Here's the sceneraio: Husband and wife are separated after
husband gets caught cheating with 30 yr. old. Husband is
48 anf wife is 50. Husband comes to visit wife and pays her
a compliment: "You look pretty.Your new hair cut and style
take tons of years off you." He's spanish. Is it a language
problem? Was he trying to say something nice and it didn't
come out that way or is it his subconcious .....deep inside he
thinks his wife looked old before and he likes younger
women....and let this slip out uncousciously. If the wife takes
it the wrong way...maybe she's insecure or low self esteem.
Or, maybe he is showing that he favors younger women.
Mind you...the wife looks younger than 50 but of course,
does not look like a 30 yr old. What do you think? Is it a
compliment he gave her and felt she looked pretty and
wanted her to know it? Or, is this part of the problem...he
likes women only by how they look and of course...a younger
woman fits the bill.
2007-09-13 16:24:28 · 5 answers · asked by zebra123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe the wife is analyzing it a little too much. It may have just been a friendly compliment.
Sigmund Freud: "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."
2007-09-13 22:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him when he is going to do something with his so he looks younger, too!! (Whether he needed to or not!) If he was caught having an affair, obviously he has no trouble communicating exactly what he wants very clearly when he wants to! You need to take a good look and see if you have been letting yourself go. If you have do something about it for you. That is no excuse for him. Sounds like you need to decide if you want to try to really save this relationship, and then REALLY look at whether it is savable! Maybe it isn't but you would just like to know whether you could really interest him or not. Hard lines to draw.
2007-09-13 23:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by ganna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a compliment. It also sounds like this relationship is in a crisis mode. If the two people involved want to save it they need to seek counseling NOW.
2007-09-13 23:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was trying to give a compliment, especially when you consider that the same sentence would come out completely different in Spanish.
2007-09-13 23:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think too much. Seek counseling.
2007-09-13 23:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋