My sister's friend, Claire has been married for 19 years with two teen children with, as she descirbes it, a great husband, an engineer. However, Claire has met another man named David. David, an orthopedic spine surgeon, met Claire and realized that he loves Claire. David said that he loves Claire and Claire realizes that she has feelings for David. Claire loves her husband, but she also loves David at the same time...she is really confused. David, having one son, is getting a divorce from his wife because, David thinks/realizes that Claire is his sole mate after 16 years of marriage to his first wife. However, Claire, never hearing the words "I love you" from her own husband feels as if she has a connection with David. Claire does not know what to do! She does not want to hurt her husband, yet she loves David. She want to talk to someone to express her feelings, but she is lost...Can, PLEASE, anyone help her? She is in desperate need. THank you
2007-09-13 14:29:43 · 13 answers · asked by imagination_inevitable 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOTHING has happened between David and Claire but emotions
2007-09-13 14:37:47 · update #1
hooking up with a guy who is going through a divorce is never a good idea. even if you think you love him. i think claire should break all contact with david, and start putting some serious energy into her marriage: a romantic weekend away, sexy lingerie, renewing of the vows for 20 years.
this is marriage, not high school.
2007-09-13 14:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's already in too deep with this guy David. If she's unhappy in her marriage, she needs to focus on making it better. If she still doesn't get her needs met, then get a divorce and find a new guy. She's making a challenging situation for herself for no reason aside from selfishness. Getting another man's attention can be flattering, but that's where it should stop. Her needs should be fulfilled by her husband. Her looking outward to fill those needs is just wrong. She's going to cause way more pain than necessary. Splitting up a marriage/family is hard enough...why add cheating? It's just not smart.
2007-09-13 14:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to avoid David completely then get into some good therapy to talk through this. She is having an emotional affair but fortunately it doesn't sound like its gotten physical??? If the problem stems from a lack of something in her current marriage she should seek marriage counseling too. However, above all she needs to consider the feelings of everyone involved. How many people will be hurt by this one selfish decision? The ex-spouses, the children, friends of the two couples, family members like parents, siblings etc. It is sad and devastating when a marriage falls apart.
2007-09-13 14:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by RLW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People getting out of a relationship need time to find out who they are again. They are going thru so much emotionally. Any attraction is colored by the challenges of the situation and emotions and may not be real. Claire should step back and not make a mess of her life (and every elses) until she works through her personal relationship with herself and her husband. Green is always greener....
2007-09-13 14:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the orthopedic spine surgeon makes more money too. She needs to get out of this situation now, or be sure that the new flame is what she wants. Her hubby will be crushed, he`s prolly a nice guy, who`s home in the evenings. The surgeon won`t be , and he won`t always be operating either...
2007-09-13 14:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claire, does not know what love is, and she needs to cut off all ties to this guy named David, like NOW!
( the Bible) 1corth. 6:9
2007-09-13 14:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by fstmx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If David wasn't in the picture, would she be happy with her husband?
I don't think you should leave a spouse because of another person. you should leave them if you are not happy in the relationship or no longer in love.
There is a chance David could divorce his wife to be with your friend and then realize he likes being single. he wants to date around. He wants to enjoy his new freedom. She needs to make her decision about her marriage regardless of David (single or divorced)
2007-09-13 14:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 13:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claire is a lazy whore. She can't be bothered to work on her relationship with her husband, so she jumps into bed with the next new thing, who doesn't seem to have any morals by the way. And as if the words "I love you" really need to be said for one to know she is loved...oh please. Actions people actions.
2007-09-13 14:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Claire is married.
David is married.
They need to act like married adults and stop being immature.
2007-09-13 14:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋