marriage? or freedom?

Question

aside from the obvious answer of love, what else would you consider getting married for?
wouldnt you prefer freedom?
doing what you want, when you want, with who you want and never having to confer with anyone?

Answer 1

basically you want a life of emptiness. If you want to go down that road. You'll soon found out when you see that all of your friends are settling down.
Think about it, what girl would want to be with you when you are all old and winkled unless of course you have money.

Answer 2

Marriage isn't about being constrained or tied down by someone. Yes, there are certain things that change but those who are truly in love and enter marriage with the appropriate thinking don't look at it as "jail." If you look at it this way, then you haven't met the love of your life and you're not ready for marriage. Because when you do meet that person, you WANT to confer with that person on all the big, important issues in life. While you have to consider someone else all the time, you also get the positives....you're never alone. You never have to face all of life's tough situations by yourself which is a huge positive.

Answer 3

I married out of love and liking the feeling of being needed and depended on. I didn't get to depend back though. I also wanted children as did my husband and I think that was another factor.
Now I am divorced-for 8 years- and have had some enjoyable relationships that did not impact my family life.

I choose freedom for now. Would I consider a committed relationship again? Yes, but not for a while.

Answer 4

Knowing you have someone to come home to, someone will be there to share happy moments and sad ones. Someone to plan a future with. Someone to hold at night. If you have the right partner, it can be very liberating. What could be better than taking off with your wife to go do whatever you want to do together? If you have mutual interests, values and goals, you won't have to "confer" much because in the big picture you'll want a lot of the same things. There is a lot to be said for being comfortable and yet happy in a long term relationship. Plus married people live longer!

Answer 5

Marriage, at least a good marriage anyway, IS freedom. Freedom from meaningless booty calls and other brief encounters that have no real point., freedom from endless dating with people you barely know. Freedom from loneliness, freedom from wondering if your life will ever mean anything to anybody else. freedom from bars and other places people go to strike out. Marriage isn't just getting to choose your jailer. A marriage built on love and trust gives you the freedom to do the things that truly matter in a life. People who are married still have time to do what has importance to them. It's just that their definition of what is important has matured some.

Answer 6

If you have a really good relationship, then marriage shouldn't really limit your freedom, with the exception of dating/sleeping with other people. If you can't trust or aren't trusted enough to go do what you want to/need to do when you want or need to do it, then you shouldn't be getting married any way. Marriage is taken way to lightly. It's a commitment you have to be ready for. So considering you're asking this question, I would suggest freedom. Love is a large part, but not all of what a great relationship takes. Good luck.

Answer 7

Answer yourself this question. What haven't you accomplished yet that is extremely important to you? I would guess that you are under the age of 35. You will meet a lot of people later on in life plus you need to get yourself financially stable. There is a lot more to marriage than love. Enjoy your freedom now and there will be time for marriage later. A college degree is more important.

Answer 8

All of your points are valid ones for keeping your freedom. People fall in and out of love 24/7 365

Answer 9

I don't want to say anything negative about marriage because I happen to have a happy one. Although I do have to say I would wait to get married. My sister and I often reflect on the many experiences we missed out on by settling down so early in life.

Answer 10

sounds like you're saying marriage is a lockdown without freedom..

If you can find someone who lets you be yourself and accepts the things you like to do, then you're lucky to marry that person who makes you feel free, and yourself.

Being alone is not a bad thing- it's just that when you are comitted and have a partner in life..you are completely lifted..when you are LOVED...

Like the song goes

" I'm a movement by myself, but I'm a force when we're together"

Answer 11

Well it differs i guess depending on the person. some dont like to b alone. While some prefer to not b tied down to one person. Getting married should mean you are devoted to that one person. And if someones not ready to make that commitment i'd say stay single.