I've never gotten my period. What's the fastest way to get it?

Question

All of my friends have it except me. I feel left out. Is there a way for me to speed up the process?

Oh yeah, I'mm 11 years old and I'm in the 6th grade (middle school).

I'm 12 now. I just turned 12 yesterday.

Answer 1

Women are very different in when they start their periods, develop breasts, length and frequency of their cycle, menopause, and so forth. If you aren't 16 or so, you are most likely perfectly normal and just a later developer. Remember that when you do start, you will have a period for 40 years or so and there may be time you won't be so eager!

If you are developing breasts, womanly curves, pubic hair, and not having any abdominal pains, things are going as they should. (Periodic lower abdominal pain without bleeding could indicate a hymen with no opening and would need medical attention.)

You should discuss your feelings, which are also quite normal, with your mother. If she or your sisters started their periods older than usual, it may just be a family trait. But there is lots of change for normal. I started at twelve, my children at 15 or so, but they were much more athletic. A niece was also much later than her mother, but my sister in law was three years earlier than her mother. You and your folks might consider a doctor's visit to check hormone levels and reassure that all is well.

Feeling different can often make us uncomfortable. Girls who start menstruating first among their friend also feel this way. Anyone who would somehow judge you for when puberty occurs is not worth having as a friend to begin with. My daughters had a friend who started when she was only 9 and she felt a little strange about it. My kids were very accepting because we had talked about possibilities years before they were 9, that you can start very early or very late.

Having a period is just a change in how your body functions, not in who you are. When you reach menopause, ceasing to have a period is also just another milestone.

There really is no safe way to "speed things up" if you are thinking of taking hormones or something. If you actually need medical intervention, this is not anything you could or should try yourself. Hugs to you. Just be patient and things will happen in their own time.

Answer 2

There is no natural way to speed it up. Hormones probably would do that, but that would be unhealthy. I know it can seem like you're the only one that hasn't had her period yet; I felt that way when I was 11, but it's not true. For one thing, the girls that haven't may well keep quiet about it. Also girls do lie about this stuff because they know it's seen as a status symbol at your age. By the way, this is completely silly. When you get your period has no bearing on your maturity. It often doesn't even have much bearing on other parts of your physical development. If a girl's gotten her period, she is no more grown-up than you are. It takes a lot more to become a woman than just getting a period. :-) I know it's hard to get perspective, but try not to be self-conscious or frustrated about it. When you're all a bit older, nobody will care when everybody got her period. It only seems like a big deal now. I stressed about it all through 6th grade and I ended up getting my period when I was 13 (as did my mother and sister, which is often a big indicator of when you will start--if you're really curious, ask your mom when she got hers, it might be a clue.) and it was no big deal, I was still the same old person. I'm in my twenties now and I don't even know when most of the women I know first got theirs--really, it's just not a big deal. Relax, it will happen when it happens and it's not going to transform you or anybody else into a woman overnight. Just try to be comfortable with the pace your body is going. It's perfectly fine, we're all different :-)

Answer 3

First, you can't rush nature. It will come when it will come. Second, it is neither good nor bad, when it does come. Yes, there will be cramps. Or not. It is more or less painful depending on the woman. Yes, it is messy. No doubt about that. But using the right feminine products (pads and/or tampons) can make that less of an issue. The nice thing is that it is a kind of signal that your reproductive system is working. Every month, your uterus makes a new lining to prepare for pregnancy. When there is no pregnancy, that lining is shed, and you get a whole brand new one! The shedding is the "period"--as your body gets rid of the old tissue. When you DO get it, celebrate your entrance into womanhood. It can take anywhere from the age of 11-18 to happen, but usually between 13-16. Meanwhile, enjoy not having to deal with the "mess" and discomfort, and when it happens, remember that it is a GOOD thing that your body can do that.

Answer 4

You dont say how old you are. Girls get their first period usually between 10-14. 99% of girls have their period by 16. If you have no period by then, see a gynecologist about it. The beginning of periods is called menarche. You can google "menarche" and look for the signs of puberty, or you can google "female puberty" and several sites will tell you all about starting your period. In the meantime, as long as you are not sexually active at all, dont worry. It will eventually come. Enjoy NOT having it as you will have it for 25-30 years once it starts.

Answer 5

There is nothing u can do just be patient. Have you ever read ARE YOU THERE GOD IT'S ME MARGARET by judy blume that is what it is about it was a good book. Even though u want it now when u get you will wish u never had thats part of life though. Checkout the book might make u feel better.

Answer 6

Much too early 4 concern regardless of your friends. No 2 people are the same. Don't feel left out, feel lucky, believe me you will understand once you get there. Enjoy it while you can.

Answer 7

Hey Girlie! Be GLAD u dont have it yet...gosh..from the moood swings, to the cramps, to the insecurities...UGH...trust me, its well worth waiting. Im 20 years old and i didnt get mine until my senior year in high school..I was 17 years old..Glad it came late though...my friends used 2 hate it! Enjoy your period-less life..your gonna miss it once it comes!

Take Care!

Answer 8

girl dont rush it and no u cant speed up the process once u get it u wont want and it wont go away for about 40-45 yrs enjoy the freedom

Answer 9

Short of going through extensive hormone treatments (lots of needles and not much fun), you can't speed it up. Just take good care of yourself and stay healthy, and you will start your cycles when YOU are ready. I wouldn't be concerned unless you reach 18 and haven't yet started. I'm 52 now, started my cycles at age 12, and am now in menopause, and I am DELIGHTED to be rid of them!!!

Answer 10

Don't be too anxious to get it. It's really not all that fun. The first time you bleed through your pants in the middle of class, you will see what I mean.