Is it normal?

Question

Is it normal to want a baby so desperatley after having miscarried at 5 months? It was a year ago, but all I want is a baby. I see people I work with having kids when they're not married and it kind of upsets me because I am married. Am I wrong for feeling like this? Sometimes I feel like it controls my life. I never got to have a normal, full term pregnancy and I yearn to have that experience. Can anyone tell me if I'm wrong for feeling like this?

My mother put me on the birth control shot and my cycle hasn't gotten back to normal and I fear it never will. You can't get pregnant for 4-18 months after the shot ends its 3 month cycle. So far it's only been 3 months after mine ended, but I've heard that you could become infertile from it and I'm scared.

Answer 1

No absolutely not. You are not wrong. You can't help the way you feel. I was 3 months preggo when I lost my twins 2 years ago and all I did was think about wanting a baby and missing my babies. Unmarried people really ticked me off as did those that had child after child and not caring for them. I felt that it was controlling my life also but it doesn't have to feel that way anymore. Get on chat support groups for grieving parents. There is a good one on babycenter.com. It helped me a great deal and I calmed my self enough to where I am now 35 weeks and waiting. I know that part doesn't help, cause I hated hearing that others were preggo, but I am telling you this because I want you to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I found it and I know you will. Even if I have to walk into that tunnel with you. You can talk to me when ever you like because I know what you are going through.

Answer 2

Sweety I'm so sorry for your loss. You are completely normal in how you feel. Pretty sad how some people who would make such wonderful parents have such a troubling time having a child, and at the same time teen mothers are having "accidents" and shoving them down laundry shoots or leaving them home to fend for themselves for days at a time. I wish you and your husband the very best of luck. I will say a prayer for you tonight.

by the way.... have you ever thought about foster care? No, it sure wouldn't replace your maternal desires, but it could help to quench the pain while you try.... and so many kids could use a little bit of love and stability even if for a short time. You could make a difference where it is really needed. Just a thought. Good luck and many prayers to you.

Answer 3

God no it's not bad to feel that way. It's understandable, you were so close, and so far at the same time, to having your own baby... It is not wrong to feel that way at all, don't stress about that. Let me revise... don't let it completely run your life, you're right, that could cause a problem with normal everyday good feelings. You might become depressed. Try to find things that make you happy other than baby stuff, that way you have something else you can focus on other than baby stuff, because as far as that goes, lets face it, even when you concieve it will be a hurry up and wait kind of thing. Have something else to do... sewing, reading, writing, fishing, decor...

Answer 4

What you spot on ordinary, is what is natural. Example: in the event you see a character hiccuping that most likely natural but when its nonstop for days or months, that is certainly now not natural. Also if a character used to be born with some thing like six arms on every hand won't look natural to us however it's natural to that character. So mostly it is an character factor that nobody else will comprehend.

Answer 5

i would be absolutely devastated if that happened to me.
you poor thing!!!
i completely agree with you about being upset that everyone around you is getting pregnant.
i dont care so much if the woman isnt married but when it was a "accident" and they abort, that really gets to me.
just keep trying and one day you will be blessed with a child.
miscarriages are very common these days and although it is extremely difficult to move on afterwards, you need to keep trying.
my mum had 2 miscarriages before my older sister was born and when she told us about it when i was about 10, i bawled my eyes out.
i saw a tarot card reader 3 yrs ago (for the fun of it) and he told me that mum had misscarried because those babies werent meant for her.
one of my "brothers" was meant for me and he was waiting for me to get married etc so he can come into this world.
well, i got married a yr after and im 8 weeks pregnant now!!
wonder if its gonna be a boy!!!
anyway sweety, just relax and talk to your hubby about trying again, i know it may be hard but its the only way you have a chance of becoming a mother.
best of luck to you.

Answer 6

First,I am so sorry for your loss.I understand how you feel about other people being able to have children that might not have the stability you have.I think it is very normal for you to desire a child so badly ecspecially because you are married.I do not think that every women deserves to experience such blessings because they take them for granted but it sounds like you do truly want a child and I am sure you will be a great mom.Don't give up!

Answer 7

It's completely normal! The fact that you mc'd while you were so far along is very, very sad...you have every right to want a child. We as women have a natural instinct to be mothers...while some women choose not to listen to that instinct, most of us do...and when you lose that chance...of course it brings along grief and remorse. Have you thought about trying again?

Answer 8

I am sorry you misscarried last year it is normal to feel the way you do
Try to ralax I am sure you will be pregnant soon,

Answer 9

SWEETIE YOU ARE NOT WRONG AND I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.