I am a girl, and i am not girly, i was always a tom boy since i was young, and now i dress nicely but i still act really guyish. And i know this sounds weird, but whenever people refer to me as 'she' it kind of catches me off guard. Its as if i see myself as a boy. Like when i am around a real girly girl i feel the need to act 'gentlemenly'. But at the same rate i like boys. And when i am attracted to girls i feel like i am a guy like them. But i like boys more. Why do i thnk like this? And then somedays i feel like a girl, like i like purses and shoes, but a lot of the time its me liking cars and sports, i even sit with my knees wide apart. I feel like i am both a guy and a girl, but mostly a guy with personality and mostly a girl sexually. I got tested for testosterone and i was normal. Why do i think like this?
2007-09-13 08:46:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's called being androgynous.
2007-09-13 08:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by Infamous Twit 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd feel kind of like by kissing this new guy I was cheating on the person I used to be with. Especially if it was your first love. You probably haven't moved on quite yet. You guys just need to take it slow or take a break. Maybe you need time alone to figure yourself out.
2016-04-04 19:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably no good answer for you. All I can say is, be yourself, do what feels the most comfortable for you. Many girls find themselves attracted to other girls, and to guys as well. It sounds as though you're questioning your sexuality, and as you mature more you may find more definite answers. Sorry I probably didn't help much. But you may email me if you'd like.
wdrahozal@yahoo.com
if you have further questions.
2007-09-13 09:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by wd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexuality and gender identity are two separate issues... deal with each one as such. Bottom line though is that you're only searching your own feelings so that you can come to some sort of "answer"... so that maybe you can pursue dating and friends ... but ultimately... you are YOU.. however you dress... however you act... and whoever you love... you're unique and that's cool... don't try to "fit in".. a "one of a kind" is always better than "off the rack"...
2007-09-13 08:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Past life????????? Who knows. I've known tomboys, who married, and were more of a man than their husbands, just dominate. So dominate some fem guy and live happily ever after, or stay in the closet be miserable.
2007-09-13 09:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not think like that?
accept yourself for who you are and get comfortable in your skin.
when you meet someone that you have a mutual attraction for don't worry if that person is a girl or a guy --- just enjoy the attraction and be happy
2007-09-13 08:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by jj raider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are transgender and were meant to be a boy who is sexually attracted to men.
Bottom line: be yourself, and don't let anyone tell you how to act and who to be with.
2007-09-13 09:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by newtobigd78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all unique. A little of this and that defies one size fits all. I is good you are curious about who you are. Good luck, because we all change with time and circumstance.
2007-09-13 09:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by m z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its jus the way ur made it`d b a poor world if ev 1 was the same
2007-09-13 08:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by tasty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept yourself however it may be and dont worry about why. Unless this really bothers you then you should go talk to a therapist. You shouldn't worry about it!
2007-09-13 08:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by sd_mex_chic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋