im a teen parent and things in my life actually got better after i had my son know i take school alittle more serious my boyfriend and ihave never been closer he loves having a son so its not like im a single mother, i my mom who helps me take care of him 24/7 if i want to know my boyfriend and i are thinking of getting married weve been together for a couple of years ,financially i dont need any money because my parents support me and my boyfriend is soon getting a job. so i have more than enough money to buy things for my son so why do people think being a teen parent is so bad it makes me mad that everyone assumes is like that for all teen parent but not for me. thanks
2007-09-13 13:41:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
like i said my boyfriend is soon going to start working and hes going to get paid enought money to support us and put a down payment in a house
2007-09-13 13:53:14 · update #1
by the way were planning on moving to the carribean thats where we plan to buy the house and we agread to pay for a maid who clean and cooks
2007-09-13 14:04:28 · update #2
Well...no offense, but you aren't really the one who is fully parenting your child. Your parents are supporting you and you child financially and it sounds like they are also providing "on-call" babysitting service. So the reason you are feeling so successful is because YOU have great parents who stepped up to help manage your responsibilities.
Where are you going to be 5 years from now? Will you have a college degree? Will you be financially independent from your parents, and if so will you still be able to provide for your child's every need?? Maybe you will. But it's going to be a lot harder journey to get there.
2007-09-13 13:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't find anything wrong with being a teen parent. I, myself, am pregnant at 16. I'm only 5 and a half weeks along, but I have a lot of support. My mom had my oldest sister when she was 15 and my dad was 16. They're still together to this day and that was 20 years ago. My parents are really helpful and understanding for me, and it makes life a lot easier. I honestly don't think parents should kick their kids out because they got pregnant or something like that. They need help through it and not just a door in the face, that makes things worse. I'm staying at my parents house until I'm about 18 so that I can have all of the help I need. I know I'll struggle with school and the baby and being in a relationship, so I know I'll need my parents and sisters help.
Long story short. I don't think being a teen parent is bad at all. Unless you completely rely on everybody to take care of your kid and are pretty much worthless. Or the ones that are pregnant and do all of these stupid *** stuff that could harm your baby. (Like a girl at my school who's a freshman does.)
2007-09-13 20:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you are a baby that had a baby - you'll realize what you've traded later. A baby is never the answer to anyone's problems of being closer to their boyfriend - you have a lot of growing up to do still even if you think you are grown up now. When you are 25 you'll understand - I'm not impressed by your parents giving you money - you've started a family and you better step up and help support that new family. Thank god your parents are supportive but you better continue your education so you know the differences you are asking about and where your place in the world really is. I changed soooo much from the time I was 16-18 then 18-20 then 20-22 . You have sooo much left to learn and if you think you're fine and dandy now -then a serious wakeup is coming.
2007-09-13 20:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by megyar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
listen honey, the fact that you have been dealt a hand in life that you actually can play with doesn't mean that everyone else has been dealt the same hand or even knows what to do with it when they get it. When your a teen, you haven't experienced enough of life to make certain decisions. and BELIEVE me, I was one of those teens that thought I knew about life and knew this and that...pretty much I can take care of myself type of attitude. And you know what I found out? I don't know it all and I still don't know it all. I'm 28 and I learn something new everyday. When we (adults over 20) raise our children we count on what we have experienced to help us figure out the whole parenting thing; who we have spoken to, who we've been around....we take Alllll those seemingly insignificant conversations we've had with other adults and during the course of our parenting we refer back to experience to help solve the millions of situations and problems that occur throughout the job of being a parent. At 15,16,17 us older parents know what it feels like to be nieve. We understand what it feels like to not have the experience to back ourselves up. There are no exceptions. No matter how mature you think you are, you still, in most cases , will not know as much as a woman my age. This is not meant to be degrading. I've just been around longer. Does this mean you will be a horrible parent. I don't think so. As a young parent now, you seem as though you have your head on straight and your boyfriend does and you have a great support system, you're the exception to those teens who get pregnant and have no help. But you have to understand why teens have this label on them. When you don't have to ask this question honey...then you'll understnad why pregnant teens/ teen moms are looked at this way. And why most people feel its a bad thing for teens to get pregnant. I am very proud of you, its a fresh of breath air for me to hear about girls like you who actually "grow up" and take responsibilty for their lives once a child is brought into the world. Your parents are wonderful people to accept you for this and you should consider yourself a very lucky lady to have a good story. Most girls don't . I don't mean to make this so long....but you seem so sweet and you do have your head on your shoulders, I would suggest you not worry about what other people think or say anyway. As an adult, thats what we learn over the years...there will always be someone to try and put you down or degrade you or make you feel as though you have done something wrong....they do that because they themselves are insecure which I'm sure you have heard that before, but it takes time to actually live life without it effecting you. You are a great mom so thats all you need to know. Take care of your family. And we've all been there needing support whether you are a teen or not. I needed my moms support finanacially only 6 months ago and I'm 28 married with 2 kids. Life happens...no matter how old you are and sometimes we need the support of others so don't let anyone try and make you feel any less of a mom because you took the help. You are a better mom if anything for realizing you need help and realize you can't do it yet on your own. Your a good person.
**edit** as I read western b and most of the other answers, I reallt feel disgusted that they have such horrible things to say about this. as for "on-call" babysitter and having ht esupport of your parents, well isn't that obvious that this is why you are in such a good situation? This doesn't make it bad. Yes you would be singing a different tune had you been thrown out, but you weren't. and those who tried to make you feel ay less of a parent just ebcause you have alot of help is DISGUSTING! I had the support from both my parents and my husbands parents when we 1st got pregnant 2 months after dating. Yeah, and we eventually got married had another child and still we are not financially secure. We have our own place, our kids never go without (nor do we) and neither of us have a degree....it means nothing! You can have the most financially secure individual with a masters in whatever and be a horrible parent. So those are completly and utterly bogus statments.
2007-09-13 21:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by armywife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People usually assume you're supposed to become a fully functional independent adult by the time you're about to have children. But if you have the luxury of your parents supporting you for now then sure why not. Down the road, they will get older and you will have to transition into financial independence. It's not a smooth transition for the most of us, and having kids as dependents makes it harder.
People tend to change a lot between the age 18-25. Often enough, they change in such a way that they can't stand each other anymore. Me - I can't picture myself next to any of those losers I adored when I was 18.
2007-09-13 20:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its probably bc most don't have great support systems and attitude like you. I know plenty of girls who got pregnant by mistake at 16 and I didn't meet them until they were older and they still act like a (cliche) typical immature girls who got pregnant. They may end of being good mothers, but some still don't grow up in many ways. Plus most people just expect teens to finish school, hang out w/ friends, go to college, date, go on weekend trips to the lake or whatever w/ friends. So they automatically feel sorry bc you are missing that great part of your life, they may never regret their children, but someone once said maybe I would've had my daughter eventually, not now but in 5 years and then I would've gotten the best of both worlds and been better prepared. Just be a good example to your son, your friends, and anyone who may put you down bc your a teen mother.
2007-09-13 20:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by pirouette_130 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am also a teen mom (well will be) im 11wks pregnant and i know what you mean!! i think allot of people dont realise that some teen mums can actually do everything, and i also think that seeing all the teen mums out there that were kicked out of home and living on the streets with their baby and they are single with no money - that is what puts a name on teen mums!! but dont stress about it, if you are doing fine then who cares what others say. i am excuited and know i wil be fine, my b/f and i are getting married after the birth, we currently both work full time and make more than enough money and we are in the process of buying our own home. people that judge you only see the outside, they do not know if you are set up and doing well or not... just remember - those who mind dont matter, and those who matter dont mind!! stay true to yourself and love you baby
congrats and good luck :)
2007-09-13 20:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by * Life is Beautiful * 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am 19 years old i have my own house my own car a good career and a steady partner of 3 years. Our baby girl is due this week.
You have just said yourself your mum supports you and helps take care of your baby 24/7 its nice that you have your family's support but having to rely on them for money ??
Its not their responsibility its yours and your partners !! And to be fair you say your boyfriend is in the process of getting a job ?! Hunni he should of got himself a job when he found out you was pregnant !!
"i dont need any money because my parents support me so i have more than enough money to buy things for my son so why do people think being a teen parent is so bad it makes me mad that everyone assumes is like that for all teen parent but not for me. thanks"
So NO you dont have more then enough money to buy things for your son !! You rely on other people instead of providing yourself and then you boast about it !!! I may be older then you but i mean my god i spent £5000 of my OWN money that I earned on getting everything i need for my babies arrival and your poor parents had to fork out for you !!
And you say your moving to the carribean and having maids and cooks hahahaha grow up you silly little girl !!
I have nothing against young teen mums i actually admire alot of them the ones who have determination and strive to give theyre babies the best unlike you who sits back and lets mummy and daddy take care of things for you !!
Its teen mums like YOU that give others the bad reputation
2007-09-14 13:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because when a lot of people think of a teen parent they think of a single girl dropping out of school and living off of welfare. A lot of people arent lucks as you, with their parents buying them things and supporting them and the grandkid. a lot of girls end up alone on the street or on welfare. it also often means the end up higher education, especially for the girl, so it is associated with low education levels and a wasted future. sometimes people think that the teen parent is stupid because they 'obviously couldnt read the directions on the condom right'. dont let people judge you- you seem to be happy and until recently in the us and still in many other countries it is normal to have babies as a teen- who ever heard of an animal reaching sexual maturity and waiting years to have a litter? its nature and as long as you are responsible as a parent the people that have negative things to day are no better than you and should learn to mind their business!
2007-09-13 21:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by kaseysospacey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons. Sometimes, the father doesn't stick around. When you are up all night with a child, it's hard to get up the next morning and go to school...you have baby-sitters.....Then, if your parents don't support you, you have to pay for your house, and food, and diapers. So...trying to balance a healthy loving relationship with your child, working, finishing your education, cooking for your family, cleaning, and keeping your stress levels down......Wanna see how hard it is....move out....big enough to start a family, big enough to carry all the responsibilities. Don't rely on any help from anyone but you and the father.....
2007-09-13 20:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Christina A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the statistics for young mothers arent that good being a teen mom. Dropping out of school.. never going to college.. the dad not involved. I think you are truly blessed to have the father there for you and your baby.. and to have the support system that you have. That is wonderful.. but im afraid for many young teens.. that isnt always the case.
2007-09-13 20:50:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋