Being a senior, I have not had to confront this issue, but I want to offer condolences to anyone who has.
My question is, do you agree that it is the most devastating loss one could have?
2007-09-13 08:41:09 · 14 answers · asked by makeitright 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Yes the loss of a child is the most devastating experience a parent could possibly suffer.
My own brother and his wife lost their 8 month old baby over 20 years ago. They have 3 more children that they dearly love but that has never made their loss any easier.
We lost our only child 5 years ago, he was 33. Believe me we were devastated. What ever age your child dies it will always be your greatest loss ever!
I have to tell myself, I was very lucky to have my son for enough years to have wondeful memories of him. My little niece never had the chance to grow to be old enough for my my brother and his wife to collect many memories of their daughter. x
2007-09-13 12:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 08:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my place in life right now I think I would be more devastated by losing my parents. My kids are in their 20's and seem to be on the right road. On the other hand, I have become extremely close to my parents in the last several years. My dad is in mid to late stage PD. I work with him at his home twice a week helping him in the yard and with home repairs and whatever he wants done. He - and my mom - have taught me so much, and I love the way that they do things, many are the same ways of their parents. I have so much to learn from them! The more I learn from them, the more I can pass on to my children.
2007-09-13 10:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 14, but it sounds like the loss of a child is devastating to a family
2007-09-13 11:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Prove god, then we'll talk. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only one son and the thought alone breaks me down.
My sister was murdered at a young age and my parents, usually strong minded, couldn't think straight. They were zombies. My older sister took on the arrangement tasks for them because they were too devastated. I saw my father was stronger with the arrangements for my mother when she passed away years later. No child should go before their parents.
2007-09-13 09:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wickwire 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say it's one of the top two. But I'm not sure how it compares to losing a spouse. It might depend on the circumstances.
If you only have one kid, that'd increase the relative degree of the loss of the child. But if you have lots of kids, then losing one wouldn't be as big of a deal, but losing your spouse would still be as big of a deal.
If you lose the kid when it's young, that might be a bigger deal than if you lose the kid when it's older.
If you're able to function independently, then losing a spouse would be less of a big deal then if you rely on them heavily.
Also, the ratio of losing a child to losing your spouse might be higher for women then it is for men. Or it might be higher for men than for women. I'm not sure. That probably depends on other things too.
Also, losing one of your parents when you're very young might be the most significant of all, if only because you aren't as well equipped to handle it. But certainly, once you grow up, losing a parent wouldn't be as big of a deal as losing a child.
2007-09-13 11:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree it has to be the most painful thing to experience. I don't think we are ever too old for this to devastate us.
2007-09-13 08:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Although I haven't suffered the loss of one of my children, I can't begin to imagine how it must feel. My heart goes out to any parent that has suffered such a loss. Good luck. 2D
2007-09-13 08:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by 2D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really is. My oldest and good friend had to deal with the sudden death of her youngest son when he was only 18. He was on his motorcycle , it was the first thing he bought when he started working.A car turned left in front of him and it was raining so he didn't have a chance.
2007-09-13 09:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Donna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a death of anyone breaks my heart. i currently have a friend battling leuchemia and it is scary to know that you can be with someone and both be enjoying yourself one day and one of you could be gone the next. a death of anyone you love is heart rending, no one loss is worse than the other. you just have to hope that they are fine after they leave.
2007-09-13 13:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by frogman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋