Hello everyone, I am really confused now, I have been straight all my life, and have over the past few years been, for want of a better word, a ladies man, enjoying myself with the opposite sex. recently I have met the most amazing girl, and we have been together a month today, and it has been fantastic. My problem is that we were fooling around the other night, and she wasn't quite getting "it" right, and I became "disinteretsed", and I paniced, and automatically thought the worst, such as , "Im impotent", or "I'm Gay". The later has stuck with me, the past 48 hours, and it's bugging me a lot, and upsetting me. I still find her sexually attractive, we had fun the next day, and tonight we were fooling around and I was so in to it, but it kept playing on my mind. Am I gay? Is it because I'm ashamed to have thought it? I don' find myself attracted to men, but have been viewing them and trying to ascertain this. Could it be that past relationships have hurt me and I'm scared? I need help.
2007-09-13 13:02:38 · 10 answers · asked by monkeyisconfused 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you could be AC/DC--swings both ways.
2007-09-13 13:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a guy just "loses it" and gets disinterested. Doesnt mean hes gay, or 'he broke it'.. it just means he's not in the mood anymore. This can happen because either things are taking too long, you lost the momentum, you thought about something unrelated and lost it, whatever. Happens to girls too. You could save the situation next time by showing her gently what you would prefer she do. You're not gay hon. Relax a little tho, or you could make yourself impotent from worrying!!
2007-09-13 13:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by boots6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal and the less you worry the less problem is. I know that when anxiety takes over you know the answer but can't seem to get there. Sounds like you are most definately straight and just not prejudiced against gays. So you flubbed the thing one time = so what = get back up and get your game on. When something gets me down, I get moving and get it taken care of so I don't have to dwell there any more. So just forget it and get on with the next day.
2007-09-13 13:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your NOT attracted to males only females its unlikely your gay, maybe your tired or this girl really doesnt push your buttons, all men have a touch of impotence now & again just dont dwell on it otherwise you will make it worse. relax and enjoy each others bodies for longer and he will soon pop up xxxxx
2007-09-17 01:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no no no you do no longer desire to get into them center of any unfinished relationship. Do you actual need her to sense like she has to %? if she does she would be in a position to in no way recover from him and continually ask your self if she madet he suitable decision. supply her time. If it doesnt artwork out then it doesnt artwork out. the final element a woman who says shes in a at a loss for words state to have is a guy attempting to make the alternative for her.
2016-11-10 09:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by read 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have sexual fantasisies about men? Do you have sex with men? Why would you think you were gay from what you have described? It doesn't make sense.
2007-09-13 13:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you take yourself off to a gay club and see how the people make you feel. you need to take a look. put your mind at rest.
2007-09-13 13:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a gay club and see what you think
Edit: LOL
2007-09-13 13:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by K. Marx iii 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol your not gay maybe she just isn't pushing the right buttons tell her what you want when you are fooling around.
2007-09-13 13:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Median 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't gay -- simply release things -- it will all be much better.
Kindest thoughts,
Reyn
2007-09-13 14:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋