How does one who is 40 years old deal with pass abuse as a child.?

Question

I'm talking sexual abuse. It's hard to remeber everything. How do you gain the memory back

Answer 1

www.malesurvivor.org can get you started.

You can find great articles on how to find a therapist, there is a discussion board where you can discuss your feelings with other survivors, and there is even a chat room where you can find support.

You don't have to remember everything to feel the pain and you don't have to remember everything to recover. What you are feeling is normal and you are not alone.

I was hurting most of my life but I finally became the person I was meant to be.

Good luck! I know you can do it.

Answer 2

Hi

As a child your mind blocks out anything that at a young age can not deal with. This means feelings and memories can be locked up for years. Some dont even remember until they get a flashback of a certain time of their child hood which is horrific. Most survivors of abuse do not remember their past until later on in life.

I would recommend seeking out a counsellor who you can speak to about this.

If you would like to speak to other survivors of abuse this website may help. It is for survivors of abuse and rape and who are suffering from a mental illness. Everyone on there has been through simliar experiences and can relate to how you are feeling.

I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck

Answer 3

Read Joyce Meyers book , From Ashes to beauty. Frankly, as a victum myself,I can tell you memories resurface in for me my fifties. Honestly, though its dealing withthe present I stay focused on. I am not obcessed with the past as I am not a victum now. What lingers for me is the manifestations that abuse has on my feelings about my own body in pertaing to being touched. I am careful to pray about it, and accept myself and it is wonderful to be in a open loving relationship. You have to start by accepting yourself and being open to God healing you. Forgiveness is important. I found my abuser had a father and older brother who also abused. I found in appropriate attitudes toward women were prevelent in his upbringing and I also found his parentage was lied about, even though his sisters and brothers knew of his true parentage. I understand my aunt is my grandmother in reality and it explains the deep seated issues my abuser had since childhood. Alot of family behaviors go way back there and they conspire to keep secrets. Good luck

Answer 4

you would have to go see a therapist...the only thing i could suggest.
im 24 N i can still remember most of what my cousin (who was 17 at the time) did to me N I was 5...it took me 14yrs to tell my mother be/c i kept all that bottled up N it was eating me up inside...i found out that he had done it to my sister before me that day.

Still, to this day...i dont speak to him at family functions...i dont even want to look at him...cant forget that night N definately cant forgive him either...be/c he was old enough to know that what he did was wrong.

Answer 5

The answer is Jesus Christ! He is the only one that can erase and heal your hearth from the terrible situation you passed. I recomend you find a good christian church and ask for help... You'll see He is the answer

Answer 6

Go see a therapist is probably the only way..