2007-09-13 16:10:34 · 17 answers · asked by donny_mollysmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. The grass really isn't any greener over there.
2007-09-13 16:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!! I can tell you first hand, I have been with my husband for over 17 years now.. Last year we had some major issues come to a head, with a resulting close split up. We did end up in therapy, giving our relationship some much needed attention. I cant relay how grateful and happy, amazed and blessed I am. I thank the Lord everyday for my blessed relationship. Yeah you can always look at the other side and wonder.. When he was packing last year to move out into the empty apartment that was just around the corner from our home, my heart and our home was empty without him. Besides our children..my heart was aching like I never knew before.
I look at you with a big smile and know, yes I know you are blessed as well as I am.
stay blessed and loved.
2007-09-17 10:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by dutchgirllb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do YOU feel there's something missing?
In all honesty, if a man and woman marry their "firsts", the only thing they miss is having sex with multiple other partners - Maybe. And what's so wonderful about that?
Each time you share the act of making love, you are giving a part of your self to that person. So if you give yourself to many different people, you've pretty much got nothing left that is you.
But if you give yourself to one person, and one person only - you exchange pieces of yourselves and eventually you become one. You have so much of each other within you, that you are two halves of a whole. Now that's wonderful!
I can say I know this to be true - I had a few boyfriends before my husband and I got together. And I gave myself to each of them, thinking we were serious, that we were a couple. And each time I lost a part of myself, had my heart broken, and came away with nothing.
I have been with my husband for over 17 years - and we know each other so well that we often know what each other is going to say before we say it, we know each other's thoughts and feelings. Not exactly that we read each other's minds, but we are so intimately close we just know. This time, if we hurt each other, we are still there to mend each other and continually reinforce our bond. This time, I have everything.
I truly hope this has helped.
OH - and if you're interested in "variety", seriously, look in an adult toy store. There are many shapes and sizes and even textures that you can try out and still be with your husband ... role play with him and have some fun. Take him shopping with you - above all, communicate with him and let him know you are interested in adding a little spice to your intimacies. Live out a few fantasies. That's what marriage is for - letting go of your inhibitions and fully trusting each other.
Blessed Be!
2007-09-13 16:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't. I think it's special. I mean, come on, what would comparisons really do after ur married? Where is their place? All they are, are stories, and maybe a bit of a confidence builder. I mean, sure, experiences are nice, and u can make comparisons, but what's the use? I know I would've felt bad if I didn't wait for my guy. I don't think I missed out on anything at all. Except maybe bitterness. Yeah, I think dating would've mad me a bitter person, so my heart would REALLY go out the guy who chose to marry me. But what u have is something special, especially since it's not easy nowadays to do what u've done...in the chastity part, and the long marriage part. Congratulations. Sure, u may not have experiences with other guys that u can/want to, share with ur girlfriends or kids, or whoever, but u have something better(I think), that u waited for ur kid's father, and he got to be the one to take it from u, and be there for u when all of the "it's my first time" feelings came, and u had to deal with them. So many girls don't even get that, because their bf's only wanted one thing, and after they've been wined, dined, and romanced, they lay down, and it's just wham, bam, thank u mam. No cuddling, no holding one another, no nothing...when a girl needs her guy to help her through. I don't think u missed anything. However, i think u gained a lot.
2007-09-13 16:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel you have missed something then you did. If you chose this life and didn't want something different, than what could you be missing?I think any woman whose been married for that long regardless what she has or has not experienced will not only feel that she has missed out but alot of other feelings also.
2007-09-13 16:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Grumpy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not if there is still love there. Having had my share of loveless sexual encounters, I can guarantee you aren't missing out on a thing. The only satisfying sex I have had has been with someone I loved. The rest of them have left me feeling the way I imagine the dog felt when he finally caught that car he had been chasing for so long.....let down.
2007-09-14 02:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have only been with one Man also we have been together for 18yrs. I don't think I'm missing anything but I do sometimes wonder what it would have been like if I would have at least had one other lover. When you have only had one you wonder if you got a good one or not. I love my boyfriend more than anything and would never cheat but you can't help but wonder.
2007-09-13 16:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is happy, if they love each other, if he cares for her, and respects her. If they enjoy spending time together, if you both of you are satisfied with your sex life. Then you haven't missed a thing. On the contrary, many women would probably envy you.
2007-09-13 16:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If u have a healthy and loving relationship, you're not missing anything but pain and misery. Be happy with what u have.
2007-09-13 16:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by ANTM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all are missing something. Do not think you are so unique.
Remember "for better or for worse"? What do you think that meant?
You will ultimately be judged not on the commitments you make, but rather the commitments you keep.
2007-09-13 16:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are in love, then no.I was with several men before I married.And I can honestly say that the man I married is
the only man that satisfied me.I think that is because we were and still are in love.
2007-09-13 16:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by Kathy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋