okei...so i have a bf who i love soooooooooo much... but heez sooo annoying sometimes...he calls me asking where i am...who im with...and when i will be home...heez 16 and im 14...how do i get him 2 give me some space...cuz i can never go out with my friends with out him calling me 109284758219847592084737 times...should i invite him to come along with us? i do sometimes....but he always seems unintersted..but he looks sad and disapointed when he asks wat im doing over the week end and i tell him im hangin with derrica and xochitl (its pronounced SOSHI..its a mayan name..its also a flower..lolz)we are together alot... what do i do so he will be happy 2? ummm...we have been together for 2 years if that matters
2007-09-13 12:27:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
umm, idk about the rest of these people who answer but, i don't think you guys should have been goin out for this long. im srry, but if this is how it has be for 2 years, then he could be happier with someone who wants to waste their time with him...
2007-09-13 12:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Aww, he's a bit insecure. You should sit down and have a good long talk with him about it. Ask him why he feels he has to keep calling, why he seems sad when you're doing something on the weekend with your friends, etc, etc, and try to find some time for just you two to hang out together. I bet that's probably what he really wants.
But like, if he refuses to change and doesn't seem to be growing a backbone, and it's really bugging you, you two might need some space so both of you can have a good look at where you're going in life. K?
2007-09-13 12:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by Katina 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can not make another person happy, their happiness is based on their reaction to what goes on around them. Only he can control his happiness as well as you can only control your happiness. There is so much to life besides being in a serious relationship, especially at your young age. You both need your space, away from each other, for awhile anyway. His actions are possessive, which are never healthy in a relationship. I am not saying he could turn abusive (I already know what you're thinking "He isn't like that.", but many women have thought that about their abusers), but possessiveness is a red-flag in abusive relationships. There are so many years ahead of you to have a serious relationship. These years are for having fun, hanging out with friends, enjoying life. It's a big responsibility to be in a relationship and many teenagers just aren't ready for the effort it takes to make it work. I think it may be time for a break from each other. Part in friendly terms, stay friends if you can, but don't be so serious.
2007-09-13 13:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him. The fact that he tries to control where you go/who you're with is bad enough, but that he doesn't want to come when you try to invite him is just plain rude. You deserve better.
Ps. You probably don't want to hear this, but are you sure you're in love with HIM, and not just the fact that you have a boyfriend or that he's older?
2007-09-13 14:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWWWWWWWWW........men and there insecurities, sit him down and say you want to talk to him seriously about things that bother you, tell him you love him but need space, and that you feel bad when he doesn't trust you enough to let you have girl time with no interuptions, and that you want him to be happy, and know that you are always there for him, then ask him what he wants and needs ask if there is anything that is bothering him, talk it out, and find a middle ground.
good luck
2007-09-13 15:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Chey_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh i see the problem when he tells u what u doing this weekend it means he wants to be with u and yea u should invite him to go with u and ur friends or just alone with him so try talking to him about him calling u alot of times well i hope this works
2007-09-13 14:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that. My best advice, try to talk to him about it, but if it doesn't change, then, try to move on. It'll be hard, but it'll be best. Trust me. I've been through it.
2007-09-13 13:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him now. That kid is a potential abuser. I don't like the way he's keeping track of your movements, calling you over and over...when he reaches adulthood, this man may very well be abusive. Get out now while you can.
TX Mom
2007-09-13 12:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I think u guys should talk about this and get u into a agreement.
Good luck =P
2007-09-13 12:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Put out
and use spell check
2007-09-13 14:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋