And not just a love interest.
2007-09-13 10:06:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It is a fact that most people will lie at least a little about some things. This must simply be accepted. "I can't come to work because I have a stomach flu" is one of these. It may well be true, but everyone deserves mental health days, and so investigating the truth of the matter is rather pointless.
The same goes for people who lie to cover up embarassing facts about themselves. Someone who says "I have no sex drive" may really have a gential deformity that is much more embarassing to talk about. It is polite to refrain from digging for the real facts.
On the other hand, some lies are major, and for some people (like compulsived liars), lying is a sport. There is an excellent comedy about this starring Goldie Hawn and Steve Martin called "Housesitter." Getting to the facts with a person like this is tough. Ask yourself, "Does this person have a strong motive to lie? If so, what is it?" If the motive is money "I am the widow of a Nigerian general who left a lot of money in a bank account that for national reasons I can't access but if you send me $1,000 I will send you the bank number," is a classic. Sniff the statements well and weigh probabilities. For instance, I have belonged to many online dating services. I got a come on from a "female" surgeon in Nigeria. Truly, there must be all of 5 female surgeons in Nigeria (not the most liberal of places). So I asked "her" how many cases of osteomyelitis (a bone infection) she had operated on. Never heard from her again.
2007-09-13 10:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that everyone is hiding something. Theres no way someone could be 100% completely open. So you should just know for a fact that theres always something you dont know about that other person. And you just got to accept it. Because everyone has something their ashamed of.
2007-09-14 03:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is hiding something. You know it because they're alive.
If they're acutely guilty there are lots of signs, everything from not looking you in the eyes to brazening it out by looking into your eyes a bit challengingly. Circumlocutions, Freudian slips, and simple discomfort in silence can all be clues that somebody is hiding something that particularly bothers them.
If it doesn't particularly bother them at that very moment, there's no obvious way to figure it out, but assuming that there's something buried deep is one of the few assumptions that is always correct.
2007-09-13 10:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by thelairdjim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that everyone is hiding something. If you are asking about something specifically, look at how they act when you ask them. If there eyes wander, or they evade the question, they probably are.
2007-09-13 10:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually you can tell if you ask them about it, and they give you an answer without looking you in the eye. eye contact is important in telling whether they are hiding something or not
2007-09-13 10:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't look you in the eye when they are talking about the subject. They get antsy and move around a lot sometimes when they get uncomfortable about something.
2007-09-13 10:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by Frosty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in the body language...eyes look around and not at you during a conversation...how they hold their arms and tilt their body a dead givaway....changing the subject or avoiding a question...there are lots of "tell" signs if you look
2007-09-13 10:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by gr8ful_one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The eyes and hands, its always in the eyes and hands.
2007-09-13 10:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by rollmanjmg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can just tell, usually by gut instinct.
2007-09-13 10:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's in their eyes when a non-specific question is asked
2007-09-13 10:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋