Adult Women only please?

Question

this is very personal but i need help. Im fairly new to sex so after my first time, i was told by one of my girl friends that i should douce(or however u spell it). Ok so i did that and now ive had sex a couple more times and im having problems "getting wet". I only douced one time but after that i dont know what went wrong. I feel fine down there but "getting wet" is a problem for me now. Please Help because this is killing my sex life.

Answer 1

Don't ever douche. It isn't necessary and will cause you a lot of problems. You can use K-Y Jelly for the dryness. You also need to make an appointment with a gynecologist so you can take care of yourself. They gynecologist will also advise you NOT to douche. Good luck. 2D

Answer 2

The vagina is a natural cleansing area. You should never douche unless it's advised by a doctor for medicinal reasons, like for an infection or irritation. You might have upset your body's ph balance by douching too much which could affect your natural lubrication. The other reason may be not enough foreplay. But for right now I would stop the douching and use a lubricant like KY jelly during sex to avoid any possible abrasions caused by dry sex. Make sure you lover is patient enough to give you the foreplay you need to create your own natural lubricant. Lots of kissing and fondling before the clothes come off should give you plenty of time to get "ready". If you still have problems I would visit your doctor.

Answer 3

Douching is really only useful if you are having a particularly heavy period, so you don't need to do it after everytime you have sex, or at all for that matter. If you need extra lubrication, the best stuff is ID Glide, and can be found at adult stores and online. It's nice because it is washes off with just water and lasts a long time. Also, if you are using condoms, it is possible that you have a latex allergy if you notice the dryness getting worse when you use them.

Answer 4

First, stop stressing about this. Stress will distract you and can keep you from self lubricating if you are focused on it. Second, you can use a lubrication like KY to help. Third, is your partner spending enough time with foreplay to get you in the mood and excited? It seems as though guys can be pretty much ready for sex at the drop of a hat (or the drop of your pants), but women need stimulation. He needs to kiss you, caress you, rub you...whatever turns you on. Try experimenting with different touches before plunging into the intercourse part. Have him caress, rub, massage different parts of your body. Spend time and enjoy the touching, kissing part first. That should relax you and put you in the mood. Then go for it!

Answer 5

I douched for years, but only after my monthly cycle had finished; I never had an infection of any kind. (why would stores sell douche kits if it was harmful?)

The "wet" you need is your body's indication it is ready for you to have intercourse.

You and your BF may need to institute more foreplay. You can go to a specialty shop or pharmacy and get a warming lubricant, and this could really make a change. Use the lubricant during foreplay, you may notice a difference.

Answer 6

Stay away from douching! Vaginal douching changes the delicate chemical balance of the vagina and can make a woman more susceptible to infections. Douching can introduce new bacteria into the vagina which can spread up through the cervix, uterus, and fallopian tubes. Researchers have found that women who douche regularly experience more vaginal irritations and infections such as bacterial vaginosis, and an increased number of sexually transmitted diseases. Your body will 'clean itself out' naturally, no need to manually do the job yourself.

For the 'dry' problem, I reccomend using lubrication. Many women use it and find to serve the purpose at hand.

Answer 7

I really don't think douching is a good idea, it upsets the natural balance of bacteria and lubrications. This won't have affected you long term though, chances are it's psychological.
Once your'e aware that there might be a problem, you're tensing up and not enjoying it. Try to forget about it, I know it's easier said than done, but I don't think there's a physical problem here.

Answer 8

Douching is not safe, it introduces new bacteria to the vagina. Douching puts you more at risk for std's and other vaginal problems.

"These women also have a 73% increased risk of developing pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). PID is a chronic infectious disease affecting the cervix, uterus, ovaries, and the fallopian tubes that can cause severe pelvic pain and can lead to infertility." (source below)

My dear, don't ever douche again. The vagina cleans itself. If you feel like you need to, warm water and gentle, unscented soap. Using Summers Eve, and other feminine cleaning products isn't safe either. If she told you to douche in order to prevent pregnancy, she is wrong. You have the same risk of getting pregnant. Always be safe and protected!

Hope I helped!

Answer 9

Douching is very old school and most doctors no longer recommend it. The vagina is self-cleaning. Try some KY-Jelly, you can get it at the grocery store or your local drug store without a prescription.

Answer 10

Don't douche honey. That kills cells in your vagina that are used to keep your vagina clean naturally. You will have a discharge that pushes out the unclean-ness of your vagina, if that sounds right. Douching isn't necessary. Ask your doctor, he/she will tell you the same thing. You need help with dryness, try KY Jelly (NO vasiline). Also, try foreplay longer. Sometimes you attempt intercourse too soon and it makes it harder. :)