okay , i have a 10 year old son (not biological but may as well be)and this afternoon i was sitting on the couch , fully dressed with a blanket over me. My son comes in with a drawing pad and says he wants to draw a picture of me and tells me not to move. okay so then when i look at the picture it is a nude pic of me from the belly up with breasts and nipples. I was shocked, shocked, shocked,. Im fully dressed and this is what he drew. Okay im sitting here now and i still feel weird . is this normal or how should i handle it...he thought it was funny, his dad didnt know what to say....i am very conservative and have never even thought my kids might see me that way...what shoud i say?
2007-09-13 14:52:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He prolly got his hands on a porn mag and doesn't understand the inapropriateness of it... I think his dad should talk to him about it, not you...
2007-09-13 15:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you feel weird! But, the most important thing is to not make a huge deal of it, Instead, comment on how interesting the drawing is, and good on him for using his initiative, but let him know that its not really appropriate to use his mother as a subject piece for a nude! If you emphasise how embarrassed you are, this can send all sorts of messages to him, such has the human body is rude, he is of course far too young to be drawing nudes, but he is also still young enough to not take any thing sexual from this as such! Obviously, now he is interested in this kind of art, rather than telling him its wrong, or rude, maybe let him explore famous artists, that may have a nude or two in their portfolio! He may have thought it was funny because of the way you reacted, underneath, he may have been embarrassed, If you show him some real artists nude pics, and he makes a joke out of it, then he's just being a brat, and let the subject drop! But good luck with that!
2007-09-13 15:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by clarebare1975 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's definately kind of weird and I understand why you'd feel weirded out about it. I have been a high school teacher for several years and would guess that (a) he was trying to get a rise out of you--maybe he was mad about something or resents you? or (b) he has some more serious issues that need to be addressed, possibly by a counselor or psychologist, because that's really not appropriate. If I were you, I'd tell him that what he did was inappropriate, bothered you, and that if he does it again there will be consequences. The consequences should be pre-determined by you and the father--perhaps seeing a psychologist would be appropriate consequences. I hope this helps.
2007-09-13 17:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Corozal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was just a little kid I watched the Titanic, not a good idea. I drew a picture of my Mom completely naked because I wanted to be like Jack! OMG pretty embarrassing now that I think back to it, haha *crawls under a rock and dies*. I think it's normal. Kids are curious about sexuality, as long as he doesn't DO anything that's disturbing. LOL, good luck! :)
2007-09-13 15:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pretty Maggie Money Eyes 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well what ever you do do not jump off the deep end. hes just a young boy. he need to be told this is not appropirate but that he has to be careful of drawing people with no clothes on tell him its not right and he could get into trouble and try and be very simple with him not blaming him but being abitin the don't do that without yelling or being to loud. take care.
2007-09-13 15:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off just chill. Secondly, he just has a bad sense of humor. He's not going to grow up to be some weirdo who draws naked pictures of people. He'll eventually stop thinking that that is funny, but for now just let him think that it is funny. He'll be fine and grow out of it.
2007-09-13 15:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Quazimodo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 10 and naturally curious about sex.
Don't get freaked out in front of him...this could mentally scar him, and he could have future problems with his own sex life due to your reaction to this.
Explain the birds and the bees to him, give him a book on sex or something if you can't talk to him about it.
2007-09-15 14:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Barney Blake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know. that is very weird though. remember this, "every thought has a source, every mind has the ability to expand upon sed thought" so you need to figure out where he though of the whole "naked women" thing. try the computer, or something...
2007-09-13 15:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably saw it on a movie or a show Has he watched Titanic lately???
2007-09-13 15:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by goodmommy22 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Ask him where he got that from!
HE IS ONLY 10!!!
2007-09-13 15:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Shiroberry14 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋