.. you get the picture I'm sure) is that we're being challenged to balance the opposing energies in our selves. Most people go about this by forming relationships with people who embody the opposite end of the spectrum from that which they themselves are projecting. The end result of this is that there is really no true balance within the individual achieved, because the person in question is relying on others to do this for them. And then the cycle continues. Many people go through their entire lives doing exactly this, because they don't have the awareness to realize that what they are doing is really just a band aid approach to spiritual evolution. And they're content with that, and more power to them really if they can be happy with that. I'm certain that life must be far easier for those people. It's the norm now, really.

There's more to it, and of course it goes without saying that you are more than welcome to e mail me any time you want to to talk about this, and I'll get into more detail in regards to my views.

As far as constructive ideas to help you out, you need to find things that you really enjoy doing that don't depend on the participation of others. Make yourself happy first, the rest will follow. Meditation and yoga would probably be very beneficial for you. It will center you and help to diffuse some of that anger.

And I find it impossible to believe that you're good at nothing. It simply isn't true. I don't know you all that well, but I can spot useless a mile away, and you are not useless.

Answer 3

Could it be yourself that your anger, hate, mistrust and troubled thoughts are directed at? Maybe it's not the whole universe, but maybe just the universe you have bottled yourself into. You are not alone in such feelings. Find a way to get involved with positive people and seek out supportive people you can trust. You can make your life better starting right now - go for it. Foot prints are not made sitting down in the chair of doom and despair.

Answer 4

It's good that you recognize your feelings, there's lots of people who are just numb or can't figure out with all the mess inside, what is clear and strong inside. I hope you'll find a way to harness and focus on some good things.

Something that surprised me was that taking walks in a nature area (walking path), I found new things to 'notice' every day this spring. It was a good time to clear my head and sort things out. And pray.

You're an extremely good writer--especially compared to others here who don't worry about spelling or typos. I bet journaling or blogging or posting your thoughts would be a great outlet. AND, I'm serious, that is $marketable$ ka-ching!

Answer 5

well that's a very pity situation. First, you have to assess urself...where ur anger and fears coming from. That probably hinders you from talking to people and making friends. Then freed urself from all of these negative feelings, learn to forgive urself and others. There's nothing in this world free than to smile and enjoy other people's company. dont always expect them to make you happy but rather do something that will make other people happy.That is the real sense of happiness...not always getting what you want but giving what you have...life is too short friend...isn't it scary living ur life with no excitement???

Answer 6

I can related to the mistrust, lack of friends, social life, etc. Not so much to the other stuff. I hate socializing with a passion.

Change your perception. If you don't notice the lemons the universe throws at you, and instead see the occasional lemon meringue pie, maybe it will get better.

Change yourself, not your habits. Change your character, not your personality. Change the inside, not the outside.

If you insulate your identity from the universe, you can stare down from your high throne and survey, with detachment, what others try to do to you. Become friends with yourself first.

And all that Zen crap.

Answer 7

Life is a test. We go through good/ bad times. I had a tough childhood.... there were things that i didn't understand untill i moved away and experienced things, it was the "ahhh huh" life is a lesson. and hey you don't want to "socializ " with people because people in this world don't give a crap about other people, they just want good for themselves, (well excpet your parents) maybe. when you hit rock bottom, the only way you can go is up. Praying is very good too

Answer 8

You need to SEE someone about this problem (you're not gonna get what you need- on here). There's NO shame in getting Counseling... -& if you DON'T get it pretty soon, you're 15 minutes of "fame"- is going to be by showing up on the 11 o'clock news as just another idiot who did something stupid, and is either dead, or about to be put away for "Life". If YOU think you really DESERVE BETTER- than that; then STOP playing the "victem"- & get out & DO SOMETHING about it. Otherwise, your days are probably numbered... Get help, & Good luck! :)

Answer 9

it is because you choose to feel hate and anger.. like you, i also have terrible childhood memories and it still bother me everytime i remember it.. but then, the more i choose to hate those people who i think have caused me great misery, the more i hate myself in the process. so im learning to let go of every hurt i have (not totally forget it though).. i also try to talk to people who have had miserbale childhood too. it helps a lot knowing that it is not only me who have this kind of problem..
life is a matter of attitude. remember, the more you hate, the more you get older.. don't allow your miserable childhood ruin your life.. you have a lot of opportunities at hand once you have learned to let go of your past..
you can try reading "the road less traveled" by M. Scott. Peck..

Answer 10

Nothing is beyond your control. Keep on trying to create and improve your relationships. But, try different approaches, different methods, different ideas and different ways of approaching people. And you will succeed, I guarantee it. Also, try to find someone experienced who can give you a good piece of advice. Just don't freak out. There is always a way out. And one more thing: Don't forget to smile!