I kissed a guy today who wasn't my husband. I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek but a long drawn out french kiss. It meant nothing but it just felt right at the moment. Is it cheating and should I tell my husband about it?
2007-09-13 15:19:44 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I wasn't drunk. We just went to lunch together and while we were in the parking lot he suddenly leaned over and kissed me. I just couldn't help kissing him back.
2007-09-13 15:29:23 · update #1
ndnat1966: Yes it's the same guy but I didn't think he was interested in me like that.
2007-09-13 15:41:45 · update #2
don't tell your husband , but stop seeing that guy .
2007-09-13 15:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by ms attitude 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
People have different considerations on what cheating is; like to some grinding is a form of cheating, but to others it's just dancing... If he kissed u n u didnt kiss back, I'd say no, u didnt cheat. BUT because u kissed him back; i'd say yes in the form of passion... I dont kno how ur husband would react but i know my b/f would go off the wall on me, i love my b/f n if i did that i would never see that man again cause i dont want to do that to him n i certainly wouldnt tell him; even tho i do have an open relationship w/ him, i dont want to hurt him for something i will never do again.. Now if ur planning on seeing this man again; think twice and how much ur husband means to u and what adultry means to u...and what would u do if ur husband came out and said he went to lunch w/ a female n they had a long out french kiss;;how would that make u feel??
2007-09-13 15:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sick of F*ckwits 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You "just couldn't help kissing him back"? I don't buy that. You can avoid any temptation if you want to bad enough...you didn't want to.
Yes, it is cheating and yes, you should tell your husband. Secrets have a way of coming out. Better you should be the one to tell him.
You need to take this a little more seriously. "It just felt right at the moment". Not good. Find some morals or your marriage will never make it. You promised to forsake all others. Time to mature a little and realize...YOU ARE MARRIED! Act like it.
2007-09-13 23:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, let's see...
Would you feel fine about telling your husband this or are you going to keep it a secret?
Yes, kissing another man other than your husband IS cheating.
Don't you think your husband would be cheating if he was having a LONG, DRAWN OUT FRENCH KISS with another woman behind your back.
2007-09-13 15:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep! It sure is. I even think a hugging is to. Do not tell. Well I did not see the rest of what went on. You sure are trying to get in trouble You sure did cheat on your husband. This guy sees you as a easy mark . He knows it will take time but he will be in you pants. Then he will be gone. Then how are you going to handle this. I bet you are married to a great guy who loves very much. Next time you see this guy run the other way.
Next you find your self in this spot think how you would feel if this happen to him. I but you would never let it die, Would all ways bring it up to him ever chance you could. Grow up you are not a school
2007-09-13 16:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's cutting things a bit close, I'd say. A greeting kiss on the cheek is fairly common amongst acquaintances meeting socially here in the U.S. and practically mandatory in some other cultures such as amongst Italians. Heck, even Italian and Russian men greet each other with a peck on the cheek, and they're not the only ones. Only in America, as far as I know, is it rare for men to do that - there's a deep fear in this country that it will be seen as a homosexual overture.
2007-09-13 17:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe it is cheating. That is something to be shared with the person you are with. Would your husband be okay with it? That is a good question to ask yourself "before" you do something like this. He probably wouldn't be and would you like him to french kiss some woman? Do unto others as you would have done to you. If you feel okay about it and would be okay with him doing it than it is up to you to tell him or not.
2007-09-13 15:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A long drawn out french kiss! Are you serious! How would you feel if it were your husband and another girl and he did? Should you tell your husband? Well, what do you think?
2007-09-13 15:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by darlene z 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's cheating. What's more important than the kiss, is what was behind the kiss? I mean....I'm sure you didn't go to lunch with this guy and NOT know he was interested in more than friendship with you. You're not that stupid. So, you obviously were inviting and welcoming this kind of situation to happen. I wouldn't accept a lunch invitation with a guy alone that I KNEW liked me because I just wouldn't put myself in that kind of situation. When you don't put yourself in those situations, they can't happen. Spill your guts and apologize to your husband. I'm sure he'll feel hurt but hopefully he can get over it. You have to assure him that you'll never see that guy again.
2007-09-13 15:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is this the same guy that you went to dinner with and didn't tell your husband about it? Now I am beginning to think you are a huge liar. See I didn't forget your id....shame on you!
You made it sound like it was an innocent thing that you did...going out to dinner with a co worker...and your husband got upset...You were asking advise on how to get your husband's trust back...I don't think french kissing the guy will help get your husband's trust back...You are totally in sane!
2007-09-13 15:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
UMM... yes it's cheating are you kidding me? Tell your husband before someone else does and i know you did'nt just walk up to some random guy and kiss him what was going on at the time? do you two flirt at work? There was something leading to this kiss and by the way whatever led to it is cheating too wich is why when people ask me is flirting cheating i say yes because it will lead to them doing something very STUPID just like you did.
2007-09-13 15:31:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋